There is also an emerging usage of the terms soft butch, "stem" (stud-femme), "futch" (feminine butch), [50] or "chapstick lesbian" as terms for women who have characteristics of both butch and femme. A Blue Jean Femme is a lesbian who identifies as femme, or feminine, but prefers jeans and more casual clothing to dresses and skirts. When a person or business pretends to care about a social cause without actually participating in change. Although sex isn’t about coming for a lot of people, regardless of top/bottom identity, for those who want orgasming to be part of sex, “the bottom comes first” might be a part of the dynamic. I’m really disappointed that this summary of over 3500 responses includes almost no coverage of the MANY MANY qualitative open responses and instead just….

This encouraged the emergence of androgyny in lesbian feminist circles, with many women wearing clothing like T-shirts, jeans, flannels, and boots.

Previous femme partners have expected me to be more of a top based on being masculine-of-center, which is not what I prefer,” wrote one bottom-leaning switch. A Power Dyke is a lesbian who has gained a position of power, either within the LGBT community, or in the world at large. They may or may not be attracted to other genders as well, and may identify as lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, queer etc. It’s so rad that you are taking on this project, and it was legitimately therapeutic to both fill out the survey and read this post. Labels have been tailored to be more descriptive of an individual's characteristics, such as "hard butch" "gym queen", "tomboy femme", and "soft stud".

I get that these stereotypical boxes are just that, stereotypes, but at a very minimum watch the language; this is full of transphobic, anti-women and biphobic slurs. This may be reflected in pronouns that change to match, gender neutral pronouns or changing gender expression.Allison Moon, in her excellent book Girl Sex 101, says “to bottom is to practice the great art of receiving… as a receiver, the giver is in service to you and your pleasure. Dominatrix” is also a woman-focused word, usually used these days to refer to a professional dominant (or “pro-domme”) who does BDSM stuff with subs for money. Making assumptions about somebody’s bedroom behavior based on gender presentation is never a safe bet.

It should be noted that “boi” (as a colloquialism for non-normative gender identity/expression), originated in the goth subculture in the mid-1990s.

Oftentimes top/bottom identities play a role in how a person identifies potential partners and subsequently make suggestive connections with them, regardless of what happens when they actually get into bed, remove their clothing, and begin rolling around naked while sticking things inside each other. You really can’t do a survey in which a significant minority in the results you show say they that they are not women and then say you’re talking about “lesbian sex”. As the above chart shows, tops were much more interested in receiving external stimulation (oral or digital) than penetration, although many tops enjoyed penetration as well. NOTE: other restrictions can be a result of our security platform detecting potential malicious activity.