Whether you're in a monogamous relationship or have multiple partners, it's important to get regular STI tests. Two cisgender women or vulva-having people in a couple do not need to worry about unwanted pregnancy. If you're having anal sex of any kind, be sure to use an anal specific lube as these tend to be thicker and longer-lasting.

Also known as manual sex, fingering is a term used to refer to when someone stimulates the other’s vulva, clitoris, vagina or anus using their fingers or hands.We know not just women have vulvas and vaginas (some transgender and non-binary people do, too), and that not all women and people with vulvas who have sex with other women and people with vulvas identify as lesbians (they may identify as queer, bisexual, or pansexual, for example). Hearst UK is the trading name of the National Magazine Company Ltd, 30 Panton Street, Leicester Square, London, SW1Y 4AJ.

She adds, 'As much as this sounds like it might be painful, with lots of lubrication and being careful, it can result in a feeling of fullness without pain and be very satisfying. If it’s your first time having sex with a woman or someone with a vulva, Dr Bisbey says you should treat it like you would having sex of any kind for the first time.After using them, either wash them with warm water and fragrance-free soap or with a sex toy cleaner. Just like with sex that involves people of any gender, the definition is fluid and depends on the individuals. When engaging in fingering or fisting, Dr Bisbey recommends wearing gloves as this can reduce the risk of STI transmission.

If you’ve ever watched lesbian porn, you could be forgiven for thinking scissoring is all women and vagina-havers do when they have sex with each other. You cannot make assumptions about what people will like sexually based on what kind of genitals they have. They can be placed over the vulva or anus during oral sex to create a protective barrier and reduce the risk of STIs. She says, ‘lots of kissing, erotic massage and BDSM play (spanking, flogging, restraints and blindfolds)’ can all be part of a queer person’s sexual repertoire.For people with a vulva having sex with another person with a vulva, sex can be mutual oral sex,’ says Dr Lori Beth Bisbey, a sex and intimacy coach and psychologist for Ferly.