The best belts are not too heavy, but very flexible, supple and controllable. My favorite is an old work belt that has absorbed some weight but is also so worn that it has stretched quite a bit, making it thinner and more supple and flexible rather than heavy and clubby.

First time with the belt – Maman: spanking memories: mothers First time with the belt – Maman: spanking memories: mothers

Today I have virtually no relationship with my parents. My husband knows only that my parents spanked me with a belt on the bare into my late teens, and that is enough for him to have no relationship with them either. My kids barely know them. I have tried a few times to bring it up to them, but they tell me they stand by everything they did. They told me that I deserved what I got and I am a better person for it. They refuse to even consider that I would have any feelings of sexual abuse from what they did. When I mentioned it one time my parents almost slapped me as a married 20-something, but missed and I left. I have since refused to be alone with either of them. Over the years, I’ve learned some good belt spanking tips I will share here. Again this is as it pertains to a domestic discipline spanking. You were very brave in telling your story. You are not alone with this. There are others here who have shared your sorts of pain. It is hard to believe that anyone could believe this was correct and proper care of a child. It is so clearly abusive and humiliating. There is nothing any human child could possibly do to "deserve" such treatment. No matter what anyone says this is hurtful and abusive use of force. You were victim of a crime as a kid. You did nothing wrong. They did somethings really wrong. So proud that you are a loving parent today. Breaking the cycle of child abuse is powerful. Anything else you would like to say about using belts? (is the OtK position convenient, how do you fling your arm, etc).After what felt like days, but was in fact closer to a couple of hours, I heard the front door open and my dad come into the house. I couldn’t hear exactly what he and Mum were talking about downstairs, but I could take a good guess – and he didn’t sound happy. I waited for at least another 45 minutes until eventually I heard my father’s footsteps coming up the stairs. As you can imagine, the highest amount of energy is at the end of the belt where it is doubled over. Which also happens to be where the most weight is. So…energy and weight = painful swat. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, and before Mum and Dad split up she was the disciplinarian of the house. She believed wholeheartedly in corporal punishment, and both me and my brother accepted the fact that if Mum deemed us naughty enough, we could expect to get a very sore bottom. My parents don't seem to think there is a difference between spanking a 5 year old on her bare butt and a 17 year old on hers. When I was an older teenager and having to take off my underwear and bend over in humiliating positions for them they would act like, though it was supposed to embarrass me, it wasn't that big of a deal because they were my parents. For some reason it didn't seem to matter if my sisters were watching, or friends or when they let me friends parents spank me the same ways. Never use belts with rivets, studs or any other decoration that can break skin (the chain belt is completely out of the question)

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As I mentioned above, when I spank my husband, I ALWAYS double the belt over. This increases the weight of the strap and is going to provide a much more harsh and effective spanking. And it’ll be a longer lasting lesson afterwards as well. Swing in control, but swing HARD ladies. A discussion area specifically for survivors who suffered physical, emotional, and verbal child abuse. This forum can also be used for Members who suffered sexual abuse at the time of physical, emotional and verbal abuse. The dread I felt as I saw her come into my room holding that awful belt! As she approached, I’d always instinctively cover my bottom for protection – there wasn’t much shame showing your bare bottom to your mum, although it was degrading. I am 35 years old and beyond happy married. I have three awesome kids. All of that is great and I wouldn't change any of it. My husband is the most gentle, loving, caring man on the planet. I am a professional with a college degree and a great career that I love. Everything should be fine, but sometimes I get so depressed and anxious over the past that I can hardly function. It is not for long periods of time, sometimes just a few minutes until something pulls me from the memories. Other times I can go a few weeks getting by, but being anxious and sad.

This article needs additional citations for verification. Please help improve this article by adding citations to reliable sources. Unsourced material may be challenged and removed. I grew up in Pennsylvania in a pretty conservative religious area. My parents were, and still are, extremely fundamentalist and religious. Spanking was always part of my upbringing, but it was not extreme for most of my life. For example, I was spanked by my parents maybe 15 times before age 15, maybe even less. Most of those were with their hand on my bare butt, long enough to leave some marks for a few hours. A couple of them were with a paddle and twice they were with a belt, also on the bare butt. Those left some marks that lasted longer, but still it was a rare, although severe when it happened, occurrence.

First time with the belt – Maman: spanking memories: mothers

This was going to be awful. My heart raced as I lay there with my bottom feeling particularly exposed. Mum gave me just enough time to wallow in my fear and regret before slowly mounting the stairs and entering her room to fetch that dreaded implement. My poor bottom was going to get a real whipping this time! Belts vary incredibly. The typical, single layer, dryish leather, dress belt is not much of an implement, it is too light and bouncy and also may land unwanted edge hits. But so long as it doesn't have the undesirable tendency to want to twist and produce those edge hits, it might be good to learn with and maybe appropriate for applying a fast-paced spanking that won't overwhelm too much.There are many of us here who for one reason or another chose to not interact with offending family members. It is your own choice how you live today. Honor your parents means only that you thank them for anything good they offered you. The abusive harmful stuff never requires honoring. If anything may your parents come to realize the real truth one day. Their pigheadedness has cost them the pleasure of their lovely daughter and her beautiful family. Rigid families are often toxic. I know it from experience. We are not destined to live like our parents ugliness. Of course, as soon as we got in through the door, there was that calm, steely command from Mummy: “Right – straight up to your room and pull your pants down!”