We resorted to this method because the police couldn’t protect us! Before we created the vigilante, whenever the robbers came, we would shout and shout and call police numbers but they never came until the robbers had taken our properties, raped our women and left.

This went on for about a year. Then one of her coworkers stepped up his flirtation. She told me about it. We had great sex, no love making more often. Some weeks later she said he asked he to go for a drink. I said go for it. When she got home I was so in love with her... We made love twice. A few weeks later she started dating him and our love was as hot as when we were first married. That was 30 years ago. We have been very happily married for 42 years now. She has had 4 boyfriends over the 30 years. None now. Dan offers advice to a woman who always ends up alone due to her discerning tastes in men. Savage Love: That husband over there I soon felt my orgasm beginning to approach. As I do with all women I’m donating to, just before I came I asked Lillian if she was sure she wanted me to come inside of her. A man is made to watch his wife enjoy rape? Right there and then the hatred I had for my wife just came to my mouth! I tasted it like bitter agbo Let me say, every relationship has different dynamics. What may work for you, may not work for me.... Different boundaries.Dan offers advice to a woman who's furious at what her lover was really up to in the bedroom. Savage Love: Advice for a gay husband with a secret Daddy lover

I'm curious to see what other people think about this subject, before I give my opinion. I'm sure I'll surprise a few folks... I do not use the term (sexual) "lust" out of any negative intent; I simply use it because it's obviously a primary motivator here and one that any normal human can feel. And sexual lust can easily become a very "driving" desire, one that can be related to the power that very driving temptations hold. My reaction (another woman here) was a tiny bit like Kimberly's and can be summed up in four words: Where does it end?I heard my wife’s voice in the bedroom with the robber that dragged her there, I heard him slap her to keep her quiet. I wanted to get up to go and plead with the armed robber with my wife but I they told me to lie down. The husband and wife relationship must remain top priority. Husbands you must honor your wife above all. Wives should consider the pleasure as a gift from her husband and honor him. Beware of and expect NRE (New Relationship Energy). As soon as I let them in, they just descended on me with cutlass, beating me and marking my body with the cutlass, they cut me because they said I wasted their time; see blood everywhere, I just kept begging them to spare my life. They asked us all to lie face down and tell them where all our things were…they dragged my wife up, beat her too because they said she was the one who prevented me from opening the door for them, we were both pleading.

Bisexuality. For more than half of the men I interviewed, male bisexuality played a role in the husband's desire to watch his wife have sex with another man. This played out in different dynamics. Sometimes, bringing a man to bed with the wife was a pretext—a bait and switch if you will—for the husband to then engage sexually with the man as well. Sometimes, the husbands were very concerned about being seen as heterosexual, but they spent an awful lot of time looking for well-endowed men for their wives. To my mind, a man who is that focused on the size of other men's penises really doesn't qualify as all that straight. But I was still hoping that at least, it won’t be all of them on top of her, you understand? So I was calling out as I crawled towards the bedroom…the others were watching so between their legs, I saw him on top of my wife! I still couldn’t get used to Tony staring at us and I was hoping very much that Lillian would get pregnant this time around so I wouldn’t have to do this again because it was just too freaky for me. he began to pump her hard and fast, his teeth gritted and his eyes wild with lust. 'Oh God, oh TonyEventually, my hand found its way between Lillian’s legs, and I was very happy that she was very moist as that meant I wouldn’t have trouble entering her. The worst thing is for a woman to be so nervous that she is dry and tight, making intercourse painful or impossible. Apart from all this, it has to be keenly borne in mind that the intensity of sexual feelings is a very transient emotion. Yet, sexual gratification is connected to heightened levels of sexual feelings. What is seen as attractive at the commencement rapidly moves to quite unattractive propositions at the closing moments. The thrill of the taboo. There are few things in our society as stigmatized as a husband whose wife is unfaithful. Historically, such men have been beaten, ostracized, and ridiculed, and regarded as weak, "sissy men." Some of the men I interviewed described explicitly that the taboo was the thrill for them, from the excitement of the forbidden and the naughty. When I was done, I stayed in bed with Lillian while she kept her legs high int he air. Normally, I enjoy this time with the woman when we can relax and make some small talk. But in this case I just couldn’t bring myself to relax enough to have small talk with Tony nd Lillian. I mean it’s sort of hard to talk to a man whose wife you’ve just had sex with. But I did stay for a bit just to be polite before I finally got up, dressed, and left. I sighed. They had spent far more time horizontal than vertical during their lessons, I doubted her new moves were fit for public consumption.

Author and blogger Chris Ryan guest hosted the Savage Love sex advice column this week. It's a great read, and a wonderful plug for Ryan's new book, Sex at Dawn. I stripped out of my dirty party clothes and threw on some jeans and a t-shirt as I set about getting Forget the police, even if they came, the kind of gun shots I heard the robbers shooting that night, the police wouldn’t have been able to match it. I don't think I want to risk the stability of my marriage. I did all my running around before I got married. And I know my husband would NOT be cool with bringing in a third person. And honestly, I wouldn't be cool with it either. Sex is special and it belongs only to us. However, any adventure has its thrills. So, if an adventure is being contemplated, let the dangers be kept at a far distant location. That is, keep such relationships with persons who are quite far-off or quite unrelated.The royalty perk. In the 1960s Motown song, the line goes "save the last dance for me," as the husband watches his wife dance with other men. Many of the men I interviewed got a thrill, a sense of being "king" that they had a wife who was so sexy that other men wanted to be with, but who ultimately came home with him, the husband. It made the men feel powerful and successful that they had such a sexy wife.