Even significant life events such as buying a house, having a baby or planning a wedding could lead to feelings of sadness. When using this tool, Jacobs is able to help her patients heal past wounds, depression, anxiety, stress, or trauma; by accessing the memories of the deeply buried core emotions from the past, patients can release and experience their emotion, feel it in their bodies and release it. Autorė labai atvirai dalinasi savo asmeninio bei darbinio gyvenimo patirtimis. Atvirauja apie savo ieškojimus ir atėjimą į psichologijos sritį. Taip pat pasakoja, jog buvo viena tų, kurie tiki, jog gali valdyti savo emocijas. Pasirodo, ne viskas taip paprasta.

You may have a higher risk of depression if you have a longstanding or life-threatening illness, such as coronary heart disease, cancer or a condition that causes long-term pain.

This was a non-fiction book so will be a general review rather than focusing on the usual plot and pacing, characters and writing style.

Whether you’re a therapist, in therapy, simply curious, or all of the above, this book is sure to be refreshing, interesting, helpful and useful. Apie įspūdžius. Na, nebuvau aš sužavėta. Pirmiausia kliuvo tai, kad čia nėra tas rašymo stilius, kai puslapiai tiesiog tirpsta. Pasakojimai iš psichologo kabineto keičia vieni kitus, darosi nuobodūs ir pernelyg detalūs. Ta monotonija tikrai pabosta. In It’s Not Always Depression, Hilary Jacobs Hendel seeks to distill accelerated experiential dynamic therapy (AEDP) into an easy-to-read guide for both patient and therapist. A major tenet of AEDP is the recognition that often the patient’s initial complaints of depression or anxiety are inhibitory or secondary emotions. These secondary emotions arise from defenses against “core emotions” that have not been fully processed or experienced because of perceptions that they are invalid, too overwhelming, or not socially acceptable. Core emotions can be things like fear, anger, sadness, disgust, joy, excitement, or sexual excitement. The therapist’s goal is to help the patient identify inhibitory emotions, trace them to their sources earlier in life, and physically experience the underlying core emotion. Put yourself in a peaceful place. Imagine a calming place, such as the beach: feel the sun on your skin, hear the sound of the waves, feel the cool sand against your feet, see the water. Find your peaceful place and bring up the image as vividly as possible.This practical and clearly written self-help book written by a gifted therapist helps the reader learn the incredible importance of understanding and accepting your core emotions and the variety of ways we use defenses and other emotions (anxiety, guilt, and shame) to protect us (even though they cause us pain as well). Complementary health approaches. National Alliance on Mental Illness. https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Treatments/Complementary-Health-Approaches. Accessed May 16, 2021. A big take-away from this book; emotions just are! I think emotions can really dictate so much about how we exist and behave in a specific moment, blinding us to who we are when we are not swamped in that emotion. Distancing ourselves from the emotion, and not attaching or identifying ourselves with it, can have a really big change in our day-to-day lives. Understanding how emotions work in the mind and body helps prevent and ease anxiety and depression, and shows us a tried and true, science-based path of healing from our childhood wounds, which we all have to some degree. Emotions turbocharge neuroplasticity (a fancy word for brain change) allowing the brain to re-wire for the better. This may include stuff like allowing yourself to feel angry instead of feeling scared, or feeling “disappointed” instead of feeling angry.

I also like how she says that “core emotions are like ocean waves” - emotions will first intensify before they lessen, like riding a wave that rises and falls. Sure there is some psychobabble and slightly over the top writing going on here, but what self help book is 100% without that? I found the core concept intriguing enough to want to try to work this triangle myself and with others. Also some of the examples within helped me to relate to what some acquaintances may be going through or have been going through or basically why they act the way they do. The author is a trained and obviously skilled therapist and writes honestly about her own struggles and discoveries. She writes with openness, compassion and humor and that offers the reader the opportunity to understand what she is feeling and how she thinks and how she guides her patients to help them discover their true power.

Example of The Change Triangle in Action

Knygoje tikrai daug dėmesio skiriama emocijoms. Jos nėra skirstomos į geras ir blogas, teigiamas ir neigiamas. Šis požiūris man artimas ir priimtinas. Daugiausia dėmesio skiriama pokyčių trikampiui, kuris pristatomas kaip gyvenimą iš esmės pakeisiantis dalykas. It can also release some of the expectations we have around emotions, and feeling like we need to “fix” them or change them. Emotions just are, and they will always be there, part of our human nature. They are almost like roommates living with us in our bodies. Accepting their chaos, constant fluctuations, unreliable nature, and effects on how we feel is ultimately all we can do. This gives us a window into how our minds work and how important it is to pay attention to our bodies and our emotions whenever interacting with others (and ourselves). You might find it hard to explain to people why you feel this way, but talking to someone could help you find a solution.