I’m not saying you’re flippant with your sisterhood in your early twenties but on a personal level as I headed for my thirties I started to have more of an appreciation for my friends and no longer expected them to take on multiple roles. Now my friendships are more meaningful though perhaps more complex too. I expect those who I let close to me to hold the same values as I do and my expectation of what determines a ‘good friend’ has completely changed in the last few years. Maybe it’s because when my mum was ill a few years ago some pals offered unwavering support whilst others disappeared. It’s taken a while but I no longer begrudge those who were a no-show during that time at the end of the day everyone has their own schizzle to deal with. I think realising you’re not the centre of everyone’s universe is a very grounding experience. The toxic friendships of my youth are now behind me. If one of my chicas upsets me now I’m either very honest with them or give them a wide berth until I can find the headspace to deal with them. Sometimes it’s my own emotional state that has taken offence to something they’ve said rather than anything they’ve done wrong.