My sister found some texts on his phone five years ago and it was obvious he’d been seeing somebody else. When Sarah goes out drinking at the new hip-hop club downtown, Jake already knows what's in store, but he could never imagine the level of sexual depravity that's waiting for him on the other end of Sarah's video chat invitation later that evening. He wasn’t happy with his adoptive parents (as I now know they are) and they lost touch long before I was born. It’s so sad and I’m hurt he never shared this.

I have been patient and haven’t even thought about sleeping with anyone else but I can’t survive like this. How you feel now is part of your grieving and you can get support for that through Cruse Bereavement Care ( cruse.org.uk, 0844 477 9400). My wife couldn’t remember much the next day. She is embarrassed and ashamed but doesn’t want to go to the police. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Send your questions for Stoya and Rich to [email protected] . We divorced three years ago. Our children are seven and five and they live with me and my lovely partner most of the time.This left me alone with the children from Friday evening through Sunday. Expectations were low as I am a sometimes-depressed/always-lazy parent who preaches discipline, which in reality translates to impatience, yelling, and finally caving to all their desires. DEIDRE SAYS: Sexual guilt leads some men to find it difficult to link sex with the mother of their child. We have been married for four years. She’s 33, I am 30. I had read about this stupid idea and thought, like many men I guess, it would be fantastic. How do I find someone I trust enough to play with, but not get into a relationship territory? Do I look for FWB? I have one poly dom friend who is flirting heavily with me, but she is married to a close friend of my husband and that seems like a potential can of worms. Do I go to munches? Do I put “no romance, but we should hang and see if we want to have kinky sex” in my Tinder profile? Twenty years (and pounds) ago, I was a good athlete and played competitive tennis and soccer. (Lauren met me later and refuses to believe that I’m capable of extending past whatever speed I get up to when I run to the free sample line at Costco.)

We then had a string of silent calls to the house. Mum answered the phone one day and this woman told her everything. Mmm, isn’t it funny how whenever people evoke a specific time when Britain was great, the time they invariably evoke is their own childhood before they were aware of the pressures and anxieties of adulthood? And I’ll be honest, every times Pettitt talks about her husband “taking care” of her, and that is pretty much her No 1 subject, she sounds more like she’s talking about her father than her husband.DEIDRE SAYS: If you and your wife get on well otherwise, accept her explanation and try to let the issue go.