At this point it’s, we haven’t had sex in years. And it’s not a case where I’m worried. It was hot and furious for several years. It’s not so much that we’ve gotten out of the habit; we’ve just moved to a different stage… It’s not something that we set a conscious effort: ‘Okay, we aren’t going to have sex now.’ It’s more just never— I don’t feel the need right now… I’m at a different stage, and Annette was never, it’s sort of, at this point she’s sort of like, okay this is where we are. These women’s rights issues are critical for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women, but don’t usually rank high among LGBT rights movements’ priorities. At the same time, LBQ+ women are also underrepresented in women’s rights research and advocacy. a b c d e f g Irwin, Jude (June 2008). "(Dis)counted Stories: Domestic Violence and Lesbians". Qualitative Social Work: Research and Practice. 7 (2): 199–215. doi: 10.1177/1473325008089630. S2CID 145674226.

Among men, however, only Jeremy linked his wife’s decreased drive to menopause, although his wife Sherrie said that sex had decreased because “he was having a little issue with erectile dysfunction,” adding, “…and I don’t know if it’s ‘cause also I gained weight so I feel less sexual.” This pattern suggests that amid midlife bodily change, the discordant gender embodiment inherent to straight marriages may increase misunderstanding between spouses, whereas similar embodied experiences particular to lesbian contexts may enhance perceptions of spousal understanding. Sugar (Phyllis Davis) is a prostitute who is framed by a corrupt politician for drug charges. She agrees to work in a sugar-cane plantation for two years, verses serving jail time. Sugar and a new inmate, Simone, encounter a brutal guard and the plantation’s owner, the deranged Dr. John.Newman, Willis C.; Newman, Esmeralda (2008), "What is domestic violence? (What causes domestic violence?)", in Newman, Willis C.; Newman, Esmeralda (eds.), Domestic violence: causes and cures and anger management, Tacoma, Washington: Newman International LLC, p.11, ISBN 9781452843230, archived from the original on 2015-10-22 Weiss RS (1994). Learning from strangers: The art and method of qualitative interview studies. New York: Free Press. [ Google Scholar] Debbie: I don’t want to go that far, but there is an acceptance… I do think that people have different ideas about the meaning of how important sex is within a relationship, and I would say for both of us it’s not the most important thing. Emily Allen Paine, Department of Sociology, University of Texas at Austin, 1 University Station A1700, Austin, TX 78712–1088, ( [email protected]). The 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey found that 47% of transgender people are sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetime.

In the last couple of years I’ve been way more interested. A lot more interested. And I think we have this sort of disconnect, because my mind-set is that he’s a man and so of course if he’s a man he wants [sex], it’s going to be all the time. And he’s, you know, constantly explaining, ‘Look, it’s not really like that anymore. I’m a 43-year-old, 42-year-old man. It’s not like, you know, I’m not 20 anymore. … For me I take it a little personally. I’m like, oh, does that mean that, you know, you don’t love me? Rich A (1980). Compulsory heterosexuality and lesbian existence. Signs, 5( 4), 631–660. [ Google Scholar]Meanwhile, a junky inmate Stokes (Roberta Collins) and other prisoners plot against Carol, with the hopes of obtaining more drugs or a sooner release. Eventually, Carol and a few other convict allies plot to escape, but have to be careful of the local poachers that are paid to hunt and kill escapees. Some are revered as satirical spoofs or weak homages passed off as being edgy with an overly polished presentation. Or they are just straight up violent porn videos with no original storylines, charismatic characters and nothing memorable. Similarities in straight and lesbian women’s narratives illuminate how midlife experiences constrain sex in marriage over time (see Delamater & Sill, 2005, Dzara, 2010; Lindau & Gavrilova, 2010; Lindau et al., 2007) and extend our understanding of how married women interpret sexual change in connection to cultural norms beyond the straight context (see Carpenter, Nathanson, & Kim, 2006; Crawford & Popp, 2003; Elliott & Umberson, 2008; Lodge & Umberson, 2012; Umberson et al., 2015). In particular, women who reported chronic pain said that their spouses avoided sex due to the spouse’s fear of causing additional pain. In addition, women framed surgical and medical interventions as having diminished their sex drive. Both straight and lesbian women drew comfort from the straight marital norm (“like any married couple”) that sex typically decreases in marriage with advancing age and the passage the time. This script seemed to allow both straight and lesbian women to view less sex as natural and therefore less distressing. For researchers and clinicians supporting women in midlife, these processes and frames indicate important points of intervention. Interventions designed to ameliorate the impact of chronic pain on women’s lives should attend to sexual relationships and incorporate a relational approach that focuses on women’s partners and their fears about inducing pain. In addition, framing women’s experiences as typical may help ameliorate distress related to decreased sex.

Sofía Blanco, indigenous land defender, Mexico “I think one queer woman’s story can change those that come after it. That is why I agreed to talk to you, to tell you what happened. [2]Gott M, & Hinchliff S (2003). How important is sex in later life? The views of older people. Social Science & Medicine, 56( 8), 1617–1628. 10.1016/S0277-9536(02)00180-6 [ PubMed] [ CrossRef] [ Google Scholar] a b Bornstein, Danica R.; Fawcett, Jake; Sullivan, Marianne; Senturia, Kirsten D.; Shiu-Thornton, Sharyne (June 2006). "Understanding the experiences of lesbian, bisexual and trans survivors of domestic violence: a qualitative study". Journal of Homosexuality. 51 (1): 159–181. doi: 10.1300/J082v51n01_08. PMID 16893830. S2CID 12763557. BE sure to join our ONLINE Chat Room on Sundays 5-9 pm (ET) NYC Time. It's free. Go to: paltalk.com - Set up your Free Account - Then, on SUNDAYS ONLY, find our Chat Room which is called: "Beware of Spiritual Deception." It is located in the Spiritual/Religion/Christian Area. Be sure to add my user-name Levi77 (Make Sure you come at the TIME WE ARE OPEN: 5-9 pm ET Easter Time USA) Another reason why domestic violence can occur is dependency. [5] The need to achieve balance between separateness and connection has been identified as the primary task in relationships, and is a specifically frequent problem in lesbian relationships. [15] The degree of dependence on a relationship and on one's intimate partner causes abuse. Lesbians who report more frequent use of violent tactics in conflict with their partner will report a higher level of dependency as a personality trait. Straight couples often talked about seeking help from doctors or counselors to increase or maintain sex. For example, Dean said that he had taken medicine after complications from diabetes inhibited his “ability to perform,” but to no avail. He sought continued advice from his doctor, even though “He’s tried all kinds of ideas, and they don’t work, they just don’t work.” Lesbians, however, did not typically bring up diminished sex and sexuality with their health professionals; they said that when they did, their providers’ responded dismissively. As Julie said,