You do come across these poor wretches now and then, though, to the credit of humanity, they are principally confined to that fearful and wonderful society known only to lady novelists. But let us put our hands in our trousers pockets, and let there be some small change in the right-hand one and a bunch of keys in the left, and we will face a female post-office clerk. For Blanche the atmosphere bore no resemblance to the glamorous, fun-filled evening promised in the advertisements. The chapter “More Than Words” responds to the many messages Oderberg has received from people asking what to say or do when someone they know has a miscarriage. In these cases, it’s helpful to create some kind of mnemonic or tool to help you remember when to use which word.

The rates were incapable of bearing the burden in their view and they expressed cautious support for a local income tax.The anthology What We Carry (edited by Ella Kurtz, Simone King and Claire Delahunty) has a section on pregnancy loss, including Eileen Chong’s, Eleanor Jackson’s (mentioned by Oderberg), Maria Takolander’s and my poems. Then there is that generous party, the cadger’s delight, who is so free with his small change, but who never thinks of paying his debts. So when you tell someone to bear with you — to hang in there, to hold strong — or that you can’t bear it — you can’t endure it — think of a bear shouldering heavy burdens or surviving long stretches of winter. I agreed with him as to the utter impossibility of making it elevenpence ha’penny; but at the same time I resolved to one day decoy him to an eating-house I remembered near Covent Garden, where the waiter, for the better discharge of his duties, goes about in his shirt-sleeves–and very dirty sleeves they are, too, when it gets near the end of the month. Hard to Bear is essential reading for anyone interested in the intersection of systemic inequality, empirical evidence and lived experience.

At last, after a careful examination of the contents of the windows, made for the purpose of impressing the bystanders with the notion that he is going in to purchase a diamond bracelet or some such trifle, he enters, trying to do so with a careless swagger, and giving himself really the air of a member of the swell mob.grin and bear it (=accept it without complaining ) It was a horrible job but she had to grin and bear it. Her chapter on First Nations experience, “Gagil Marrung” – written with Arrernte midwife and mother Cherisse Buzzacott – lays out the “very specific challenges Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples experience in all areas of life, including pregnancy and loss”.