Bored eventually with the routine she opened a Women’s only Boutique in 1995 selling lingerie and SM equipment and at the same time took on Domination as a lifestyle. She acquired a personal live in slave who has served her 24/7/365 for the past ten years. This book is written in response to the many requests from her friends and others who share her lifestyle. It is not a book for beginners or players but for serious people wishing to live the life. The book has been published by Miss Bellemare herself and is sold from her Boutique.

My interests however are not to find a slave but to weave elaborate narratives of sexual fantasies within the boundaries of Femdom. I enjoy using my feminine charms and intellectual powers to push submissives into deep subspace. My intuition and keen observation will mean every little movement or reaction will not go unnoticed. I will play your body like a virtuoso. Nurturing matron, devious seductress, sadistic disciplinarian, are only some of the many roles I play. I must admit that I have a very sadistic side to me. Not only do I wish to be served by a slave who is compelled to submit totally to my desires but I like to inflict pain and see him suffer though I would never cause permanent harm as I look after my property well. If people don't understand this behaviour and think I hate the male creature, they would be wrong. Women who are true believers in Female Domination and Female Supremacy must love the male creature or we would not train them to be what we want them to be. We love them and we rule them and we make them serve like the inferior creatures they are. Rest assured that in the Opium Den, your secret is safe with me, and your submission be protected. Expose the most hidden depths of your submissive nature to me and I will take you.All of these traits are not what a Mistress wants to see in a slave. He could decide to withdraw from the relationship in which case he might at worst loose his partner. But that would be the sum total of the consequences. The Mistress may well feel restrained or restricted in what she can or cannot do, how far she can go etc, wondering if her slave will draw a line or show dissent. A friend of mine met a situation where she required her slave to eat his meals after he had served her and cleared the table. He moaned about his food being cold. I had to ask her whether he was a slave or not. What does he expect? My slave would not dare to show the slightest dissent. His food is often cold; so what? ‘He gets food doesn’t he?’ I replied. 'Cold food is just as nourishing as hot food'. She agreed but went off into a sort of sob story about keeping him happy, pandering to his wishes. I think I set her straight but it is typical of the problems a Mistress can encounter with this consensual slave relationship. Since then she has lived the full and varied life of a business woman with a submissive male kept largely at home to look after her needs. Phrase the question so: ‘It cannot be right that you as the slave have the right to determine what I can and cannot do can it?’ It cannot be right that I, as Mistress cannot be sure that you will obey can it?’ Be quiet, calm but firm. We have thirteen non consensual slaves in our group and during the past ten years only one has decided he wanted out. Well he got his wish but he lost his job and finally had to move away from the area. The humiliation was too great. It was a very salutary lesson for the remainder of the slaves in the group and since then there have been no dissenters. The Mistress concerned has a new slave.

I am fortunate to know several female friends who now live in this happy state of affairs of owning a real slave. A few have enslaved their husbands and trained them to a life of domestic and sexual servitude. Others have advertised for partners making it clear from the start the nature of the relationship required. Each of these scenarios can lead to a successful and fulfilling lifestyle but it has to be said that some women have confided to me that being married initially to their slave has, at times, introduced conflict in the relationship. A wife considering enslaving her husband should not be put off however but should be aware that conflicting feelings on her part and that of the slave may occur and she should be ready to deal with them. The main problem seems to be whether she should view him as a husband or a slave. It is difficult to do both at the same time. A husband is someone you love, care for and have concern for his feelings. A slave is someone you own who must serve and obey your every whim, accept your decisions and judgements in all things and whose opinions count for nothing. I have met a good number of couples who have this latter relationship and it is clearly very rewarding. As an active member of a group of dominant women in the city and wider environment Miss Bellemare is well experienced in the control and training of submissive males. I’m a highly regarded and respected Professional Worldwide Mistress and international Dominatrix who engages in the following activities: Throughout the book I refer to the Mistress/slave differential which basically refers to the ‘natural’ state of affairs where the woman is superior in the relationship and the man is inferior. I have been a lifestyle Mistress for just over ten years and my slave who is now fifty five years old has been with me for all of them. My experience has taught me that most problems in genuine Mistress/slave relationships stem from the failure to maintain this Mistress/slave differential.Male, female or submissive couples are welcome at my chambers. Your level of experience is unimportant; all I seek is your attention and respect. If you are looking for a more sensual session, either alone or with your partner, my London Dungeon may be better suited. My concern here is to provide some guidance and ideas for the woman who is a true lifestyle Dominant wishing to own and be served by a real male slave. I want to move from the consensual Dominant/submissive role play situation to the far more satisfying lifestyle Mistress/slave situation in which he, having freely entered into the relationship has given up his right to be treated as a normal human being and has no choice (for whatever reason) but to submit permanently and continuously to his Mistress as a real slave. It is what I describe as contracted non consensual slavery. For a married Mistress wanting to proceed along these lines I suggest the following course of action: Under the age of 40 males slaves tend to be immature, insecure and see the relationship with a Mistress as some kind of fantasy game. In the middle years a truly submissive male who has found himself and knows what he wants and what he is will make a superb slave once properly trained. One Mistress Friend of mine has a slave of 70 who has served her for nearly 40 years. He serves her now as well as he did 20 years ago and she treats him as harshly as ever. 3 With the slave on his knees in front of you talk quietly about what you want and the change you want to make. Point out calmly that you are not satisfied with the current situation and his level of servitude. Explain the concept of non consensual slavery to him emphasizing that, if he agrees, then his freedom of choice disappears. In future he will have to serve and obey because he will be compelled to. There must be no dissent in the future and his ultimate right of veto will be taken away.

I am located 5 minutes from Watford Junction (20 minutes from Euston by train) with easy access fromI have had an affinity for the kinky lifestyle since I was young, and since moving to the city, I decided to take the plunge and attend fetish parties/events. Through this, I was able to meet many knowledgeable and experienced people who helped me better understand the kink scene and discover my own fetishes and taboos. I am a creative individual from the South Coast of the UK, and I have been living in London for nearly 10 years. In addition to being an independent companion, I am also a burlesque/fetish performer and stripper. A Popular Mistress, THE GOVERNESS is based in Bournemouth and offers a varied experience in the Arts and Mysteries of Fetish/BDSM.

A non consensual slave is one who has given up his rights completely and serves because he realizes that he in fact has no choice. For this to work there has to be an element of compulsion so that the slave serves as an abject and total slave because he would not like to suffer the consequences of not doing so. In times past the consequences were all too obvious because slavery was perfectly legal and any escaped slave would be hunted down and punished. He might even loose his life. Perhaps one might think that non consensual slavery in these present times is therefore unachievable and would be illegal. Well let me assure you that it is neither. The book is for dominant Females only. It is not for the eyes of males and Mistresses are advised not to let their slaves see any part of it. 2Turning full grown men into pliable little puddles at my feet is one of my many talents. Oriental Mistress with a passion for elegant domination, I am a pro and lifestyle Domme. My domineering yet friendly personality attracts a plethora of handsome suitors all desperate for an inkling of my attention. Domination is an experience of the mind and an escapism from the real world. As a Mistress who seeks to enjoy her sessions on a mental level as well as physical, I enjoy meeting with submissives who also enjoy the creation of scenarios and fantasy. Creativity is a driving force for Me. I like when no two sessions are ever the same. A submissive that treats a session like a canvas with which to throw paint at My idea of a fantastic time... Dear Slaves, enter my realm and be prepared to lose your inhibitions and have your world transformed.