Like this article? Sign up to our newsletter to get more articles like this delivered straight to your inbox. Feeld is similar to 3Fun in that it’s all about connecting open-minded people who may be looking for threesomes and other group sex activities. They are now based just outside Amsterdam and have lived there since March 2022 and say they love the "openness and fluidity of Dutch culture". BuddyBang isn’t a difficult concept to grasp, thanks to its very evocative name. The nice thing with BuddyBang is that it’s all about casual hookups, and many of the people in that boat are down to try swinging.

Brenna also hates to see newbies come from a place of scarcity. "Couples with kids and a lot of obligations think they need to get all of the swinging done on this one night they had free that month." In reality, plenty of swingers only attend a couple of events per year. ‘Cum’ from a place of abundance and don’t stress if you ‘only’ play together in front of an eager audience. Enjoy each other. This is about inviting others into what you two share, not just getting some permissible stranger. Biphobia and transphobia in the lifestyle Kenzie, who has been in the lifestyle for about 13 years, laughingly referenced yelling at her husband out of jealousy at times. But that doesn’t mean non-monogamy doesn’t work just like yelling about the dishes doesn’t mean a marriage is in shambles. You talk through it. In the Netherlands people don’t bat an eyelid, everyone is very open here," Cate said. “Sexuality and nudity isn’t a big deal." Couple-swapping in the modern age involves the internet (sorry!). "We don’t recommend going out to a vanilla bar and trying to hook-up with people," says the other half of podcast Friends with a Twist, Madison. "It doesn’t usually work." Madison, 33, met her husband at a swinger house party surrounded by like-minded people, not at the local dive.Top image: Joyce Huis / Unsplash. Two weeks ago, we published John’s story, a 40-year-old Singaporean man who has been swinging with his wife Mary since 2018. Now, we bring you the story from Mary’s perspective. Names have been changed. As you can see, the swing lifestyle is extremely varied and interesting. Therefore, there’s every chance that you know someone who swings themselves. Is the Swinger Lifestyle Community Couples Only?

This makes Pure a great option for people who are into swinging and other non-mainstream sexual activities. For the first time on the cruise, I was starting to feel worn out – in the most satisfying way, of course. After a morning of topless photos on the beach, we invited a friend to our room for a threesome. She had suggestively asked to help celebrate my husband’s birthday, and he was more than happy to unwrap this gift.

Breaking this rule without prior agreement from your partner is a breach of trust,’ says sex expert Isabelle from Bedbible. ‘Crossing your partner’s boundaries in this way and being dishonest by doing it without their consent damages the foundation of trust needed in a relationship.’ Can ‘soft swinging’ have benefits in a relationship?

We tend to be more open and less surface level, everyone is nude and disarmed without any judgments. I find with other women I can be honest and deep instead of competitive and catty as we are not sizing each other up to see where each of us sit in the hierarchy. I think over the next three to five years, way more people are going to be doing it – it’s becoming more socially acceptable.’ Getting into swinging takes confidence and understanding. Therefore, making sure you understand what’s involved and following the right advice can help you get the most from the experience. Swinging Advice - Agree on the Same Things Swinging may have gotten particularly famous in Western culture in the 1970s during that era of “free love,” but it’s more popular than ever. If you can’t handle seeing a dance floor make-out, you probably won’t be able to handle seeing their face full of someone else’s genitals.

I opened up to him and said that I wanted to be a part of this ‘unconventional’ journey. I wanted us to figure this out together—whatever that may look like, rather than have him doing this alone. Into the World of Swinging People within the swingers community use the term ‘soft’ to explain the act of switching partners to kiss, touch or have oral sex.