The following year the invitation was reciprocated and we went to the US to stay with them. By then I was 14, almost turning 15. He may well have tears in his eyes when you are done. This is less crying than a reaction to the stress. Lion tends to stay in position as he composes himself. He should thank you for spanking him. If he forgets, let him know he will get another spanking tomorrow. possible issues Count the swats out loud, young man – and don’t lose count, or we start over!” It occurred to me at that point that I had no idea how many swats I was going to get. No number had been mentioned that I could recall. Val didn’t waste any time. The paddle was tapped briefly against my bum, and I held my breath and stared at the wall in front of me.

I also use it if I we’ve pre-planned a long shopping trip and may try it before leaving on vacation. Since he’s still feeling it somewhat, if a spanking is needed it shouldn’t have to be too long, loud or severe to reset him. You can’t do an effective disciplinary spanking with your hand. Your hand will hurt more than his bottom if you try. While a lot of people think of a hairbrush as a spanking tool, it is too light to effectively punish a grown man. A wood paddle is ideal to do the job. You only need one. Chances are that your husband will “gift” you paddles. You could end up with a collection. Lion has accumulated more than a dozen. Regarding sandals, We have a store named Gabes near us that I found a pair of rubbery plastic sandals that are so firm they hardly bend. I cant wear them but they were cheap and I wanted to experiment. They practically screamed “Use for Paddling!” they are now one of the most dreaded implements I have and have brought tears to my husbands eyes after only a brief spanking. He’s begged me not to use them when I’ve reached for one.

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I never thought of giving Stef a spanking BEFORE the arrival of guests – or else: before leaving to see friends or family at their places She turned on the TV and sat down, looking for all the world like a regular mum. Only she and I knew that five minutes earlier she had paddled my bottom good and sore. Our marriage is traditional in the sense that my husband has always been the primary breadwinner and I have always been the homemaker and done the housework. But it is also traditional in the sense that my husband is the unquestioned Head of Household. This does not mean that he has a lot of privileges but that he carries the heavy burden of responsibilities that comes with the position as HoH. He rules with a firm and steady hand, responsibly and focussing on what is best not for him or for me but for us both and our marriage. Though he naturally demands respect and obedience he also is kind and gentle and not in any way a tyrant.

It’s a good idea to regularly remind him that he has a safeword (we use “red”). Make sure he understands that the spanking stops immediately if he uses it. He has to tell you what’s wrong. Attend to the problem. Let him know that he still owes you a spanking which you will deliver at a later time. I have been in this unpleasant situation and had this embarrassing conversation many times and it is stressful. To someone witnessing the situation would seem that I stood in front of my husband like a naughty little school girl but this is not how it feels to me. I never feel like a little girl but am well aware of the fact that I am an adult who still has a lot to learn about how to behave. I am a grown woman who should know better than being as naughty as I have been. No matter what I have done wrong I am always very ashamed when my husband has to correct and rebuke me. It makes me feel guilty and deserving of punishment. I had to assist in the principal’s office again and discipline another half dozen naughty students.I saw David for his 2nd punishment spanking for drinking and driving. You can read his version of the session in my testimonials section in my members area. His girlfriend Lindsay also wrote a report. I caned David 16 times – something he’d never had done before and surely doesn’t want again. You can use the color of your man's bottom to gauge the level of mental effect your spanking is achieving. The more memorable you make each spanking, the greater the benefit it will be for you and your man. Spreading out the spanking evenly across every area of his bottom will reduce the appearance of blood from welts or cuts from your implement. This will allow you to spank longer, and harder, while preserving the overall integrity of the skin so he will be ready for your next spanking. With the right balance, you can ensure that every time your man sits down, he will be thinking of you and your loving discipline. You can also maximize your effectiveness and total strokes by using a variety of implements in one spanking. I hate and fear getting spanked. It hurts so terribly when I have misbehaved and my husband puts his belt or the strap to work on my bare bottom. He always spanks forcefully and methodically and though the severity of the spankings depends on the seriousness of my offence he never stops before my resistance is broken both physically and mentally. For days after my bottom is sore and reminds me constantly of being so naughty that a severe spanking was the only natural and suitable consequence. Whap! The hardest so far, it brought tears to my eyes, although I was fortunately not crying like a baby. “Six, ma’am.”

