Wake up in the midst of a wet dream, in which I’d just had an argument with a boyfriend and was locked in a bathroom, with family yelling outside, masturbating. Discuss all topics related to femme and feminine lesbians, just remember to keep it civil and be kind! Serena Williams tries to slip into denim Valentino skirt as a 'goal' five months after giving birth. Picture this, a 60 year-old woman (I just learned her age which I can’t believe) and a 30-year old lesbian (very much the OUT, soft-butch type), talking, for something like 30 minutes about the boss, and then for 3 hours, and the 30 year-old is totally turned on, and the 60 year-old very eager to know her better (or so she said several times).

So I respect older single lesbians, “solos,” who choose to focus on their family, their art, their friends and community, rather than on dating and romance.

Your differences are a chance to learn more about each other and the world, not a disadvantage that will hold you back. I know if I followed my heart with a much older woman that I'd just leave her in the end for a younger woman because I will lose attraction when she gets too old. Julia fell head over heels and believing the moment was right, popped the question to her older girlfriend just before Christmas - and she said yes. A guy I had sex with in 1987 (now happily married with two kids and living in the ‘burbs) shows up and tells me how great I look. But I tried to forget about her… it was just a little treat to see her once a week, I thought, nothing more.

After a bunch of beers at the bar, we decide to move the drinking to my apartment, and everyone comes along, including Drunk Acquaintance. The Hot Young Lesbian and I get out of there and decide to continue our evening elsewhere, stopping at the roast beef joint, then eating our sandwiches at an old school Polish bar and finally ending up at my local watering hole.

Plus, sexy age-gap couples like Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor (32-year gap), Rachel Maddow and Susan Mikula (14-year gap), and Tig Notaro and Stephanie Allynne (13-year gap) keep lesbian May-December relationships in the spotlight. To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. Madonna says that when she came out in the '90s, she was so grateful to be able to point to Ellen DeGeneres after she came out and say, "I'm like her. But the workout session goes better than she ever thought possible, when Terry, a lusty mature lesbian that works in the gym takes a special interest in Denise and goes above and beyond to make her comfortable in so many ways that are simply naughty! At the end of the day, these people in your life care about you and ultimately need to understand that the other is worthy of respect.

Her words inspired the name of a new Conscious Girlfriend Academy class: Coming Out and Coming Home. A 2013 survey found that LGBT people were more likely than straight people to be attracted to people ten years older than them. Older single lesbians I know often feel like they can’t “waste any time” with dating that doesn’t go anywhere, for instance. In other words, not only are lesbian age-gap relationships way more common than heterosexual ones, they’re also possible throughout our community.But it’s also true that for many older lesbians, the desire to have more of what matters most in life — emotional connection, meaning, intimacy, affection, and, yes, sensuality and sex — is still as present at 80 as it ever was. At the same time, the knowledge that life is short and fleeting, that there are many more years behind than ahead of us, fills many of us with a sense of urgency.