Ultimately, authenticity is the only way to connect with others genuinely; how can others relate to you and develop a deep connection with you if they never hear what you feel and want? I recently started reading Danielles blog posts, and i fell in love with her writing style and her messages entangled in the blog posts. Daring to Trust explores the importance of trust throughout our emotional lives: how it develops in childhood and how it becomes an essential ingredient in healthy adult relationships.

If you were parentified by vulnerable and needy parents, you might internalize the unconscious belief that you are loved not for who you are but for what you can do for others.

Children of narcissistic parents may have difficulty asserting their own needs and desires because they were never the focus of their parent's attention while growing up. In a year of historic violence and discord—the Tet Offensive, the assassinations of Martin Luther King, Jr. So if your parent had ignored or not paid attention to you, you would receive the message that you were unimportant and did not deserve a place in the world. You may describe it as “awkward” or “uncomfortable” when in reality, you might be faced with deeprooted shame feelings from your past— the shame of not being able to do anything useful for your parents, the shame of not being able to save your parents from the abusive partner or the alcoholic spouse, etc.

If your parent had ignored or neglected you, you would have received the message that you were unimportant and unworthy of a place in the world. Personally, I think the passion for an extraordinary life, and the courage to pursue it, is what makes us special. She is a firm believer in the idea that vulnerability can be a super power that connects us, eradicates shame, and helps us heal. Instead, they may attract self-centred, narcissistic, emotionally stunted, and selfish people who take advantage of their inability to speak their truth and draw a line. Since there was no one to comfort your young soul and let you know it was not your fault, you have internalized the feeling that no matter how much you do, you aren’t good enough.Now, though, I couldn’t believe that there had been a time when this kind of monotony and silence, this most narrow of existences, had been preferable.

But because they were uncomfortable being seen through and confronted continuously with your radical honesty, they tried subtly or explicitly to keep you from voicing your views. and Robert Kennedy, the riots at the Democratic National Convention in Chicago—the Apollo 8 mission would be the boldest, riskiest test of America’s greatness under pressure.

When you realize that you can never control how others perceive you, you may feel free to follow your heart and express yourself regardless.

It's about them and their own insecurities or limitations or needs, and you don't have to internalize that.In that case, it will be challenging for you to be playful, spontaneous, or creative, relax in relationships, and produce original, impactful work. When a parent is emotionally volatile, they inevitably consume all of the emotional space in the home. As much as possible, trust that other people want to get to know the real you, not a made-up version based on their expectations. We don’t see power as finite and hoard it; we know that power becomes infinite when we share it with others.