We finally got home, I carried the bags inside then came out to say good bye to my sister in law and I apologized for speaking rudely. After that my wife told me to go inside and wait for her. I was near the front door as my wife was saying goodbye to her sister then said I'm going to go get him in line." I could really use your insight on the concept of maintenance spanking. In the last week or so, my husband has wanted to explore having a female-led relationship. So while he has always done the cooking, and is a great co-parent two our two children, he's now taking on the majority of the rest of the housework. I'm all in favor of this, as he hasn't always done half of the housework, and our new arrangement has allowed me to be a more present parent and pursue more creative pursuits. In addition to parenting, I am now managing our finances, which I don't mind doing. He has recently wanted to try " maintenance spanking" as a way to reinforce his submission. We've done spanking as a part of sex for awhile, both with my hand and with a flogger, and we enjoy other Dom/sub activities like pegging. But I honestly don't "get" the spanking thing apart from sex. When should it happen? When is it supposed to end? Why are we doing this? We tried last night and decided on a certain number of lashes. He asked afterward if I felt powerful and the answer was NO. I didn't get anything from this and I don't understand it. The whole thing felt very ceremonial and I am not sure what to do with that level of formality. Anything I can do to get in this headspace? Am I thinking about this wrong? I got home Tuesday the 23rd around 6:00pm after a long travel day. The flights went smoothly and no crying babies on board, which was a relief.My next naughty boy was Doug and this was his first session with me. He took a good spanking and I used my hand and hairbrush on him. It was finally quiet as we drove for that way for about a minute and my wife said "A good butt beating." It sounded like she was thinking out loud but no one said anything, I felt my face flush. I thought the boys were just bigging themselves up, maybe trying to impress each other or me. One boy said he was only pretending it had stung. Interestingly, it was only the boys that had volunteered for these spankings. None of the girls had joined in, but they did watch – which might explain some of the over-reacting from the boys!

I get spanked as well for various reasons and attitudes. Now and then we'll be going along fine and out of the blue my wife spanks me soundly! Spanking your husband is part of being a disciplinary wife. It is a skill you develop as you learn to help your husband become a better man. As you perfect this skill, he benefits by becoming happier and more secure. This time, the questioning, lecturing and reprimanding did not go on for long. But being sent in disgrace to the car and waiting there had also provided healthy reflection resulting in guilty feelings and shame. It was almost a relief when I was told to go and fetch the strap from its hook on the inside of the broom cupboard door. Having my naughtiness and failure to behave described and elaborated on in embarrassing detail affects me a lot emotionally and I always experience it as a deeply unpleasant part of my punishment. It is so emotionally troubling and makes me shamefully aware of being a naughty and wayward woman. It also causes me to experience a need for the actual punishment. The fact that I deserve to be punished soundly and thoroughly is made clear to me and I need it not just as correction and behavior adjustment but also as atonement that can relieve me of guilt. I am already at this point, genuinely contrite. There must be a severe and tangible deliverance of punishment to ensure improved behavior.

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He needs a chance to let his body accept that he is being spanked. Mrs. Lion starts out with 10 rather mild swats to a spot on the lower part of his left cheek. She directs all of them to the same spot. Duration of spanking is more about the number of strokes and the intensity of the hits than it is about the length of time it takes. The harder you are hitting, the less strokes it will take to reach the desired level of physical and mental impact. The frequency of spanking depends on the reason for the spanking. As a general rule, it is most useful in training your man to choose more frequent spankings over more serious spankings, but with a proper balance, you will be able to enjoy frequent and serious spankings while maintaining safety and well-being. The three types of spankings - maintenance, disciplinary, and pleasure - and the reason behind them is the most important factor in choosing the severity and duration. The atmosphere during the drive home was unpleasant, and though we did not speak at all, There was no doubt that my husband was displeased with me and intended to teach me a lesson I would not soon forget. I stepped up to it and bent forward – at a stretch, I could just reach the far side. I was on tiptoe and, as it was really warm weather, I was wearing only thin shorts! “Like this?” I asked. “Aha – spread your legs a little wider.” I then felt her hand run over my bottom briefly. She gave my shorts a little tug to pull them tight, then patted my behind a few times gently with her hand. “Perfect!” I heard her say. The two families are still great friends, and we visit each other quite regularly. I have never mentioned anything about that day since to Val, although I’ve always wanted to ask if she was just messing about. I suspect I’ll never get a straight answer. As far as I know, nobody knew anything about that paddling except us two. I certainly didn’t mention it to anyone.