I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.” – Attributed to Mark Twain.

And finally, ask, “Is being wrong going to create a better or worse problem?” You have two choices. You can continue fighting with her about art school because you think it’s a bad choice. Or you can realize that you don’t always have the right answers for her. This means letting her make her own decisions and trusting her to forge her own path, for better or worse. How I found sleep again (Or did it find me?) – My routine to overcome a decade of Insomnia 2.5k views In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. It may be a struggle to put aside the threat to your identity that comes from discovering your assumption or value is wrong — but it’s the only way to become less wrong. Success or failure can threaten the dream, it threatens our identity. Our identity is related to our values, these values are not necessary what we want them to be. I find the term to be inconsistent, values can be detrimental or unhealthy.In the previous book summary, we saw that measuring your worth by comparing yourself to others will only lead to disappointment. And this is just one of many shitty values that can derail you on your path to happiness. Am I going to read the book end to end again? No very unlikely but if I’m ever feeling jealous I will be reading about Pete Best again and thinking how miserable the wrong values has made Dave Mustaine for 20 years. When it comes to detachment, Vincent is on a whole other level. As a salaried employee on a fixed contract, he sees no problem in doing exactly as he pleases. “I am passionate about my work, I meet my targets and my deadlines,” he says. “But that doesn’t keep me from leaving at 5.30 pm” – an attitude that has earned disparaging remarks from his colleagues. “My manager passed on rumors along the lines that I was ‘leaving early’ or ‘taking the afternoon off’,” he says, amused. “I immediately replied that I do my job well, that I wouldn’t change anything and they can take it or leave it. They got the message. This is how I am. When I negotiate a salary, that’s how it is: I propose a number and if it doesn’t work for them, I leave.” Don’t feel guilty While many people might be the reason for your unhappiness, they’re not responsible for it. You are. A lot of unexpected things will happen because you cannot control everything that happens to you. Blaming someone else or regretting over something that you cannot change are the biggest poisons and time-wasters. Keep the learning and move on to live a better and responsible life. Shit happens. Someone less smart than you might get a promotion and you might not. It is neither his/her fault nor his boss’. It is not your fault as well but it is your responsibility. Life is a sum of all your choices. This isn’t as easy as it sounds; quite often, our false beliefs cover up our insecurities. This means that, by constantly questioning our decisions and actions, we’ll uncover uncomfortable truths about ourselves.

Is it the best book of its kind ever? Probably not, but it helped structure thoughts and introduced the genre in a very relateable way. That’s great There’s also a challenge in determining what a “good” value is. Don’t fall into the trap of setting up bad values for yourself. Bad values are superstitious, destructive, and out of your control. For example, material success isn’t a great value because your self-worth shouldn’t be measured by how successful you are at work or how much money you have in the bank. Rather than asking what we should strive for, a better question is what pain are we prepared to suffer through. Happiness grows through our problems and struggles. There is a need to love the process, not the outcome. I love running and training, not merely completing a marathon. In time it is no longer suffering but rather something joyful and rewarding. Manson proudly announces he cuts through the crap! But alas, he does not. What Manson really does is steal some ideas from Buddhism and works hard to make himself look like a wise philosopher, and old soul. For decades, we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. Drawing on academic research and the life experience that comes form breaking the rules, Mark Manson is ready to explode that myth. The key to a good life, according to Manson, is the understanding that 'sometimes life is messed up and we have to live with it'.For me to complete my Personal MBA, I need to get out of my head more, specifically I need to direct my cognitive problem-solving ability towards more constructive means. To stop caring about trivialities, you need to care about something more important. Caring about every single inconvenience and the thousand trivialities of everyday life is often a symptom of not having anything meaningful and fulfilling to care about. A great way to figure out what those things are is to flash forward time and imagine yourself on your death bed and what would be going through your mind. Personal Growth, Personal Development, Humor, Entertainment, Self-Help, Happiness, Motivational, Psychology, Philosophy, Business, Mental Health, Adult Table of Contents I'm a Buddhist, and would like to consider myself at least somewhat familiar with Buddhism. As the enlightenment is accepted to be related to letting go of the worldly pleasures according to Buddhism, Manson takes this as an example to justify his opinions. Then, he goes and creates a line, which he thinks is from where the letting-go should be applied to. It's not that the content are false, but everything's completely taken out of the original context, and I'm failing to see how any of this is supposed to be 'helpful'. One could certainly empathize with everything stated here, and agree to most of it, but that's pretty much it: I couldn't find the self-help part (if there was any). If the book's intention was to make one immune (or resistant) to the difficulties the society put in one's way (as the name implies), at least for me, it failed spectacularly. After the first few chapters, it often felt like the author contradicting himself with what followed.

To truly master this art, you must take full responsibility for your life and your decisions. Accepting your shortcomings, owning up to your mistakes, and accepting your actions' consequences are all part of this process. You must also be willing to let go of what you cannot control and focus on what you can. By taking ownership of your life, you own your happiness and success. You are the one who will determine your future, and you have the power to make choices that will shape your destiny. People often view failure and success as mutually exclusive. But it is the cumulative lessons of a lifetime of failures and successes that develop talent, discipline, and determination. The idea is similar to the adage of going with the flow, letting the river of life take you on its journey and learning to appreciate the beauty along the way.

A graduate student working on the final section of her thesis feels run down by her years of effort and at a loss on how to tie everything together. Still, she gets up before work and writes for an hour every day. At first, it’s difficult and unproductive. But her ideas sit with her all day, and the next morning, she starts at a better place than the one before. Each seemingly wasted writing session creates the momentum and motivation to get the real work done. The Importance of Saying No Pain is not just a constant part of life — it’s a useful one, too. Pain teaches you what things to avoid or pay attention to in the future. The agonizing pain of your first heartbreak helps you be more mature in future relationships. Every year, thousands of amateur runners take part in marathons. Many of them do so to raise money for good causes. Even though a great many struggle to finish, most marathon runners are proud of their achievement. Now imagine that, instead of volunteering to run a marathon, you were forced to take part. No matter how well you actually ran, chances are you’d detest the whole experience. Consciously or unconsciously, you are constantly choosing what to care or not care about. Life is full of things beyond our control. But even if something isn’t in your control, it can still be your responsibility to respond to it. Choosing your response can be a source of empowerment, even if the circumstances are out of your control.