The vintage advertisement read, “First warm dilator in warm water; then lubricate outside of dilator with Dr. Young’s Piloment (or if it is not available, with vaseline) and while in a squatting position — or while lying on the side with knees drawn up — gently insert in the rectum as far as the flange or rim. Hold in place a minute and the anal muscles will hold and retain it. Sit or lie down and allow it to remain for half an hour or an hour to get the best results. Ten minutes will accomplish much. When ready to go on to the next larger size, it is best first to use for a few minutes the same size you have been using, inserting and withdrawing it a few times.” If not, creating some space and openness for these conversations is your starting point. Show acceptance, flexibility and curiosity about your own and your partner’s erotic triggers, listen and seek to understand. While every fantasy does not, and maybe should not, be explored in person, it can be really fun to seek intersections between your fantasies and those of your partner, and try a few.” 4. Where Do Butt Plugs Come From?

The anus has a lot of nerve endings, and is near both the male and female g-spots. It is common to stimulate the anus for sexual pleasure. Butt plugs are ideal for first-timers or people looking to move into bigger, more adventurous sizes.They allow you to practice on your own, and move at a comfortable pace. This makes butt plugs a great tool for people who want to try anal fun but are a bit “tight” down there and need a little practice to stretch out. Dahlberg, M., et al. (2018). Retained sex toys: An increasing and possibly preventable medical condition.

2. How to Use a Butt Plug

Riley goes on, noting that “you should never put anything in a butt that doesn't have a base that is wider than the widest part of the toy."

People with prostates enjoy butt plugs because they stimulate the gland, potentially leading to a prostate orgasm. Even if one doesn't occur, most still report that it feels good. There are butt plugs that are specially shaped to reach the prostate. Butt plugs come in various materials and flexibilities. Materials like metal or glass are firm, non-porous, and made from non-synthetic materials. Flexible Plugs are typically made from Silicone or PVC which are typically phosphate-free and body-safe. Each material and firmness provide a different feel and flexibility.

Though anything evolving the rectal area is often associated with homosexual intercourse, specifically that of gay men, if you're a straight guy, butt plugs can be an exciting addition to the sex you have with a female partner. Anal stretching is done using butt plugs, dildos and anal beads that gradually increase in size, allowing you to open up wider and accommodate more anal fullness. As you progress in your anal adventures, you must step up your toy collection to include large and fuller ones that give the desired stretch. Here are a few tips to consider when buying anal stretchers. Why Use Anal Stretchers? It is shaped similar to a dildo, sometimes to resemble a penis, but with a flanged end (wider base) to ensure the plug is not lost inside during possible rectal contractions," notes Angie Gunn, LCSW, sex therapist and sex therapy expert for Talkspace. "Some bases are shaped with a loop to grab onto, or a flat end so as not to get in the way during vaginal penetration." 2. How to Use a Butt Plug When you’re going to try the big A, experts recommend taking it slow and starting with a little finger or mouth play. Though Young didn’t mean to evolve a whole plethora of sex toys that reach the G-spot and tantalize thousands, we can thank him for inventing the butt plug. 5. How Can I Use Butt Plugs As Part Of My Sex Life?

And if you’re both open-minded to the plug use, consider playing a swapping game. Making sure of course, you cleanse between insertions: “Explore taking turns using the plug while in different angles or positions, or on its own to create increased pleasure,” notes Gunn. Use It When You’re Not Getting It On If you use a silicone toy, use a water-based lube. Silicone lube can make silicone toys degrade faster. For the female the insertion of the plug, and the presence of the plug during other sex acts creates more pleasure due to the high concentration of nerve endings stimulated,” says Gunn. Touching Your Own G-SpotWhile many guys will experiment with a little anal finger play, and will likely be interested in penetrating their sex partners' anuses, their experiences with tantalizing their own anal areas is likely limited.