The _ga cookie, installed by Google Analytics, calculates visitor, session and campaign data and also keeps track of site usage for the site's analytics report. paina päätäni alas kertoo kirjoittajan matkasta keskinkertaisesta, epänautinnollisesta seksistä kohti "mieletöntä", hänelle sopivaa seksielämää.

Se sisältää paljon itsellenikin uusia asioita, kuten tiedon siitä, että nainen voi saada 14 erilaista orgasmia sekä konseptin "wheel of consent". Taking time over sex is probably the one thing that I and my partner will try to stick to the most, while putting my finger in my anus for one minute a day while in the shower is probably something that I'll pass on, thanks all the same. The event was memorable for a few reasons, one of them being the response that it elicited from an older lady, who was sharing the table I was sitting at: she clearly didn't approve of such a book. I genuinely think this is a must-read for every woman out there because it is a catalyst for self-love and women empowerment. But the weird thing about mainstream sexuality is that it is woefully underdocumented and underexamined.Erityisesti tää ihmetytti, koska usein oltiin ihmiselämän isojen asioiden äärellä, kuten esimerkiksi seksistä kommunikoimisen ja sen, millainen naiskuva pornossa, mediassa ja yhteiskunnassa ylipäätänsä on ja miten se vaikuttaa ihan meidän perustavisten arkeen (tiedostetusti ja tiedostamattakin). A really good and engaging book that more people should read - especially males in Britain/US - to help people be more comfortable with themselves but also in understanding their partners (this book is so much more than a sex diary or tales of exploits) but there is a bit of padding at the end. Having said all of that, the book swiftly transitions, courtesy of the author at last coming across some empathetic men, to a sexual odyssey that lies far, far outside my comfort zone, and I suspect that of many others. I feel sad at how much time I spent worrying about whether I was desirable instead of thinking about what I desired. Vaikka kirjassa muuten olikin loistavasti isompaa yhteiskunnallista otetta, näissä kohdin se jäi hauraaksi.

Holmes should be applauded for her honesty, her sensitivity and her humanity in exploring a subject that seems to be everywhere around us, yet at the same time everyone is embarrassed to talk about.

En tarkoita, että tahtoisin lukea pelkkää kuivakkaa asiatekstiä seksistä, ehei en ollenkaan, mutta jotenkin sellainen humoristinen kepeä vähän ”itsekriittinen” ja -tarkkaileva sävy on vaan niin väsynyttä. But thankfully, Holmes gave us something that we might need and want—a very real and honest take on the state of female sexuality and an inspiring look at one woman’s journey to claim her sexual experience. This presents a nicely accessible way for people to read about concepts and therapies that they wouldn’t normally pick up a book on. There is such a lot here to consider, and to take - as a counsellor who has worked with survivors of sexual abuse, consent has always been something that I am familiar with but here, in a section on BDSM, there is an explanation of the consent wheel, which is just fabulous. Yes, the topic is relevant and should be talked about, but the author's depressing alcohol-fuelled oh-so-British approach to dating is just so evidently the main problem that it kinda goes without saying.

Of course there's an argument that I'm not as liberal as I think I am, but in my defence, I've not gone all Mary Whitehouse, and I read the book to the end and was entertained by it. Joka tapauksessa, kelpo luettava, nopea, ihan hauska jos huumori iskee yhteen Holmesin kautta, hyviä pointteja esille nostava. It’s funny, but it also left me in tears… her journey reflecting her relationship with her body and the part society plays in that too. Todella hyviä ja arvokkaita juttuja esimerkiksi suostumuksesta (wheel of consent oli käsitteenä jotain, joka meistä jokaisen olisi hyvä ottaa haltuun, vaikka toki tämä ei Holmesin oma käsite ollutkaan), omista rajoista, ein sanomisesta ja vastaanottamisesta, itsetuntemuksesta.Kirjoittaja on miun kanssa samaa ikäluokkaa ja muutakin yhteistä tarttumapintaa toki löytyy, samoin hänen lähtötilanteensa on superkiinnostava. I’m clearly no expert as I have no children or plan for children, but I hope that Holmes’ honest discussion about post-partum sex and sexuality brings comfort and opens up the conversation among mothers and to-be mothers about what the fuck is actually going on. Myös tantraseksistä ja seksifestareista puhuminen etäännytti itseäni, ihan kuin seksi olisi jotenkin pienen piirin hallitsema salaisuus. I enjoyed the book and found it interesting, if a little eyebrow-raising in places, but it probably threw up as many questions for me as answers.