Logic, reason and rationale are not effective weapons against irrational, unreasonable people so do not rely on them. In fact expect that they will be of no use in this instance. Threat, intimidation and fear are the only real motivators for individuals of limited intellectual development. Those are the weapons that may work but even they are most times ineffective. In true reality you would probably be better served to D and move on but I do understand not wanting to take that difficult path. You see R as the easier path but in reality it is usually more difficult in the long run. It does however offer the BS the opportunity to postpone thoughts of breaking up the family. More often than not however, the WS offers so little to the BS during R that the BS begins to see D as the better option. It felt totally natural and unforced. We didn’t talk about it, we just went for it. Our body language was speaking volumes, so I knew this was something we both wanted to do. My first sexual experience with a girl was about to happen and it felt like I was about to go on a shopping spree—I was just that excited. Everything about it was just right. Before I knew it, we were both fully undressed and groping like teenagers.

We’re both confident in our sexuality. There was never going to be any drama afterward of us worrying what our hookup meant and if we’re lesbians now or whatever. Me and my friend are both pretty confident in our sexuality and how fluid it is. For others, this kind of experience might be pretty intense and confusing, but not for us. Being nice and giving her space will not cause her any angst and will in fact perpetuate her behavior since she is getting what she wants without any consequences. Actually your inaction is seen in her eyes as acceptance. Therefore, if you are to have any chance of saving your marriage you must set boundaries immediately and force her to comply. If she does not, then you must be ready to enforce them in a way that will cause her to experience loss. This is usually done with the threat of D but be warned that a threat without enforcement is simply of no value so you must be able and willing to move forward if necessary. Now on to you, you have been way to passive in this whole thing. You should have giving consequences from the very beginning. Read "No more Mr. Nice Guy." This is a book for nice guys like you, who are really no confrontational. Why do you want to be with a woman who would treat you and your kids like this anyway? Something is wrong with your wife that she could do this to you and her kids and feel not shame about it. I get detaching from the marriage but she is basically throwing it in your face and has little regard to how awful this must feel for you. Normal decent people don't do this. There is better out there for you.PARENTS, PLEASE BE ADVISED: If you are a parent, it is your responsibility to keep any age-restricted content from being displayed to your After a couple of weeks of this, my wife is now going out every week and staying out very late, almost 4 AM. I would wake up on Saturday and do things with the kids on my own because my wife would be sleeping in until 12:00 pm. This went on for 4 weeks, and it honestly started to get old. I was OK with her having friends, but this was taking away from us as a family. I wanted desperately for her to have her time to recover after I was gone, but I finally confronted her about it. We had a late-night argument, and I was probably pretty upset. She told me she would try and find a balance.

As a queer woman myself, I was mostly concerned that the two female characters ate a whole plate of spaghetti without brushing their teeth before commencing intercourse. Your wife is having a very common affair, read some blogs the stories and complaints are basically all the same. These hidden complaints always seem to show up after the spouse has crapped all over their partner. Unfortunately for you your reaction to it has only prolonged your misery. You have let her guilt you into inaction, while at the same time continue to raise your children without her. See her actions for what they are, awful. Besides being a genuinely considerate movie with some thoughtful meditations on religion and culture, it has the added thrill of having super erotic sex scenes, made possible because:years old or of legal age to view such material in your local jurisdiction, whichever is greater. Furthermore, you represent and warrant First of all, OP, I am sorry to hear what has happened to your marriage. But everything happens for a reason. And the problems come from both parties. We had pent-up sexual tension anyway. My friend went down on me because we had a vaguely flirty relationship previously anyway. While we weren’t crushing on each other hard enough to want a relationship or anything, we were curious about one another sexually and took whatever opportunity we could get to pursue that. In other words, it didn’t really come out of nowhere. Sorry OP, but if she wants to leave you for another person, lesbian or not, it means she has had enough. As what you said, you're always working, rarely sex and all. It's unsurprising to me to see such things to happen. Four kids and full time work and a lot more.. I really cannot imagine that.. By the way, though, she was having sex with me and was very active in the bedroom right at the beginning of these women's hanging out, which made it even more acceptable for her to go out if she was going to be intimate. We have not been very intimate in our relationship in the past. We went more than a year without sex at least three times, and then it was every three or four months. I was excited about the sex, but after our first argument, things started to change. She was ignoring me and constantly texting this lesbian woman. She ended up having an overnight at this woman's home with some of her friends. I was still fine with it. I am a very loving person and I felt bad for my wife for years without good friends, and here they were taking all our time away from each other. I know. I told her that I was just jealous.

I'm not about to put Kissing Jessica Stein in this category, because it's too weak of a queer film to be even considered. There's also Mulholland Drive, which had some very brief hot queer moments relative to its era (2001). Heavenly Creatures (1994) served the queer goth community particularly well. Sadly, that community is relatively small. Well when I was planning on giving my wife this note I see my daughter drawing on a note book and tearing it up so I take it from here and find a letter from my wife to this woman. I was devastated! Its first sentence was, and I quote "I wish that I could show you my mind so you could see how beautiful you are to me". My wife had never written anything half as beautiful to me our entire 14 years. I confront my wife and all she tells me is that she has a very "special" relationship with this woman. My wife tells me again that she is confused about where she stands with me and again tells me that she needs to find herself. She tells me that she wish she had handled here disappointment with me differently over the years. She basically tells me that all through our marriage she had reason to want to leave me. That she probably should not have married me. Not in those exact words but that was what she was conveying. Meanwhile my wife is going to work with this woman, staying late at work with this woman and still going out with this woman.

The next morning, we talked briefly about what happened over breakfast. It was like talking about the weather, so nonchalant and casual. We were still somewhat in disbelief about what happened the night before but in no way was the conversation awkward. Really, there was nothing to feel awkward about. I complimented her tongue thrusting, she made a comment about my tongue ring, and we raved about how good the pancakes were all in the same breath. As am I. Representation always matters, whether it's in the Halls of Congress or at your local independent theater. Queer women deserve to have their queer female sex represented on screen, without it devolving into typical pornographic tropes: shaved vaginas, sorority sisters, giant jiggly boobs, foot-long dildos, scissoring, a well-hung neighbor guy who just "pops in" for a threesome, etc. There's absolutely nothing wrong with any of these erotic ingredients, per se, but it's formulaic and not particularly representational of most queer sex. By just reading this I already felt the stress, I cannot imagine what would it be if I were to live my life like this.. I am sure I'll suffer severe depression. Not saying cheating is right, but have you thought about what if she suffers depression? Or maybe she was already suffering it and found support from the lesbian lady?