I am actually in a stage with my current Gf where we sat down this past weekend and she asked me if I would be accepting of her having male friends. Without hesitation I told her of course! Reminded her that I’m her boyfriend and not someone there to control who she talks to or spends time with regardless of man or woman. She was relieved and seeing that I was not upset or angry and rather open minded. She proceeded to admit she met a guy last spring who she had been texting with and asked if I was okay with her texting/FaceTiming with him and I told her that I trusted her, as long as she was safe and happy, that I was perfectly comfortable with her having male friends. During that time as i knew they did most of their chatting by facebook i was logging in and seeing what they were up to , not proud of snooping , but i kind of felt justified . Journal of Personality: “Freudian Defense Mechanisms and Empirical Findings in Modern Social Psychology: Reaction Formation, Projection, Displacement, Undoing, Isolation, Sublimation, and Denial.”

So you kept catching her cheating, she promised change, and repeated but never then told you that she wanted to continue being promiscuous?She did not come out and tell me she would not stop; in fact each time she said she was sorry and it wouldn’t happen again. If you have an uncomfortable feeling or a suspicion you can’t seem to justify, that might be your subconscious telling you that your partner is lying about something. Dealing With Cheating He will know in no uncertain terms that I am not man enough for my wife and need him to sexually satisfy her.

City University of New York: “A Grounded Theory Investigation of the Subjective Responses From Partners in Couples Where Infidelity Has Occurred.” I am Two (2) months old in my marriage, and I am already in an emotional affair with someone else. My husband is a good guy and all, but Dave, I am not that much into him anymore. I thought I did, that’s why I agreed to marry him. We had known each other for a few years – so I am a little bit surprised as to why I feel we are not even that connected intimately. We have very good sex and we do communicate so well. He loves me so dearly, but… I feel he’s the only one enjoying this marriage. I have practically fallen out of love with him.My husband has Alzheimer’s. He became a totally different person. The person I lived with was not the person I got married to. I became severely depressed. There was no one but me to do anything and everything. He will be aware of this and hopefully let me hear how much of a whore whore she really is. BTW, she often proudly calls herself a whore. This is a volatile and sensitive period, and it’s okay to feel anger and sadness. Seek professional help immediately if you think you might hurt yourself or someone else, or destroy property. Consider seeing a therapist either alone or as a couple. A professionally trained counselor is a great resource to provide guidance towards reconciliation or establishing a new life without your partner, whichever you choose.

We are building our own Five (5) bedroom house. My husband does not even know my son is not his child. My boyfriend and I are still putting two and two together until it’s time, and then I will leave my matrimonial home – going radio silent. I am just hoping he dies a natural death or I may have to figure something else out if he starts to prove stubborn. (There are numerous ways to kill a cat). I don’t love my husband, Dave, so I honestly do not have any sympathy left in my being for him or his feeling.”Of course she did not believe me at first. ....but she she would love to do this though if she had some sort of reassurance. I’ve been married for a few months (not even up to a year). I guess I’m cheating on my husband because he didn’t really meet my expectation. Don’t ask me what that means – because I am still figuring it out myself. He’s not enough for me in everything. My present worry is how secure (financially) I am going to be, with him. I don’t know why I married him. I know, it sounds foolish, but that’s the truth, Dave. I still can’t name one reason why I married him. Of course, I love him, but what kind of love it is – I don’t know. The man I am having an affair with, gives me GHs 2, 500, every two weeks. It’s been Seven (7) months now, and he’s still wiring that amount into my account. According to him, I deserve it. I deserve to be pampered. He makes me happy, Dave. Sometimes, I wish I could give him a baby instead.” If he hadn’t abused and disrespected me, I probably wouldn’t have fallen into a different hand. My husband took me for granted. He walked all over me, reduced me to nothing, and then expected me to remain faithful and endure? STUPID man!” Why I cheated on my husband, I still don’t know. It was purely an unfortunate mistake. I was tempted, and I fell for it. I didn’t plan to cheat. There was no reason for me to cheat. I am happily married to a great guy, and father to my baby. All he’s ever done is to love me. He’s never wronged me. I just made a mistake. I have no feelings whatsoever for the other guy. It was just sex. Projection happens when a person who has done something wrong starts to accuse others of the same bad behavior and/or imagine everybody else is doing it, too. While mental health professionals disagree about how projection works, they do agree it exists. Projection is what makes a cheating partner more likely to accuse you or someone else of cheating.

Though it was just sex, it was good sex. I loved it. It was different, intense and wild. I guess I still remember it because – if I were to compare and contrast with that of my husband’s, I’d grade the guy 180/100. My husband is 65/100. I don’t intend telling my husband about that mistake. It’s going to be a secret I would have to die with. I am not ending friendship with that guy either. Nobody knows tomorrow, so I’m keeping him in an arm’s reach. Being a mother helped me make my family a priority, thus, my decision to want to do the right thing… so help me God!” I even told him in effect that if all went well, this could become a regular thing with him and my GF. For me, it’s a ‘tit’ for ‘tat’: You do me, I do you, simplisita! And I’m ‘doing’ him with so much pleasure and joy. Who cares what he thinks?” He arrived and was gentleman... although he was a bit of a loss about it all...why I approved of it...even if my then live in GF had previously explained it to him. As soon as i walked in the room i thought for sure my drunk ass was hallucinating. I saw my wife in bed and next to her there was ANOTHER MAN!!!! They both were sleeping and naked and i almost passed out right there on the spot. I broke out in to cold sweats and got dizzy. I quietly rushed downstairs to try to get a hold of myself because i didn't know what i was going to do. Of course it didn't help that i was drunker than George W. Bush.Finding out your partner cheated can bring up an array of emotions. You may feel angry, sad, guilty, betrayed, and more. It is usually difficult to think clearly immediately after you’ve found out about infidelity. You should consider the following: You should not keep your emotions bottled up inside. Try to find a release valve for that pressure. Share your feelings and what you’re going through with trusted friends and loved ones. If you're beginning to feel like your wife is being unfaithful, there are a few signs to look for that might suggest she's cheating. 1. There is no intimacy. There might be times when your partner simply disappears and you have no clue where they are. That might mean that they are with someone they don’t want to tell you about. Every woman ought to get to understand a man by letting them speak – at length if necessary. And when it’s your time to show him what time it is, you’d do a better job than those who merely display ignorance (all in the name of ‘duty’, simply because you’re his wife). Dave, I’m far better positioned to sustain a long term journey with my customers in a session. I don’t have to be funny to stay relevant in my business, but it helps to be fun. I am the kind of woman who brightens up a man when I see one, as opposed to the women who brighten up a room when they leave it. You can’t see me and just watch me go; unless I don’t like you.