Also as I said the title’s a trap, the author does not hate men, in-fact she is clearly very much obsessed by men and that too, in a very unhealthy way. The whole book is nothing but a collection of her thoughts which are just about kissing hot men??!! Was that supposed to be sarcastic? Because I so did not get the humour. I found it NOT AT ALL FUNNY. The writing is also extremely dry and repetitive and ohh so boring. When too many men are monopolizing the headlines with their reprehensible behavior, Roberson takes a closer look at the system that breeds and normalizes this bad behavior, and guides us through the perils of dating -- from crushes to break-ups -- with a healthy dose of heart, humor, and feminism." -- PAPER Magazine It is entirely men's and the patriarchy's fault that she likes to stare at good-looking men. In fact, her staring at and drooling over good-looking man is one of the ways she is being oppressed. While she is criticizing men when they stare at and drool over women because that is objectification.

Did you know that all the problems in the world are caused by men? Yup. And if you don't agree, you're part of the problem either because you're stupid or because the patriarchy has brainwashed you. *rolls eyes* given the title it's obv very heterocentric although she does occasionally mention pieces of advice from her gay friends. She's also not really trying to do anything universal.To feel joyful about love, you have to feel that you’ve opted into it, not that you’ve been forced to participate in it.” (pg. 19) Men oppress us; we also want to smooch them. Blythe manages to not only laugh at the pain of holding these two truths at once, but to find meaning, inspiration and empowerment in it. I’ve brought this book up in 1,000 conversations since I read it." - Hallie Bateman, illustrator of What to Do When I'm Gone Why did I read a book with such a title? Because the blurp and the fact that the author writes for The Onion promised a satirical take on all the funny things we silly humans do during courtship. This doesn’t excuse cheating. I’m talking about developing crushes on multiple people when you’re not in a committed relationship. I guess the question is: can we have more than one crush? I mean, if boys can do it, so can we. Don’t force it. Meanwhile, men are finally learning that it’s actually not cool to act like giant, predatory chodes to every female-presenting human they encounter. Listen, I don’t feel sympathy for men who ruin women’s lives because they decide they have a right to the body, time, or labor of any woman they want. But I can understand why the average man might feel unsteady and confused, seeing as all media and authority figures have told them their whole lives that it was fine for them to behave in a certain way, a way that doesn’t really take female agency or interiority or personhood into consideration. Men read a lot of J. D. Salinger and grew up on Annie Hall, I get it! Please, men, have a seat in my cacti-and-throw-pillow-strewn salon and take a read on how it feels to love from the other side of things. Use it as a template for how to love women and how to flirt and be sexual in a way that won’t ruin women’s lives, or—and this is such a recent possibility—your life! Learn how the algorithm we’ve been coded into works, and help us change it.

With biting wit, Roberson explores the dynamics of heterosexual dating in the age of #MeToo." -- The New York Times In addition to giving total and complete validation to my obsessions with Timothée Chalamet, Riverdale, and Harry Styles’ solo album, Blythe made me laugh out loud, nod my head in aggressive agreement, and then text all my friends about how much fun I was having reading this book.

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This book has been broken up into sections within each chapter. There are some quotes that stood out to me the most, so I included them too. T his is what I got out of it: Dating should bring you JOY.

I think about men all the time. About how they, individually (Donald Trump) and as a group, are oppressing me. And about how they, individually (Timothée Chalamet) and as a group, are very hot. And also: how spending so much time thinking about how they, as a group, are hot … is probably oppressing me. Unsure what else to do about it, I've written this book. Roberson's achievement in remaining funny while excavating her pain is just straightforwardly heroic." -- The New Republic All in all, the author seems to be VERY shallow and her writing equally superficial - which feeds the very machine she has been complaining about. Pseudo-intellectual bullshit meant to make women feel more empowered.Blythe Roberson’s sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? The title is also misleading because at no point does she actually reveal how she dates men, that I can tell. She talks about relationships where she thinks she might be dating someone, but they claim there is no dating happening. A lot. From New Yorker and Onion writer and comedian Blythe Roberson, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a comedy philosophy book aimed at interrogating what it means to date men within the trappings of modern society. Blythe Roberson's sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? For example, if you want to be an adventurous person who jumps out of planes or, less drastically, who willingly moves to another state for a job without knowing anyone, date someone who’s like that. They’ll inspire you to step outside of your comfort zone. Or, if you want to be a kinder and more loving person, date someone with those attributes and they’ll show you the ropes.

She was also able to accurately write about dating amidst the structural power of the patriarchy, while not completely ignoring her privilege as a white woman. Still, to this day, I always that if I developed a crush on a guy, I couldn’t develop a crush on anyone else. I should tell you, dear reader, that as I write this, I am also texting a boy to tell him how I’m talking to someone else and feel weird talking to more than one person. (Yes, I could’ve ghosted, but that also makes me feel weird.)

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How to Date Men When You Hate Men is one of the funniest books I’ve read in a long time. Blythe Roberson does a fantastic job describing the universal frustration with dating and finding “the one.” If you are a female identified person who happens to have dated, currently dates, or wants to date men, there’s something in this book for you. If you are none of those things there is probably still something in this book for you.