I needn’t have worried though, as Master Boudoir, the club’s impeccably dressed host, had already prepared a special treat for us – personalised vodka bottles. How it impacted her relationship:“It’s really helped strengthen our relationship. Not all experiences were 100 percent pleasurable, so we made an effort to have those conversations and keep the lines of communication open. When you talk about [swinging] it makes it so much easier to discuss other issues in the relationship.” Hearst UK is the trading name of the National Magazine Company Ltd, 30 Panton Street, Leicester Square, London, SW1Y 4AJ. Registered in England. All Rights Reserved. Meanwhile in the two prison cells, one of which has a sex swing, two couples are having sex as the whole room watches.

For the people being interviewed the decision to get into swinging was very much a mutual decision between both partners. How she got into it:“Depending on the state of each relationship and my boundaries with different partners, I had different experiences. In the beginning, when I was younger, it felt awkward based on my inability to be assertive about my wants and needs. It felt more like that group sex stereotype that you might see on TV or in porn… and definitely more male pleasure-centered.” How it impacted her relationship:“I’ve never been tempted to stray outside of my relationship by having an affair. Swinging takes care of all of my sex needs. I really feel that it strengthens every relationship. I don’t view sex as something that you only have with someone you love. Sex is recreational. I think every boyfriend I’ve had has felt the same way. Along the way, I started filming myself with various people and decided to take my swinging/exhibitionist/kinky lifestyle and make it full time. I guess you could say that swinging has enriched my relationships and also enriched my life.” While some viewers praised the show as “wonderfully honest” and “very eye-opening,” others weren’t so impressed. My first time was at the Hacienda in Brooklyn. Hacienda is a house, so it's a very social space —- at least, that has been my experience since I go to smaller parties where there is food prepared by a chef, an outdoor space where people talk, and play areas.While the swingers we know might not be displaying a banner saying “swingers looking to party” in their front yard, that doesn’t mean it’s completely impossible to identify clues and signs that your next-door neighbors just might be in the lifestyle. Signs to help identify swingers

The thing is that can be true sometimes because all types of people like to swing,” Megan said. “(It’s) people wanting to explore their sexuality with each other in a couple situation.” The building used to be a bank, and owners of Le Boudoir have kept many of the original fittings, including the vault which, coincidentally, is home to the dungeon. From secret dungeons to splendid multi-million pound townhouses accompanied by oysters and champagne on arrival, to funky, sexy venues, spas, or even casual settings – the idea of what to expect of a sex party is changing rapidly,’ she says. What happens at sex parties? We have friends who’ve attempted to use colorful lawn ornaments or exotic plants in an attempt to send self-identifying smoke signals to others in the lifestyle. Cuffs says that people outside the BDSM community are often surprised to learn that most fetish or kink parties actually limit penetration, oral play, and, in some cases, even heavy petting. What are some tips for a first-time sex party attendee?How she got into it:“I grew up with this idea that there’s not just one person for anyone and that we can enjoy being with multiple people, as well as the idea that you can have sex without having emotion tied to it. My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club.” The only negative part of the experience was that despite the mischievous mood, as a single woman in a sea of sex offers, I still felt as an outsider, watching couples make love. I sit down and take in the view: there are several couples having sex in front of me, while to my left there’s a woman orgasming as her lover plays with her.

Don’t forget Every other Sunday we have…..’Super Sexy Sunday’ 4pm to 10pm Dress down is on entry to get the Sexy Fun going! Through meeting and exploring sex with other couples, learning new peoples’ bodies and preferences can help you become more aware of your own and your partner’s as a result, says Morse. That self-awareness piece (and knowledge of your partner) is key here. If either of you tend to experience jealousy intensely, then swinging could potentially be a challenge for your relationship, according to Morse. Once you’ve established what jealousy looks like or doesn’t look like for you as a couple, you can move on to thinking about swinging more seriously. “From there, you and your partner may find you even strengthen your communication and trust, and build an even more solid foundation upon which to have sexy adventures,” says Morse.Prospective members can apply for a membership on their first visit and will be approved or rejected within 48 hours. Purple Mamba describes itself as: "The Midland's most intimate, exclusive private club for liberated adults." In the middle of Leicester city centre, this is a modern club for experimental couples and singles. Her advice to those considering the lifestyle:“For couples who are considering it, we suggest that you better have a really good relationship starting out because it doesn’t fix broken relationships, it only breaks them up faster. Also, you need to have conversations with your spouse or partner before you go into it. Know your rules and limits before you get into a situation because you can’t really get upset with your partner if you didn’t talk about.” Jody was introduced to swinging five years ago and is currently single. She loves her work as a sex coach and says if it weren’t for swinging, she wouldn’t be where she is now. Typically they last for one night – as per any usual nightclub party – and are laid out pretty much like any nightclub,’ says Di Mattos. ‘There is a bar, a DJ area and a dance floor. The difference is that you will see a few designated areas famously called ‘playrooms’ where people can have sex.’

Overall, the crowd is friendly – the seedy element that I’d expected isn’t present – but that’s not to say there’s not a lot of kinky sex, most of which takes place on the top floor.First timers at the club photo id required. Dress down on entry– All welcome – Buffet provided. Please call for more info. The club includes a hot tub and a fetish room and they also host a variety of different nights including single nights, a masked ball, and a kinksters soiree. Saturday 16th December – Beard & Bum’s Party Night – Christmas Theme ( Guest list applies ) If it’s your first visit to the No3 please call Mary on the club number for details..