In our younger days, wifey was very hot and very submissive and loved me to make her do all sorts of sexual things and she obeyed my every wish In our sixties, she no longer had any desire to play or do anything with me. When and if the larger marital issues have been resolved - then two people can sit down and have a mutually engrossing time exploring the fantasies of the person who is right now busy stomping all over the agency, confidence and personal boundaries (to use way to much therapy speak) of the OP. I was showing his "friend" around the house, and she got really close to me, and grinning like a fiend.

Fast forward to not very long at all and my friend walks out on her husband, takes the kids, moves in with this guy, gets a divorce and spends the next forty years together until his death.

He forfeited his right to be resentful about your boundaries by not being honest with you about his fantasies early on and giving you both an opportunity to figure out if this would be a dealbreaker. Do you believe he still has the same prior attitudes towards cheating, but doesn't consider this cheating? Back when I was dating my soon-to-be-husband, he told me that he had endured a lot of cheating in his past relationships, and because of that, would be completely unforgiving if I were to cheat on him. Maybe you need to make the same threat - not of divorce, but of a separation while he gets his shit together, maybe. He's been going on about his fetish, which is a particularly creepy, objectifying, and dehumanizing one that he's handling in a particularly creepy, objectifying, and dehumanizing way, for five years out of a seven year marriage, with no empathy for you and no regard for your stated preferences.

I fixed us a couple of drinks and when I heard her come out of the bathroom there she stood in a sheer dark blue bra, matching lace garter belt, thigh high hose, heels and no panties. The age depends on location, some places we’ve gone to have an average age of 50 – 65+, some 30 – 65+, and some 20 – 30s, there are also lots of communities that are 60 plus.Even if we give your husband the benefit of the doubt and say this is a recent kink, its really up to him to make things work again if he wants. Mod note: One comment deleted - friendly reminder folks, AskMe isn't a space for back-and-forth conversation between commenters. I think you need to tell him that besides you simply not liking the idea, it's very likely to implode your marriage. I soon realized that her husband was sitting there watching us but I couldn't tell if he was upset or not.