My parents were not nudists or naturists, they stood full (summer) clothed or in swim-suite every time.

And now, even as I looked at the hairbrush and remembered its past visits to my buttocks, my only concern was for my sister. By the sixth, which he placed diagonally across my bum so it landed across the five welts that had already formed, I was stomping my feet up and down. I don't know how, but I completely forgot about the time and she didn't drop me back off until close to 11. She is sure not to slam it because that would indicate anger and spanking a child when angry would be abuse. I began to question this method as a psychology major when I read studies that clearly illustrated the lasting psychological harm spanking has on children.This was the specialness of my parents; when punishment has been administered there is no hesitation to initiate reconciliation and remind us that we are always loved. My parents really did love me and I know they were only spanking me because they thought that’s what God wanted them to do. Nothing stings and burns as bad as an angry mother slapping your upper thighs over and over with a hairbrush! When I was born in the late 80's but I was smacked on the bottom when my mum would get angry and usually it would be a few times. By 9 or 10 I started to hold back on talking about it, I might mention it casually “Oh yeah, did you know they actually mentioned spanking in that book… it’s so… Biblical.

And I feel more strongly than ever that if parent-teachers, in the sanctity of a child’s home, are permitted to remove her clothing at their whim for the purpose of making her good, they put a hurdle in the way of her learning self-respect. I was being spanked for squirming while being spanked for getting mad while being spanked for throwing my math book on the floor because I desperately wanted to understand but no one could explain in words I could grasp.

My husband used to spank our son (now 15) when our son was younger for things that I would not consider spank worthy (ie. To my eleven I had to be without clothes mainly from health and practical reasons, usually not for punishment.

They tell me it was done to them or it wasn’t so bad and that they deserved it and so do their own children. However, the thing about the term “willful disobedience” is that it boils down to lack of compliance, which is often found in the actions of just being a child. The thought flashed into my mind of how horrible her reaction would be if I piddled on her new carpet that was just installed last month.My cousin and I were older and my aunt warned us to stay away from one area cause there was poison ivy. However… when my father took one of his younger daughters into a bedroom and closed the bedroom or bathroom door, many times he would lift that modest dress. A lot of people hear this and say something along the lines of, “Well that is why you should never spank someone past puberty. I don’t miss my dad’s arbitrary rules having more power and authority then any of the rules in the Bible except “Children obey your parents.