Aftercare isn’t always just the Dom taking care of the sub. Sometimes the Dom has big post-scene emotions as well. We all need care after emotionally complex experiences; having empathy for that can make your kink experiences so much better. Learning new dynamics is rewarding. You don't have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up. Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner(s), either once or as part of an ongoing fantasy. While it can be a fetish or kink within itself, it's also a healthy way to act out other fantasies. For instance, if you have a medical fantasy and are aroused by doctors, you probably don't actually want your doctor to get sexy with you, because that would be creepy and abusive. The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as a doctor and indulge your fantasy consensually in your own home. 3. Foot Fetish How to use: Lay down a towel or sex blanket before doing wax play, to protect your bed from any errant drips of wax. Light the candle and wait for some wax to melt at the top, and then carefully tilt the candle to drip some wax onto your partner’s skin. It’s best to start with the candle held fairly high—you can stand by the side of the bed to do this—because the farther away it is, the more time it’ll have to cool before hitting skin. You can move it lower if more pain is desired. Avoid delicate areas like the face. When you’re done, gently scrape off all the wax using a butter knife, credit card, or similar (you can roll it up in the towel or sex blanket until you can get to a garbage can to throw away all the bits of wax). Zentai is a skintight Japanese body suit typically made of spandex and nylon. It can cover the entire body, including the face. Dance teams or athletes may wear Zentai, but some people get off on the sensation of having their entire body bound in tight fabric, and wear it for kinky reasons. N2 - Kink practitioners have adopted phrases, like “safe, sane and consensual”, to describe a non-pathological approach in considering risk and harm in kink practices. However, little is known about how risk and consent are negotiated online, particularly when the kink activities occur in private rather than public or semi-public spaces of kink community venues or events. Drawing on 30 in-depth interviews with self-identified kinky gay and bisexual men, this article examines how kinky risk and consent are discussed when organising kink sessions through online platforms. Most participants were unaware of SSC or alternatives. Instead, participants employed diverse methods of negotiating consent and risk which predominantly involved in-depth communication online. Interestingly, participants were more concerned with the risks associated with meeting others online, such as catfishing, than the risks involved with kink. Finally, some participants described a laissez-faire approach to their kink sessions through not planning or discussing risk and consent beforehand

Subspace has been described as similar to a deep meditative state — which research shows can feel incredibly therapeutic and has lots of psychological benefits. But because this meditative state in kink can be highly emotive, we need to take post-play into consideration. You need to take some time to "come down" from the scene. I’m not proud of these experiences, some were good and fun, some I put myself into danger, and all in all I carry a lot of shame. Yes, pregnancy can be the result of sex, but it can also turn people on. Pregnancy kinks include a desire to get someone pregnant (sometimes known as a breeding fetish) and an attraction to pregnant people. "The former is one with an element of riskiness. There's a permanent potential to be forever with the consequences of unprotected heterosexual intercourse," says Renye. The latter may simply be an attraction to a pregnant body or could be a type of age play. 23. Tentacles For most of my adult life I have found that when I am in a relationship for quite a while then I become fixated on the idea of sharing my partner with other men. BDSM is all about enthusiastic consent. The dominant partner won’t step on their submissive’s head and then shove it into a toilet without a big ole’ “yes, please!”Vorarephilia is the infamous cannibal kink. It means getting turned on by fantasies of eating someone, and the subject has made headlines this year due to the sexual assault allegations against actor Armie Hammer. Establish boundaries: informed consent is the most important aspect of exploring kinky sex, so lay the ground rules before you get started. Communication is key, so talk through with your partner(s) about what you are and aren’t expecting, and where your limits are. Sadism refers to a person, a sadist, who gets off on inflicting pain. Their necessary counterpart is masochists, those who get off on receiving erotic pain. As always, S&M relationships require consent from all parties involved. Once all parties feel enthusiastic about what's about to go down, S&M can look like impact play, erotic humiliation, or dripping hot wax on one another. 19. Wax play Of course, literally killing and eating someone is wrong. However, kinks and fetishes are already stigmatized; we don't need to pathologize this one if someone is doing no harm. "It is usually metaphorically, or an embodied feeling, rather than a literal translation," Dr. Richmond says. "Partners will often say, 'I could just eat you alive I’m so turned on by you,' but that's driven by an urge to consume the energy of eroticism and arousal more than a real or uncontrollable desire to consume a part of the human body. Obviously, if it moves into a compulsion or biting in a way that is not consensual, this is dangerous, illegal, and certainly not sex-positive," she adds. To ensure that it’s not a photoshopped fake, ask that they make a special gesture, such as a peace sign or a thumbs up. What is a brat in BDSM?

Went to a Naturist Spa in Kentish Town and banged a 47 year old in a steam room. I’ve also been in a gangbang.’ The one who likes to share… The term fetish is often used interchangeably with kink to refer to any sexual activity that falls outside the mainstream appetite. But fetish is actually a subset of kinky sex, and technically refers to the fixation of an inanimate object that’s not typically sexual such as body parts - notably feet!

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Practise bondage safety: never leave a restrained person unattended, even for a moment. If the Dominant needs to leave the room for any reason whatsoever, always release the submissive to avoid catastrophe.