Hooks tries to address women-social conditions, feminism, man-woman relationships, self-perception in women, and patriarchal morality used to groom women in society. Her penetrating words silence our fears about becoming women who love too much, yet they also challenge us. Ich bin recht unvoreingenommen an dieses Buch gegangen, da es für mich das erste Buch von bell hooks war. kendisinin de kitapta bahsettiği " hetoroseksüel bir feminist kadının erkek partneri ile yaşadığı cinsel alandaki özgürlük, hayır deme hakkı üzerine yazılmış makale bulamazsınız ama bu sıkıntıları yaşayan feminist kadınlar vardı ama kimse bahsetmedi" gibi durumları ve buna benzer örnekleri anlatarak hayat pratiğinin içinden anlatmaya çalışması feminizmi benim için değerli kılıyor kitaplarını ve kendisini. In her trademark commanding and lucid language, hooks explores the ways ideas about women and love were changed by feminist movement, by women's full participation in the workforce, and by the culture of self-help.

The voice of bell hooks rings with moral rectitude, but it is also a voice that is full of kindness, openness, and wholehearted forgiveness. As Andrea Dworkin consistently points out, regarding rape culture and the patriarchy, the message of sexualized violence, no matter what horrifying thing is being done to any individual woman, is always crystal clear: "She wants it. As women have changed our minds about aging, no longer seeing it as negative, we have begun to think differently about the meaning of love in midlife.she empowered women to take accountability and to put in the work to find and create meaningful, mutual love. She challenged the widely-accepted cultural idea that women are innately more loving than men, and highlighted how toxic gender roles are often still performed even within queer relationships. She encourages the open discussion of these questions and the critique of veteran feminist/gender literature, to give room for nuanced ideas that are beneficial to a new generation. Freedom only comes when she realizes her value and appreciates herself instead of waiting for substantiation from a man.

It’s not until page 88 that she tells us what she thinks love is (mostly paraphrasing someone else), and then she’s glad to leave it at one sentence, and none of the components (such as respect, trust, responsibility, knowledge) are elaborated on. A thinking women’s (and man’s) valentine, a fitting conclusion to hooks’ groundbreaking work on love in American life. Duygu Yoldaşlığı, sevgi yokluğunun çocukluktan itibaren bizi hangi yaralarla tanıştırdığı ve şu andan itibaren bunu nasıl daha farklı yorumlayacağımızı dair, okuduğum en iyi feminist metinlerden biri. Like refusing sex with her male partner for a long period of time, encouraging him to see other people, and not going into that for us to have a better idea of how she reached her thoughts on it. Este libro les dará ideas, así como les ofrecerá técnicas para usar el patriarcado en su propio beneficio.This book is a must for anyone who has ever found it difficult dealing with a man who doesn't express his emotions, and for anyone who hates 'Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars' type thinking! Perhaps it used to be even less cool, but with so many people these days thinking that equality has been achieved, or even that we’ve gone too far, and with many of the “visible” problems that early feminists addressed seemingly on the way out, bolding proclaiming your feminism today has the potential of making you seem even more out of touch than it did in the 60s or 70s. She discusses the importance of loving yourself before you can love anyone else, and the fact that love cannot exist in patriarchal relationships. Though feminist rhetoric has supported female sexual liberation, Hooks warns about the slippery slope between women filling the unfulfilled spaces of their lives with sexual voraciousness.

I liked this book even though I don’t think it was as groundbreaking or tightly argued as her books The Will to Change or All About Love. Females easily endorse a mind-body split that lets us cultivate the false assumption that we can hate our bodies and still be loving…the culture lets us get away with thinking that we can hate our bodies and still be seen as the group most capable of teaching others about love. It didn't give me the same feeling of power/energy to love like All About Love did—what were my illusions? Nothing was more frightening to women who wanted to be with men than a feminist movement exposing the depths of male contempt and disregard for the female sex. By using the Web site, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to be bound by the Terms and Conditions.

Many single successful women in midlife feel there are few places where we can talk openly about our desire to have loving partnerships without being seen as desperate or, worse, as needing pity.

at the same time, let's also rejoice that intersectional feminist thought has moved beyond the gender binary and heteronormative language that makes this book feel so dated. Conclusión, aquellas feministas que exigen compartir tareas al 50% pero no comparten gastos al 50% son las feministas más listas (y las más espabiladas, también). From girlhood on, we learn that conversations about love are a gendered narrative, a female subject. She discusses the false idea that women are naturally more loving, showing how this is part of patriarchy, and argues that everyone can (and must) learn to love, optimally beginning in childhood. Antipatriarchal thinking, which assumes that both women and men are equally capable of learning how to love, of giving and receiving love, is the only foundation on which to construct sustained, meaningful, mutual love.Otra muy buena es cuando explica que su pareja debe tener muy claro que si ella no quiere tener relaciones sexuales, incluso durante meses, está en su derecho. I had the same critique of Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good, in that I think that book needed a more nuanced discussion of the practice of BDSM.