Surrounded by Idiots ( Omgiven Av Idioter) is a Swedish runaway bestseller, selling more than 1 million copies in Sweden alone. However, once time saw my rage die down, this book read more like a guy ranting about narcissists than actually providing any evidence-based information or coping strategies.

When they step back and look at these relationships honestly, they see narcissism all around them and they have no idea what to do. For the last 18 years he has been travelling all over Europe delivering lectures and seminars in Swedish and English to executives and managers at a wide range of companies, including IKEA, Coca Cola, Microsoft, Volvo and KIA Motors. With the help of the simple, four-color behavioral model made famous in Surrounded by Idiots , Erikson provides all the tools you need to manage not just the narcissists around you but everyday narcissistic behaviors as well–something that is becoming more widespread in the age of social media. I don’t usually read books that are nonfiction during the school year, but I made an exception for this book and I am glad I did.Even his "examples" of narcissistic behavior are based entirely on a fictional character that he created. In addition, the book discusses various ways to defend yourself against narcissistic people and to help you thrive in your environments.

She texted me out of the blue and said we are going to stop giving Christmas presents but will give birthday presents since things are getting so expensive. million copies worldwide, of which over 750,000 copies have been sold in Sweden alone, and it has been translated into 36 languages. These people lack empathy, outrageously self-centred and love to make you question your own self-esteem. Internationally bestselling author Thomas Erikson shares the secrets of dealing with everyday narcissists.The first ~50% of the book is mostly repeated (sometimes 1:1) from Surrounded by Psychopaths so, in the beginning, I didn't have much hope for this book. For instance, think of the message of Rhonda Byrne’s best seller, The Secret, which was published in 2006. With the help of the behavioural model made famous in Surrounded by Idiots, Erikson provides all the tools you need to manage not just the narcissists around you but everyday narcissism as well - itself becoming more widespread in this age of social media. First, I’ll give you information about the book, give you a synopsis, provide key takeaways, and then conclude.

A decade ago, there was a scientific study on collective narcissism, which involved some participants from the US. Largely dealt with in silence, the harm narcissistic people cause in public and private spheres impacts all of us. For instance, the last part of the book discusses collective narcissism, which isn’t a usual topic when talking about narcissists. Ask your partner to recognize that your needs or opinions may be different from theirs: You may not always agree with my point of view, but that doesn’t mean I’m wrong.So if you’re worried about being manipulated, try to draw other people into the conversation rather than talk to the narcissist one-on-one.

Cheating, lying, manipulating, gaslighting, love bombing, playing mind games – all of these harmful behaviors can damage people’s mental health. Thomas Erikson’s entertaining and spot-on descriptions of human behavior has made his books in the Surrounded by book series a global phenomenon and a bestselling success. I was also interested to read some of the authors thoughts on social media, and the current generation. Do not take this as the be all and end all of NPD and I encourage you to read one of the many books on this topic authored by someone with a degree in counseling and treating mental health issues.

Surrounded by Narcissists by Thomas Erikson provides insight into recognizing and avoiding toxic behaviors in others. In any relationship, a narcissist uses very specific strategies to control you, and the conversation about them, so they appear brilliant at all times.