And the more confident you are that you deserve that (and much more), the more you’ll be able to ask your big questions in a way that won’t feel heavy and dramatic, I guarantee you. As soon as they’ve been dating for a couple of months, he says he feels the “marriage vibe” start happening. Sometimes I think that our styles are just different, and I’m going to have to learn how to compromise.

We have put the stories we have heard and questions we’ve been asked in a simple question-and-answer format.Here’s how you and Ring Finger Fred can handle this situation now: Stop seeing each other; let him figure out his life. The “Things Are Really Tight Right Now” Excuse Dear Greg, I have a boyfriend who I’ve been living with for three years. You’re either angry or hurt, or still holding out hope that’s he’s in a coma at a hospital somewhere. This guy isn’t walking down the aisle any time soon unless he’s picking up an MTV Music Video Award.

Are there men who are too busy or have been through something so horrible that makes it hard for them to get involved? Be his friend if you’re at all interested on that level, but move your romantic inclinations onto a more suitable future husband.All I can think is, how sad to be having that conversation in the beginning of things, when everything is supposed to be cozy and snugly and people are usually on their best behavior. I feel if I stay in touch with him, it will remind him of how great I am, and eventually he will realize that we should be together again. No matter how much this book can be critiqued – and it can and has been, mercilessly – I still think some of it is just flat-out honest reality. The reality is when you like someone AND YOU HAVE THEIR NUMBER, you find any excuse to talk to them.