by Lysa TerKeurst | Nov 6, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetI’ve always wanted to invite you to my home, and now, I finally can. Although we can’t meet in person, I want to have you over (virtually) on November 17th for a conversation about my family’s personal journey with healing relationship heartbreak. In... Lichtenfeld S, et al. (2019). The influence of decisional and emotional forgiveness on attributions. If you’re still having trouble forgiving, especially when you can’t forget, there may be some good reasons to continue trying. by Lysa TerKeurst | Jan 7, 2021 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetTo the girl whose hurt cannot be undone… Forgiving can seem impossible when the other person has not just affected a season of our life but affected us deeply every day since. Unchangeable wounds feel so very unforgivable. I agree; the person who hurt you should...

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by Lysa TerKeurst | Sep 28, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetDo you ever find yourself replaying and reliving the details of the deep hurt in your life? I understand. I’ve been there. And whether you’ve experienced pain through an event or a collection of hurt that built over time because someone wasn’t who they were... Forgiving strengthens relationships. All relationships have the potential to deepen and thrive because of what occurred. A 2011 study suggests that forgiving your partner may be crucial to maintaining a healthy romantic relationship. Forgiving may encourage you to become more committed to not allowing divisive and hurtful conflicts to occur in the future. We don’t forget — we learn. Each experience teaches us something, even the painful ones. Forgetting means you’re forgoing the lesson and growth that can come from it. Instead, consider using it to better equip you for the future. Knowing how to forgive someone can be an essential life skill. It can save friendships, restore faith in our kids, and keep romantic relationships intact.

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by Lysa TerKeurst | Oct 14, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetDo you ever feel like relationships are amazing … until they’re not? I understand this frustration. Because the more deeply we are invested in someone, the more their choices affect us — emotionally, physically, mentally and financially. So how do we...McNulty J. (2011). The dark side of forgiveness: The tendency to forgive predicts continued psychological and physical aggression in marriage. A 2021 study also suggests that forgetting is easier with emotional forgiveness than decisional forgiveness or no forgiveness. decisional forgiveness: making a conscious decision to let go of hurt feelings, such as anger and resentment, putting them in the past, and moving forward free of the effects those feelings can bring Experts in this study suggest that emotional forgiveness can lead to higher levels of forgetting than decisional forgiveness or no forgiveness. Lichtenfeld S, et al. (2015). Forgive and forget: Differences between decisional and emotional forgiveness.