The official Wheel Of Consent book is finally here! The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Dr. Betty Martin, with Robyn Dalzen Notice that the four quadrants consist of two matching pairs. If I am Giving, then you are Receiving, and vice versa. Meanwhile if you are Taking, then I am Allowing, and vice versa. To help familiarise yourself with the quadrants, you can also consider questions people might ask when they are sharing touch, and which quadrant it originates from. Here are a few examples: Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent is a model of relating which brings greater clarity and authenticity to our relationships in all areas of life: with work colleagues, with friends and family, and in our most intimate relationships. The dynamics shown above so far are those which have the full, informed consent of both people - i.e. with awareness of both who is doing, and who it is for. But the Wheel of Consent can also describe what happens in these same dynamics without consent: I'm not that bothered about the party, but I know that someone Sally is really keen to meet will be there, and so I suggest we go together (it’s for Sally).

Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent is a model of relating which brings clarity and greater authenticity to all areas of life: with work colleagues, with friends and family, and in our most intimate relationships. It distinguishes between the ‘doing’ aspect of an interaction: who is doing? - and the ‘gift’ aspect: who is it for? Asking these two questions together creates four possible dynamics, each of which has a different flavour, and requires a different type of consent agreement to be made. This is the central insight of the Wheel of Consent, from which many consequences and insights flow. Sexological Bodywork Training and Somatic Sex Educator Training in Australia, Thailand and the US: instituteofsomaticsexology.com/ The book is written in easy-to-read, and engaging language, with plenty of examples and practices to try for yourself.The key to learning how to have fulfilling, consenting exchanges is learning how to set and keep consensual agreements. This means that everyone remains fully in choice at all times, and still gets what they need.

I'm not bothered about the party but am assuming Sally really wants to go. Sally's not bothered about the party either, but assumes I really want to go (it's not for either of us).The Wheel of Consent is a great tool for both individuals and couples alike. It cultivates the practice of many important skills, such as being able to feel into the body to find out what it is wanting, and being able to communicate that. Equally, the tool teaches practicing both saying and receiving a no in a healthy way. I find with my clients that once they learn this tool, they start to apply it to many different areas of their life, and not just interactions involving touch. Read more about the importance of consent and boundaries in tantric massage therapy. Join us for this 8-week workshop series on the Wheel of Consent® – a powerful practice to improve the quality of your relationships and create clear agreements to experience satisfying connection to yourself and others.

Teaches you the four quadrants of the Wheel – how to find them, feel them in your body and see where they can take you Reconnect with their wants and needs. To be able to ask for what they want, need, desire or enjoy. Or being able to say what they don’t want or enjoy. Discover new aspects of sexual dynamics in relationships. The Wheel invites couples to explore all four dimensions of Giving, Receiving, Taking and Allowing in full consent.I really want to go to the party, but I know my ex-partner will be there which I feel anxious about, and I’m hoping Sally is willing to come along with me for moral support (it’s for me).