When the person you’re talking to shares something that they’re passionate about, do your best to relate. Why this Book Is Guaranteed to Work! This Is Not a Book—It’s a Contract Sociological Studies Support the Contract Listen to the Testimonials Part Two Making Strangers Like You, Instantly! 04 Hi! How Do You Like Me So Far? But Is Being Popular Really Being Liked? What’s Your Optimism Quotient (OQ)? As mentioned, this will take a lot of practice, but as long as you do that, you’ll be able to attract people naturally in time.

He spent thousands of hours researching, studying and applying the principles and secrets of success and happiness.Reklau emphasizes the need to put ourselves in other people’s shoes, understand their perspectives, and show compassion. Empathy allows us to connect with others on a deeper level, which can lead to stronger and more meaningful relationships. To be a people magnet, you’ll need to tweak a couple of habits and personality aspects. This is so you can be more appealing and attractive to others that they’ll want to be near you or be comfortable being around you.

The most successful people , quite often, aren’t the ones with superior intelligence or the best skills, and the happiest people most times aren’t smarter than we are, yet they are the ones who have the greatest people skills .

My Book Notes

You will find it way easier to connect with people if you can find a common ground with them. When speaking with people, start talking about your interests and encourage them to talk about theirs. When you find that common interest, that’s something you can use as a foundation to interact with them further. and being popular in the sense that we knew in school is not the same thing. And when the chips are down, we help people we really like first.

I Just Want You to Be Happy! 212 Clause #46: “You Make Me Sooo Happy” Clause #47: She’s “The Ball Game,” Not “The Ball Game” 54 Hyperbole as Aphrodisiac Clause #48: My Lyrical Love What’s Your Optimism Quotient (OQ)? To find out precisely what qualities make people like us, the American Sociological Association conducted a vast study.12 The results? At the top of the list was having a positive optimistic personality and confidence in yourself. I’m sure you’ve seen the TV interviews with the athletes just before the tennis match, the football game, the wrestling match. The reporter asks the player, “Do you think you’re going to win?” She replies, “Definitely.” In another interview, he asks her opponent the same question and her answer is the same, “Absolutely.” Or a reporter asks a boxer, “Are you going to win?” He replies, “I’m-a gonna kill da mudder fudder.” Then he asks the contender the same question. He answers, “Ha! I ain’t gonna swap leather for kids who were playing a game similar to an old TV game show called “To Tell the Truth,” except the kids formed two teams, the “telling team” and the “guessing team.” One kid on the telling team named Sally started by saying, “My parents promised to take me to Disneyland for my birthday this year.” The next kid, Willie, said, “My parents promised to take me to Disneyland for my birthday this year.” And so on down the line, each said, “My parents promised to take me to Disneyland for my birthday this year.” I couldn’t help but notice Lucy. The other kids were listening to the speaker, but Lucy’s eyes were glued to the speaker. Just as the final kid, Jason, finished saying, “My parents promised to take me to Disneyland for my birthday this year,” Lucy piped up with, “Willie is the real one.” Willie nodded in confirmation. “Hooray! Hooray!” Everyone started clapping. The wide-eyed principal leaned over to me and said, “I just don’t know how she does it. It’s truly phenomenal. She guesses right almost every time. Just hearing one sentence, she knows who’s telling the truth. It’s almost eerie.” I agreed that it was indeed phenomenal. However, I knew little Lucy had no mystical or supernatural powers. Deborah had told me the secret. As I was helping Julie on with her coat, I overheard Lucy talking with Willie. “When are you going to go to Disneyland?” Little Willie with downcast eyes said, “Next month.” Do You Want to Be Popular, or Do You Want to Be Liked? Clause #28: Befriend a Nerd 33 What If I Only Feel Those Butterflies When I’m Talking to Him or Her? Great, So I Know Why. Now How Can I Get Rid of Those Butterflies? Clause #29: I’ll Talk to the Tens 34 Have You Ever Had a Friend . . . : Who Changed Your Way of Looking at Life Forever? Clause #30: My Physically Challenged PalA conclusion I formed after reading this book is that those principles are not new. Those principles were already highlighted in the past, yet people fail to implement them. I guess using common sense and kindness towards others would be enough to start with. And as Marc Reklau says in his book “…you might end up disappointed when you are kind to people, and they don’t respond to it, or maybe they even take advantage. Don’t let this change you. Is not your problem; is theirs.” After graduating from school, he got a job as a structural designer for a prestigious engineering company. Personally, I’ve worked with a lot of introverted engineers, programmers, and developers in the past.

Before saying thank-you, I will think to see if it fits to tell why I am thankful. Then I’ll say, “Thanks for . . .”If shy, I will talk to at least ten strangers a day. I’ll put enthusiasm in my voice, a twinkle in my eye, and practice the Fifteen Clauses until I get them perfect. This one takes a lot of practice to perfect. That said, take a story from your own life for now and practice telling it in a way that should captivate the listeners. Practice at home. Try telling it in front of a mirror. Make sure you tell your story coherently and make sure it flows naturally. Set every scene, mention details that are relevant, and leave out those that aren’t. If you want to attract friends actively look for things you have in common and draw attention to your common experiences. In conversation use language like, ‘I know what you mean’, ‘I thought so too’, ‘I get it’ and so on that show that you are on the same wavelength. Behave in a friendly way, be open and enthusiastic, focus on the positive, smile and act like someone who really enjoys life. If you know a lot about the topic that’s being discussed, then mention your personal experiences as well.