This doesn’t make her a bad person. Far from it in my book… Look — the idea that a grown women has to always be rescued from a public flirtation where all she had to do was slightly pull away isn’t exactly very empowering. You say you’ve never had a reason to not trust your wife, implying that maybe now you do. Because some other man called her hot and grabbed her butt at a party. You’re having a hard time getting over this, not because your wife might feel objectified, uncomfortable, or even victimized, but because YOU don’t like that someone is moving in on your territory. You know, maybe this neighbor friend isn’t the only guy treating your wife with less respect than she deserves. I can’t answer whether the relationship can be fixed and whether it is “worth it.” But you do have kids together and your girlfriend did give YOU multiple chances after all of your self-described “wrongs.” So it seems fair and logical to give her another chance and to do your due diligence to make things right for a change. It’s going to take you BOTH working together, going to therapy, building your trust, and making an investment and genuine effort to prioritize your relationship and your family. Give it at least six months and then re-evaluate. A family is worth at least that much before you walk away. He was not impressed by it and almost never responded in the group chat. But she kept including him.

My question is, should I just ignore it and leave things as they are or should I tell my wife this friendship has to stop? It hasn’t affected us in any way – we still have a healthy sex life and get along really well.

by Lee Gimenez

Wow, so you see a man grope your wife’s butt at a party and rather than, I don’t know, ask your wife if she’s ok, confront the guy, or suggest leaving the party, you… do absolutely nothing. Until the next morning when you ask your wife about it and then start getting bothered — not because of how your wife might be feeling about all this, but because you feel threatened. I don’t think it’s fair to call him out for not marching over to protect his wife, but he’s left out literally any description about his wife’s emotional response to literally everything. Almost to the point that it seems like he can’t recognize other people’s emotions. And his regret about the conversation with his wife is that he didn’t ask if this had happened before, and how long it happened for…. like information gathering must be strictly quantitative? On the same day last August he resigned from a second company, ALS Trade, an IT wholesaler that he founded in March 2018.

If this is typical of you and your relationship, then perhaps your marriage isn’t as great as you say it is. And maybe that attention from the neighbor guy wasn’t completely unwelcome. That’s not to say it WAS welcome or that your wife did or said anything to prompt it. But maybe a wife whose husband would see such behavior and literally sit there and do nothing is desperate to be noticed. My main thing here is the LW gave very little information. The advice really should just be for him to talk to his wife because nobody here knows what’s going on in her head and no one here was at the party. The way I would handle a situation or how I think my friends would react has no bearing on how any other random person out there would handle it or how their friends would react.

Police launched a double murder investigation after they were called to Belle Walk at about 11am on Monday. The suspect’s wife was found with fatal stab wounds and pronounced dead at the scene. Bi, their neighbour, died later in hospital from suspected knife injuries.

I have a feeling now though that he's not going to drop it and that he's got me lined up to be a friend for his lonely wife. This is probably really mean of me, but I just don't want to. I'm working full time and I have a generally busy life, but also I just don't want the pressure of being the person who has to resolve this stranger's loneliness. I've only met her that once when he brought her out to meet me, but I have bumped into him loads of times as he's gone out to work, gardening or he's going for a run. I only ever see her sat at her living room window staring out. It feels like I've been earmarked to resolve the issue of her never going out. About 3 months ago I started to have an affair with my neighbor. We both have children who are friends and we have always spent a lot of time together. It all started off innocently enough and over the years we flirted and started to become emotionally attached. We discussed and shared a lot of things in the past. He is an intelligent person and a good friend of my husband. Most of the time my husband use to travel for his work.And his description of her response when he brought this up was even more vague and gave no indication of what she was feeling. Was she upset? Was she talking about it conversationally? Was she being evasive or vague herself? If you’re not OK with it, I think you need to admit that and speak up now. The fact is, your wife is having an

In many ways I find it sad if women have gotten so used to men groping that they just ignore it. It is such a blatant disregard for personal space and personal boundaries. You can’t respect a person that you are groping, whether you are a man or a woman doing the groping. It is all about doing what you want in the moment with no concern for the other. I feel bad for any woman who thinks she has to stand there with her neighbors hand on her because she feels she can’t make a scene. He would be the one considered to be making a scene here so maybe it is a different outlook. It is one thing to go to a party where people swing because that’s what you want to do and another to go to a neighborhood party and find your neighbor groping you.I didn't meet his wife for a while, but then about a month ago I was cleaning my car and they both came out with their baby and came over to introduce the wife. He did all the talking - told me her name, that she's a SAHP, she doesn't know anyone here - and she stood there nodding and smiling as he spoke, but not actually saying anything herself. He explained her English is limited but she'd love to make some friends, she's very lonely at home alone when he's out at work, and that I should go round for tea with her once restrictions are over. I said something noncommittal like "that's very kind" and left it at that and didn't think anything more of it.