People try not to stare too blatantly but they can’t help it. A ridiculously hot person has emerged with the face of a Greek god and the body of a porn star. They may instantly disappear into a cabin with the next hottest person. But sometimes they’ll cruise around basking in a superior aura. You can try but it’s probably not going to happen. It was a wise choice. The masseur, a serious man of few words, was beefy and confident. Over the course of the hour, he found ways to unknot nearly every nerve and muscle in my body. When he finished, he helped me off the table, my muscles almost like jelly. Relaxed? I had never in my life felt so loose. And there was nothing, absolutely nothing, embarrassing about it. He is turned-off by normal sexual activity and accuses you of being oversexed, aggressive, or a nymphomaniac when you have normal sexual needs. While your therapist won’t mind a few toots, they understandably don’t want a gas bomb going off in the typically small massage room. So if you’ve got a lot of gas or need to use the bathroom, it’s okay to pause the session and visit the restroom. Same thing goes for needing to pee, or simply blow your nose. It’s okay to call a timeout. Tantric Soul, gay massage service located in central London. With a reputation as London’s best-reviewed, most luxurious tantric massage company, their gay massage services excel in every way and are the best you’ll find on the scene. You will find their masseurs are intelligent, perceptive, kind and sensitive, and have stringent and rigorous vetting criteria to ensure that only the finest men lay their strong, powerful hands on you.

However the next morning, when I made note of the fact that we had done something, he claimed to not remember anything. The only thing he recalled is having a great dream about a hot time with a girl. He kept this up for a while, and I dropped it. A couple months later he came to me and asked me if we had done anything that night. I assured him we did, and he once again stated he truly did not know. We are still in one another's circles, however we are not as close as we once were.Some people will walk around the maze waiting for Leonardo DiCaprio or Matt Bomer to show up. They may eventually manage their expectations and settle for something else. Others will continue their quest for the unobtainable. But as we’ve already established, sometimes the anticipation of what you might find is the most fun part. That might be why some seem so reticent to do anything. Also, some people like to watch and not participate. Elton John insists that that’s how he survived the 80s. Communicate. Something uncomfortable? Let the massage therapist know. They’ll usually ask at the beginning what kind of pressure you want; if you don’t know, tell them that, then be sure to communicate whether you like what they’re doing or not. In this type of setting, it’s not at all personal. When we were done, I do remember him giving me a fist-bump and saying, “Hey dude, it doesn’t count if you can’t see what’s happening.” They are straight. They are not interested in a romantic relationship with you; if they were they'd come out as bisexual or gay. They have not, therefore there is no hope for a relationship with them. You're only setting yourself up for failure, heartbreak, and the loss of a friend. My friend and I were very close at the time, and I valued that friendship much more than any sexual experience. I didn’t want one stupid night to mess up our friendship. I was perfectly willing to pretend it never happened because I knew that’s what he wanted (and part of me wanted that too).

The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved. I got a text message from Doug saying “Jeff knows, so you better prepare yourself.” I was out-of-town when I got the text message, and didn’t fully understand what it meant. (This was 6 months after the incident occurred, so it was not fresh in my mind.) This was very much a bitch move on Doug’s part both for telling Jeff and for sending me a text message instead of calling or talking to me in person. All in all it was uncomfortable, but I think I handled it well. I know it will take time, but I'm hoping this friendship can be mended. Part of me worries that he will try to put more distance between the two of us, but only time will tell. As I said in my last post, most of this is out of my hands at this point.

What’s it like in a gay sauna?

This all-encompassing fear steered me away from spas and rubs for years—until the inevitable happened, and I was put up in a Florida resort for a magazine sales meeting. I and the others in our group were urged to take advantage of spa facilities—the more services we signed up for, the more advertising we’d bring in. A trade-off. So, I got a facial, which was fun, then an herbal body wrap, which I hated—arms pinned so I couldn’t move; I felt claustrophobic. “It’s no good unless you fall asleep,” said the attendant. I didn’t. He unwrapped me; that was that. The good news is I don’t have feelings for him. Well, at least I don’t think I do. Time will tell, I guess. he told the girlfriend that he was drunk and remembers nothing so she can believe the lie too. he told you that as well as an indirect way of saying "whatever happened, dont bring it up again and it did not happen". I probably wouldn’t mention this to your girlfriend. Others will disagree with me on this advice, but I just don’t see how telling her can make the situation any better; it can certainly make the situation worse. She likely will not understand how or why this could’ve happened (just like you are unable to understand how or why it happened). She will have more questions than you’ll have answers for, and your answers may not be to her satisfaction. I really think it’s best to not bring this up to her.

What marked the beginning of the end of our friendship? Was it the sexual encounter? Was it the confrontation (no more plausible deniability on his part)? Was it the fact that I told Doug? Was Doug really the "glue" of our friendship, and when he left Jeff and I had nothing much in common?The phone call lasted maybe an hour, but it seemed liken an eternity. We probably went over the details of that night at least 3 times. He would ask me to repeat certain parts (maybe to see if my story would change or not). He continued to maintain that he didn’t remember anything. I explained that I hadn’t brought it up because I knew it would be uncomfortable for him. I apologized for telling Doug about the situation, but I did try to explain my need to confide in someone about what happened. I told him how important our friendship was, and that I wanted to preserve it at all costs. He said that he needed some time to deal with the situation.