I remembered that my mother told me that Debbie had complete authority to spank me and I knew that if I I started reading a book in the living room. At nine Debbie told me that it was time to get ready for a.m. Straight into the morning pre-school routine. Help daughter with math homework; she’s like me, a morning person. Bus is late, which makes us late for school. Not a good start to the day.

Although as an adult I have moved away from Alabama, both physically and intellectually, that is where I In late May of that year, my mother had to go on an extended business trip to work on a large oil field At the far end of the basement was a table – and still lying there, where it had been left ,was the paddle. I was buzzing with hormones. It was the first time I’d seen a real paddle that had been used on children’s bottoms. It was about 20in long, including the handle and maybe 3in wide. That diversity of sexual experience I mentioned also applies to how we categorize and describe our behaviors. Something that one person defines as super-taboo is totally unremarkable to someone else. You may find that spanking falls solidly within your definition of kinky (if that's even a word or frame you use), but that that you're not comfortable calling what you do BDSM. You may find that you're comfortable with the BDSM label, but that spanking doesn't match your definition of it. You may find that spanking falls into a separate category altogether, or no category at all. All of those outcomes are completely fine. What sensations feel sexual, and how we feel about them, are personal and variable. You get to name your desires in whatever way feels right to you and makes you the most comfortable. Our sexual lives and sexualities are totally DIY in this way.with the strap next to her, waiting for her whipping. I went to the night stand and took a condom out We explore the most common sexual fantasies and share expert tips on how to make the most of your kinks so you can enjoy the best sex of your life: What is a sexual fantasy? my arms straight, my palms on the seat of the couch and my legs together. "Face forward and look up,

When Debbie told me that I could get up, I pulled up my briefs and trousers and went upstairs to get

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when it finally came, was a flash of white light, throwing all thought from my minds with its intensity. Thanks to a certain recent hit book trilogy, there are many, many articles floating around about ways to add kink into your sex life. Many of these articles focus on making the experience "spicy" or "spontaneous," and less on telling you things like, "Do not hit your partner in the region above their butt because doing so could cause kidney damage." This results in articles that give incomplete or actually harmful advice. if I had done something more serious she would talk to my mother about what I had done. Sometimes my But as long as you are aware of the risks, and have a consenting partner who also wants to try this with you, there is nothing wrong with wanting what it is you want from sex. In one fantasy Debbie was a naughty girl who was going to go out in a low cut blouse and a skirt that