Social media uses this heavily and there is little doubt that its overuse can have detrimental and addictive effects on people. So much so that in 2011 during an interview about the platform, former Facebook vice-president Chamath Palihapitiya said:- Warning: This article contains sexually explicit language and potential triggers for those of you with findom addiction. David’s expertise enables him to aid clients in a step-by-step program to overcome findom behaviour. This step-by-step program includes;

Or, in the case of someone playing the dominant role, feeling as if offering yourself up for objectification sexually is the only way to achieve those missing points? For straight male submissive particularly, the feeling of being “seen” by a beautiful woman (and getting to interact with her) will also produce high levels of dopamine and oxytocin as they feel “validated.” To play a submissive role in BDSM play involves being highly vulnerable to another person. “Aftercare” ensures that the play is not psychologically damaging to the submissive. A findom addiction can be detrimental to a person’s mental, financial and physical health. Severe addiction can lead to bankruptcy and debt which can be a huge psychological strain on the individual and close family who care about them. Families can be torn apart through this addiction as it can cause devastating financial ruin upon the individual and other family members who decide to help. Other strains can be;Another important fact to remember is that unlike drug and alcohol addiction, experts on sex addiction argue that it's less about abstinence and more about engaging in healthy sexual behaviors. Social media is well known to use this process. When you post something, whether it be a picture, a joke or anything else, the act of getting likes, reactions and shares feels good. You feel connected to other people. You feel validated, supported and loved. You won’t find many cougars in this den. Even if the findom is past her early twenties, she’ll still claim to be a gorgeous young thing while accusing the pay pig of being nothing but a washed-up jerk. Older findoms are the exception, not the rule. This is mainly practiced by young women who connect with their guys through webcams, making it difficult to lie about one’s age.

In terms of validation, I don't think that applies to me since I don't have trouble with women and have had a girlfriend for a year currently. I would even lie about myself to a potential findomme and put myself down just because I want to be humiliated and bullied for something. It has made me a bit self destructive. There is obviously the spike in dopamine that comes from sexual activity and orgasm but there are other chemicals at play in sexual activity such as, nitric oxide and in particular oxytocin – which is another “feel good” chemical, often associated with being in love and lust.People need to understand that while technology provides amazing opportunities, it also provides a thousand different ways to ruin your life. There are addictive pitfalls all around our modern world in all kinds of shapes and forms. Findom, Porn, MMORPGS, Social Media, Mobile Games, Online Shopping and Internet Addiction. To live a fulfilled life, these pitfalls must be detected and avoided. Have I continued engaging in findom after I noticed it was causing me harm, or even found it even more tempting then? Being an addict means you’re not in control of your own actions. Which means that enabling their addiction for profit is non-consensual. I've been dealing with findom for years, so I feel your pain. It really is different from regular porn addiction, so don't be surprised if people here don't entirely understand what you're going through. Findom is unique in that you're dealing with a person (a findom) who profits from your self-hatred; someone who is attempting to condition you to get off on destroying yourself. Under normal conditions, you would hate someone like this. Notice exactly what you are doing. You're paying someone for the rush of feeling powerless. The irony is, that it's really a rush from how much power you have over them.. They have no power except what you give them. A findom is a cross between a beggar and a prostitute. Nothing more.