Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour? How can an individual with ADHD deal better with this undesirable chore? Here are a few helpful hints I share with my clients who complain of clothes piling up, staying in the washer or dryer for too long, and never finding their way to designated drawers and hangers. Doing Laundry with ADHD: 5 Sanity-Saving Tips 1. Simplify Your Wardrobe From the husband-and-wife team behind social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love, whose viral videos have been viewed more than 200 million times, comes a fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD. They share the strategies they have used to reduce shame, improve communication, and find happiness in their neurodivergent household. If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships.

I found myself connecting immediately with Roxy’s stories, having been to the extreme ends of untreated ADHD myself. I felt like I wasn’t alone. Sometimes in the modern day of TikTok, ADHD can be presented as just quirky or cute. Rarely do people talk about what it’s like to be an addict, to get evicted, to ruin relationships, and all the true darkness that can be the result of undiagnosed ADHD. But Roxy does this with honesty and humor. Keep articles of clothing that are interchangeable for numerous outfits and can be worn in various settings. Eliminate high-maintenance clothing that requires special washing instructions or ironing. By keeping your wardrobe small, your laundry won’t pile up, and it will feel more manageable on laundry day. We have definitely spent years arguing about chores, dinner, being organised, etc and honestly seeing that it is the same for other couples is a relief. I now try not to get frustrated and remember that we see things differently, and that assistance and gentle reminders really go a long way! Thank you both so much for this book. My therapist loved it after I suggested she read it and I love it to. Thank you both so much for your content and helping people with ADHD 🥰 Reading this book helped me learn things about myself. I was able to view myself from a new lens providing me with a new perspective ob myself. The authors do an AMAZING job at breaking down the content in an understandable way that makes you stay engaged and helps you.

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From the viral TikTok duo, @ADHD_Love comes a tried-and-tested, no-guilt and no-shame guide to self-love and navigating relationships with ADHD

Not onyl is this book written from the perspective of Rox, the person with ADHD, but also from the perspective of Rich, her partner. I have read countless books on ADHD since being diagnosed about 8 years ago. While this book is not the most “scientific”, it was the most profound and helpful for me emotionally. You won’t find typical advice in here (you know the advice all of us have tried and failed at again and again) - this book is more about connecting with and accepting yourself. There is practical advice in working WITH your ADHD and good advice for partners. The portion for partners is wonderfully geared towards reframing your mindset towards your ADHDer along with small shifts in the way you approach/help them. Told through 10 ADHD symptoms, the book is described by the publisher as an honest journey through Emery’s experience of navigating work, personal hygiene, and platonic and romantic relationships before and after her ADHD diagnosis. Thank you for reading ADDitude. To support our mission of providing ADHD education and support, please consider subscribing. Your readership and support help make our content and outreach possible. Thank you. Save We are still going to live separately but we are going to use that space to heal and we will spend time together enjoying our quirks. Then he can go to his pristine house and I can enjoy my floordrobe in peace.

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I am a 32 year old AuDHDer (I'm autistic and have ADHD - as well as other common mental health comorbidities). I've always felt like the female experience of these conditions often goes ignored, whether by professionals or everyday folks who have been trained by society to only see ADHD as something seen in hyperactive little boys, that it 'cant really be a disability', or that it's something someone can grow out of or simply learn to get a grip on. Rich, Rox's husband, is unapologetically frank in offering his side of the story and wholly compassionate towards not only the severity of the condition his lovely wife lives with, but supportive and understanding of the condition itself. It's very clear that he is actively doing his best to not only support her, but that he accepts Rox exactly the way she is and loves her unconditionally. Together, they are living their lives in a way that suits them BOTH - this is not a case of 'pandering' to Rox's ADHD symptoms. It's a husband and wife team utterly in love and both doing their absolute best to support one another.

This book was AMAZING. It was the first book I have finished in years, I read it cover to cover on a plane ride unable to put it down. I have an undiagnosed ADHD partner (it was my therapist that suggested he might be) and since looking into certain behaviours, things make so much more sense. The fewer clothes you have to wash, the easier the laundry process. Try minimizing your wardrobe to only the clothes that you really need and that suit your lifestyle. (This is easier said than done, especially if impulse shopping is a habit!)The pair’s social media channels, @ADHD_Love, have more than 900,000 followers and their videos have been viewed more than 200 million times. They said: “It’s a rather scary thing, to share with the world that you struggle to shower and keep on top of laundry. To see those very vulnerable stories resonate with so many people has been incredibly heart-warming. ADHD can be very isolating so there is great comfort to be taken from realising that we are not alone. Wow! I’ve been waiting to write this for awhile so I could get my thoughts organized. In typical adhd Fashion, I put it Off forgetting about it and this will likely be jumbled - so bear with me… What if you stopped feeling ashamed of constantly being late or of getting so hyperfocused on a task that you drop everything else you had to do? How can you as a partner, parent, or friend better understand your neurodivergent loved one’s way of moving through the world?

I plan on suggesting my partner read the book, I loved that the book was geared to help the person with ADHD and their partners. One option is to take your dirty laundry to a friend’s or parent’s house or a laundromat the same day each week (call it “Laundry Tuesday”) and not depart until everything is sorted and folded. Being in a laundry space, or working with a buddy, keeps you focused and on-task. Written with kindness and compassion, it not only gives practical solutions, but it normalises the struggles, and gives validity to both ways of perceiving what is going on so there's s understanding.DIRTY LAUNDRY is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love. Publishing director Marianne Tatepo acquired world all-language rights in all formats from Oscar Janson-Smith at Gleam Futures in a “significant” two-book deal made in a 48-hour pre-empt. Rox’s humour and honesty amidst the tumult of coming to terms with the 10 key symptoms of her adult ADHD diagnosis, and Rich’s commitment to learning, gently challenging and empathising, will no doubt provoke ’a-ha!’ moments in many couples, families and friendships—as they did for me. I couldn’t think of a better duo to tell this unfiltered story of acceptance, self-love and mutual compassion.” The only sort of “negative” I would say is that the chapter on finances can be disheartening for those of us who do not have a partner that works in the banking industry or is good with finances. The chapter does give some good emotional support points, but it was the one chapter in which I could not connect with the idea of successfully conquering that area of my life.