In this book, the author has laid down five easy-to-follow approaches to a happy and successful life. If you are willing to read just one self-help book - this is the one. Especially if you prefer advice on how to find out what you like and why you are better off behaving in a certain way, to 'just so' statements about beliefs you must adopt and the way you should think-feel-behave to achieve a specific goal / way of life some guru says is best. ACT) آشنا می‌کند که اگر بخواهم خیلی خیلی خلاصه بگویم هدفش رسیدن به انعطاف پذیری روان‌شناختی است که با تمسک به شش استراتژی می‌توانیم به این مهم دست یابیم.

Urge surfing: urge arises, two choices: act upon it or don't. Thus, once aware of an urge, ask yourself, "If I act on this urge, will I be acting like the person I want to be? Will it help take my life in the direction I want to go?" If adventure has a final and all-embracing motive, it is surely this: we go out because it is our nature to go out, to climb mountains, and to paddle rivers, to fly to the planets and plunge into the depths of the oceans. When man ceases to do these things, he is no longer man.”– Wilfrid Noyce The Happiness Trail” has delivered online creative writing and drama workshops – all about promoting everyone who visits to take time to work on their happiness – just as you would work on your diet or fitness. It is not about saying you must be happy all the time because this pressure can be toxic. It’s about trying to find the right balance of happiness & self care whilst fulfilling commitments of work & family. It’s about accepting happiness is unique to all & forever changing however people will only know our happiness if we discuss with those around us. Recognizing it’s unreal to be happy all the time and to take time to find out what helps you to begin to reroute yourself towards happiness. Connection: Staying fully aware of the present moment and letting yourself experience the present moment with openness, interest, and receptivenessThe main reasons for heading to the trails (at least for me as a trail runner!) are experiencing nature, health and happiness. Trail running can also be about challenging yourself, for example in races. There’s a small active group of more or less goal-oriented trail runners who participate in races in Finland. The number of races throughout the year is growing fast, and the competitions are often sold out in just hours or minutes. The trails go through the most beautiful sceneries in the country, from wilderness to more urban areas, and vary from short to ultradistances. Trail running events would be great for connecting with the community, but so far, I’ve been happy running just by myself and my own trails, and it has still been a journey that has truly challenged myself both physically and mentally. So, races or no races, great time awaits on trails! The idea that emotions control your actions is a very powerful illusion.... If we consciously bring our awareness to how we are feeling and consciously observe how we're behaving, then no matter how intense our emotions are, we can still control our actions.... You can't stop yourself from feeling angry or afraid, but you certainly can control how you behave. Walk away quietly in any direction and taste the freedom of the mountaineer. Camp out among the grasses and gentians of glacial meadows, in craggy garden nooks full of nature’s darlings. Climb the mountains and get their good tidings, Nature’s peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The wind will blow their own freshness into you and the storms their energy while cares will drop off like autumn leaves. As age comes on one source of enjoyment after another is closed but nature’s sources never fail.”– John Muir More Hiking Blogs & Inspiration

I agree with the central theory. Humans naturally and inevitably experience a whole range of emotion, including distressing emotion, and it’s much healthier to remain in a non-judgmental, accepting place as opposed to getting all wrapped up in futile attempts to push unpleasant emotion away (bottling) or simply letting it consume and paralyze you (dwelling). Aprender los principios de la ACT y aplicarlos no es tarea fácil. En ese sentido, para seguir el libro completamente se requiere tiempo y dedicación. Pero más allá de la presentación de una destreza, pienso que el libro trata de transmitir una filosofía de vida, basada no en el disfrute sino en la aceptación, que puede hacer de la vida una experiencia más completa. El aprendizaje más destacado que haría de este libro es: si aceptamos los pensamientos o sentimientos negativos, dejamos que estén ahí y vayan y vengan a su antojo, a lo mejor no vamos a ser más felices, pero podremos conectar mejor con el presente. En ese sentido, el rótulo que la editorial ha añadido "Deja de sufrir, comienza a vivir", me parece totalmente inadecuado y poco representativo de los contenidos de este libro.I don’t think most people believe THESE myths. I think they believe truths that are very closely related to these that get twisted. But the second half of the book, either Harris got less annoying or either I learnt to look past my annoyances, because Harris starts to make clear that control strategies that do not harm you are not bad and that you should try whatever works for you and let go of the parts that don’t help. And although I haven’t experienced some major change in my life (yet), there is a truth to most parts of ACT, especially that connecting to your values and taking action accordingly will help you create a more meaningful life. I also think it’s true that we shouldn’t always want to fight bad feelings and just let them be instead. But there are some areas in life where I don’t think ACT is enough. I still believe that if I have certain bad thoughts, I should argue with them; not because I want to control them or believe I can’t handle them otherwise, but because in some situations “acceptance” is not the solution. Moreover, I believe that this also lies within ACT — when you have an unhelpful thought or urge and think about whether it brings you closer to your values, isn’t this a form of “helpful” arguing with yourself? Try telling a victim of rape or severe domestic violence, for instance, to “just make space” for their anger and shame and trauma. Or telling a grieving wife who lost her husband of 60 years and is now potentially homeless with no support that she should “accept” her fear and heartache and helplessness. I suppose that ACT might be appropriate after some time has passed and folks like this are experiencing more stability, but I also think that there are some things that need deeper exploration than ACT can offer.

In this book the author talks about just that and how we can be happier. This book talks about the 5 I's that can make us live happier: integrity, interact, involve, imbibe, impact. The 2021 report on happiness has devised a metric called Well-Being-Adjusted Life-Years (or WELLBYs) for individuals and nations, which could provide one entry point to challenge the dominance of economic growth-based approaches to policy. WELLBYs marry well-being (from any reason) to the length of life and among other things assign a lower than usual value to money compared to the number of years one lives. The trail is a temporary feature and as nature changes so to does the exhibition – birds, slugs & spiders are visiting the trail so why don’t you?It’s worth it in the end. - That is my first thought that describes this book. When I began this book I did not enjoy it. Honestly, it annoyed me. The end of the book is great. It teaches how to make real change that brings real happiness. Happiness comes from living according to your values. He urges us to spend REAL time discovering our values. Not our goals, or what society tells us to care about, but what we REALLY care about. Figure those values out, then set immediate, short medium, and long term goals that are congruent with your values. The advice is based on a third wave CBT approach (more behavioral than cognitive) called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). If you are looking for an in depth discussion of the psychological theory and relevant research see the second edition (2011) of ACT by Hayes, Strosahl and Wilson. If you're interested in its philosophical basis see Hayes, Barnes-Holmes and Rocheand (2001) - Relational Frame Theory. Those books are not easy to read. I don't recommend them as a starting point even for professionals new to ACT, and they are completely unnecessary for readers interested in self-help. The Observing Self: Bringing a pure awareness in which you observe your challenging, unpleasant thoughts and feelings without being hurt by them or subsumed by them