Tracy Secombe is the author of From People Pleaser To Soul Pleaser and a coach who works to help people connect with who they’re really meant to be. She breaks down some common signs that you might be a people-pleaser in the workplace. Have empathy for the people who are accustomed to your people-pleasing and share with them that you are doing some personal development and starting to change some ingrained habits. When you engage in people pleasing you are out of integrity with yourself, your goals, your dreams, and your life’s mission.”– Eileen Anglin

The negative effects of feeling responsible for other people’s emotions are the toll it has on your own thoughts and feelings. People-pleasing can also drive you to overwork and have trouble switching off from thinking about work. My relationships with my husband and the people I love, but also people I don't know well, have become richer and more connected because, most of the time, I'm not afraid to speak my truth and I'm also a better listener. The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable.”– Nicole Lyons Get ready to be taken on a beautiful journey that will both awaken you to the many layers of people pleasing and enable you to feel empowered to make that shift to a more authentic version of yourself. What this process has done for me is provide a gateway to love, to joy, and to freedom. It has allowed meto create the life I choose, without needing permission or approval from others. Learning that this is my choice is setting me free to be and do what I want, and that freedom feels amazing!People pleasers have a hard time focusing on self-care, but prioritizing yourself is important. Try to schedule a little “me time” for yourself at least once a week. Like Katie Reed said, self-care is giving the world the best of you, not the rest of you. Sometimes, you’re okay with doing something because you know it will please someone else and it pleases you too. The change is warranted when it’s causing you to feel unheard or resentful.’

Before we can begin to be open and honest with our parents, we need to do this for ourselves,’ Tracy says. ‘Journal about what is important to you, what you love, what you care about, and what you want to spend your time doing.’ Sometimes you don’t realize you are actually drowning when you are trying to be everyone else’s anchor.” When you say yes to others make sure you are not saying no to yourself.”– Paulo Coelho People Pleasing Is Unhealthy What this process has done for me is provide a gateway to love, to joy, and to freedom. It has allowed me to create the life I choose, without needing permission or approval from others. Learning that this is my choice is setting me free to be and do what I want, and that freedom feels amazing! It's certainly not easy to change habits you have held for most of your life, but with Tracy's guidance I found, with time, this was easier than I expected.

Letting go of people-pleasing tendencies

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