The beginnings of an erection will feel more like a nice “erotic pain” rather than being unbearably painful. A poorly fitted cage won’t just be uncomfortable though. It could fall off completely, cause pain when you start getting hard, chafe and irritate your skin, and cause hygiene problems as the pee hole doesn’t line up properly with your urethra.

If it’s not comfortable to wear, but you want it on forever, ask yourself: “Is this worth losing my penis over?” The key is getting the right fit. You’ll need to have accurate measurements to find the right size chastity cage for you, and even then, everybody and every cage is different, so it’s normal to go through some trial and error.Shaving your public hair can also help with this, and reduce the chance of pain for your hair being pulled by the cage. Best case scenario: you discover a whole new layer to your relationship and a whole new side of yourself. They can be used short-term until you’ve earned your way out or as part of a long term BDSM relationship in which you hand over the keys to someone else.

There’s nothing hugely special about me. I’d describe myself as your typical modern, forward-thinking guy. I enjoy sports, staying healthy, love my family and friends, and have a satisfying career that pushes me to work hard so I can enjoy some of life's luxuries. Personally, I get distracted by horniness pretty often. I still manage to get my work done on time, but it’s more difficult for some guys. Long story short, you don’t want to go outside and have everyone looking at your cage underneath your trousers. Sleeker plastic cages will be better for this as they are easier to wear and move around in, and often less bulky under the pants. This measurement is the circumference of your penis and scrotum. You need to divide this number by 3.14 to get the diameter. When I say “effectively”, that means a few things. It should keep it secure, obviously. But also consider how hard you want it to restrain erections.

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There are three of these clamps included with the cage, along with the usual pins and spacers. The anti-pullout feature is optional, though, so you can leave these off if you want to start slowly or simply want more freedom. Sometimes you’ll also see a measurement for the gap between the ring and the body, which can be useful if you have particularly large or high hanging testicles, but most of the time you won’t need to measure for this part.

You’ll learn patience, gratitude, and HOLY CRAP when that cage comes off the intensity of feeling has to be experienced to be believed! Consider the temperature when measuring. If it’s cold your penis will be smaller. If it’s warm your penis will be larger. When you try a new cage, pay attention to your body. Any discomfort or pain indicates a problem with the fit.The measurements you’ll need are length and girth, plus the circumference from underneath your balls and over your penis. Write down these measurements while both flaccid and erect. Long term, absolutely not. Discomfort will turn into pain, and pain can turn into a medical emergency faster than you’d think. If you want to wear a cage for longer than a few hours, comfort and safety are the priority. This measurement helps you find the right gap size for your chastity cage—the gap size is simply the distance between the bottom of the ring and the tube. This measurement is usually non-critical for most, but if you have larger-than-normal testicles or testicles that are tight and close to your body, you may find that cages with small gaps put uncomfortable pressure on your testicles. Yeah, probably. If you’re a complete beginner, there’s nothing wrong with buying a few cheap cages in different sizes and styles.

You might think that as long as your measurements are close then it should work out. You can get away with clothes that are slightly too big or too small, so why not chastity cages? But a poorly fitted chastity device can cause several problems. It depends. If you want something to wear on and off during scenes, then a bit of discomfort could be acceptable if that’s what you and your partner want. We’ve rounded up the latest and most excellent toys to hold your member captive for all your chastity fans. Are you feeling particularly adventurous? Explore our favorite extreme sex toys or even some of the best ball stretchers to pair up with your chastity cage. BDSM purists will say that metal is the only option for serious chastity play. They keep the penis under tight control and often allow plenty of ventilation. Chafing and circulation are a concern if they’re too tight, so make sure you apply some lubricant regularly to avoid skin damage.Generally wearing a chastity device does not hurt, but you shouldn’t always expect it to feel comfortable right away. It can take a some time to become used to it; both physically and mentally. Once you’ve become accustomed to wearing it at times it will sometimes feel as if the cage is “caressing” your penis. This can heighten arousal, and feels like you’re wearing your own personal “bondage cuddle”.