The importance of reframing the treat and reward concepts we’ve been taught (and internalized) around wine. That drinking is our treat at the end of the day and a much needed reward for hard work. Freedom of choice. We’re not talking about prohibition here. But I think we just need an environment that reflects more honestly, the dark side reflects, my experience of struggling with it, and has a bit more caution placed around this product, so that it’s not hailed as an amazingly good thing everywhere. One, realize, too, that you have bad days, life is hard, life is life, regardless of whether you’re drinking or not drinking. It’s not that you’re going to quit drinking, and you are never going to have a hard time again. It is that you’re actually going to be able to process it and move through it and cope in a healthier way. Yeah, and that’s just who I am. I just feel okay about who I am. I just tried to not be that I tried to be fun, upbeat Lotta. All I ever wanted to be fun. Lalalalala let’s have fun. And that’s still there. But it’s balanced out now by that watery said part of me that sometimes just retreats and needs to kind of snuggle and be sad.

Yeah, I mean, I, I’ve always had pretty good people around me with my family and my husband. It’s mostly it’s an inside job, honestly, mostly, it’s the relationship with myself. Because we really need to rely on ourselves. I mean, it’s lovely having someone who is understanding and supportive, but it’s about how we respond to ourselves. We’re the ones with ourselves at 3 in the morning.

About Me

Uh, huh. I am not a puzzle girl at all. I never had that. So, I maybe, when I get to year, year 8, year 9, I’ll develop it. But I’m not sure. It’s sort of like Scrabble. It’s not my jam. That’s why we need people like you and me to be saying, Oh my god, guys. Yes. Guess what? Yes, it’s not true that you need this magic liquid in your glass to make everything fabulous. Like we now just live, right? We go to parties, we go to weddings, we go to events, and we don’t have a terrible time. Sometimes the parties aren’t great. That’s just because it wasn’t our party. Yeah, not about what we’re drinking or not drinking. Like, it’s all of these events are about human connection. And, how is your life? Now when you go out and you go to events and socialize? You know? Are you having a terrible time? all the time? She reveals the damage alcohol is causing to women physically, emotionally, and socially, and the potential reasons why so many women are drinking at harmful levels.

And have you felt like you’ve gotten more support now that you’re, kind of, more honest about how you’re feeling? Lotta had a successful career as a TV reporter, a Producer and a Director, while also developing a remarkable aptitude for drinking a lot of alcohol as I did too. And I’m sure many of you listening have a lot of began an anonymous blog called Mrs. D is Going Without when she was first stopping drinking as a way to work through her thoughts and feelings and keep yourself accountable when she was starting her journey without alcohol. I know. And there are still so many people doing this. That’s what breaks my heart. But anyway, yet we managed it. And then it’s not until you take it away. I mean, that’s a wonderful thing. I mean, jumping ahead now, but wonderful thing about being sober. Not only do you feel better, and you manage everything better, but you start to realize it’s just not true, that you need this stuff to live. Yeah, I was so terrified. Right? I had a lot of anxiety. I had a lot of never really figured out how to self soothe without alcohol. And once I found alcohol in college, it was like, Oh, my God, this is amazing. And just wanted more and more and daily. And, of course, it’s addictive. But you’re right. There is, you know, there is this line where people say they think that only a really small proportion of society has a problem with this drug. And we know from talking to people from being a member of groups, there are thousands and thousands and thousands of people and women out there struggling with this. Who never talked about it with each other.Yes. And I, yeah, yeah. I love that too. And also modeling that mommy doesn’t need to get drunk every night to cope with life.