While people often use the terms "fetish" and "kink" interchangeably, a kink means an activity or behavior that someone enjoys that exists outside the "norm" of "traditional" sex, such as incorporating handcuffs or even balloons. Think of the differences this way: If someone's kink is bondage, they probably get incredibly excited when they're tied up. If someone has a bondage fetish, their entire sexuality may revolve around restraint. (There's also the category of turn-ons: things that simply arouse a person.) Vorarephilia is the infamous cannibal kink. It means getting turned on by fantasies of eating someone, and the subject has made headlines this year due to the sexual assault allegations against actor Armie Hammer. Erotic humiliation lets you reclaim embarrassment by getting off on it. "Humiliation play is a consensual power exchange that is a very typical fetish. It can help people heal parts of the self that may have been bullied as a child. There's a sense of mastery over something that may have previously been non-consensual," says Renye. 14. Spectrophilia Gag warning: Emetophilia is a sexual fetish in which one gets aroused by vomit. Yes, it's real, and it’s more common than you think. A lighter version of emetophilia may play out as finding it a turn-on if someone gags during a blow job. A higher octave version is simply getting wet for puke. 27. Klismaphilia

You don't have to stop playing make-believe when you grow up. Role-playing means acting out a sexual fantasy with your partner(s), either once or as part of an ongoing fantasy. While it can be a fetish or kink within itself, it's also a healthy way to act out other fantasies. For instance, if you have a medical fantasy and are aroused by doctors, you probably don't actually want your doctor to get sexy with you, because that would be creepy and abusive. The beauty of role-playing is that you can have your partner dress up as a doctor and indulge your fantasy consensually in your own home. 3. Foot Fetish Group sex is getting it on with more than one person. If you've ever swiped on Tinder, you're likely aware that many couples are searching for a third, although group sex can mean more than just a threesome. An orgy is when a group of people of all genders have sex, while a " gang bang" typically refers to one person having sex with more than two members of another gender (while the term can have violent connotations, it's also used in the kink community to refer to consensual scenarios). 7. Sensation Play The only safe and consensual way to try paraphilia is to (consensually!) add it to your dirty talk. But, maybe wait until you know someone and their preferences before whispering, "I want to cook and eat you alive, honey." 21. QuirofiliaOf course, literally killing and eating someone is wrong. However, kinks and fetishes are already stigmatized; we don't need to pathologize this one if someone is doing no harm. "It is usually metaphorically, or an embodied feeling, rather than a literal translation," Dr. Richmond says. "Partners will often say, 'I could just eat you alive I’m so turned on by you,' but that's driven by an urge to consume the energy of eroticism and arousal more than a real or uncontrollable desire to consume a part of the human body. Obviously, if it moves into a compulsion or biting in a way that is not consensual, this is dangerous, illegal, and certainly not sex-positive," she adds. Yes, pregnancy can be the result of sex, but it can also turn people on. Pregnancy kinks include a desire to get someone pregnant (sometimes known as a breeding fetish) and an attraction to pregnant people. "The former is one with an element of riskiness. There's a permanent potential to be forever with the consequences of unprotected heterosexual intercourse," says Renye. The latter may simply be an attraction to a pregnant body or could be a type of age play. 23. Tentacles Sadism refers to a person, a sadist, who gets off on inflicting pain. Their necessary counterpart is masochists, those who get off on receiving erotic pain. As always, S&M relationships require consent from all parties involved. Once all parties feel enthusiastic about what's about to go down, S&M can look like impact play, erotic humiliation, or dripping hot wax on one another. 19. Wax play If you've ever hooked up with a stranger, perhaps even before getting their name, congrats, you've tried stranger play. "Stranger play is one of my favorites! When I was younger, I convinced myself that women found me attractive more for my personality than my body. So, a total stranger who doesn't 'know' me engaging in a specific sexual scene is really affirming," says Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast. 26. Emetophilia A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage, kissing, and smelling. As professional dominatrix Goddess Aviva previously told Allure, it's an extremely common fetish. If your partner shares that they have a foot fetish, it may be initially jarring, but it's an opportunity for you to discuss a potentially exciting new part of your sex life together. (And, if you're into it, just think of all the foot massages headed your way!) 4. Anal Sex

For those concerned about burns, opt for a candle made for sex, such as JimmyJane's afterglow massage candles. These candles burn at a lower temperature, so you can enjoy the heat on your body without worrying about causing injury. 20. VorarephiliaQuirofilia is one of those kinks that sounds more far-out than it is: It simply refers to an attraction to hands. Whether you go for big, hairy hands, or soft, dainty manicured ones, considering how much we use our hands during sex, it's a highly relatable kink. 22. Pregnancy Spectrophilia refers to having a thing for ghosts because sometimes humans aren't worth it. It usually involves the fantasy of a spirit, but sometimes people believe they actually have sex with one at night or while they sleep. Traditionally, a succubus refers to a female sex ghost, and an incubus is a male ghost that has sex with humans as they sleep. 15. Dominance and Submission

Dominance and submission refer to a consensual erotic power exchange between two (or more) people. Although it may sound scary, due to consent and safety precautions kinkster engage in, a D/S scene can be safer than a vanilla hook-up. "Any time that we are talking about power control, that is the safest kind of sex that partners can have because there's so much communication, trust, and vulnerability built into these kinds of exchanges and sexual experiences," says sex therapist and author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life Dr. Holly Richmond. 16. Autonepiophilia Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli. For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation, or they may drag an ice cube along their skin, a form of sensation play known as temperature play. 8. Orgasm Control

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