The Talea comes with four velcro cuffs, two on either end. These cuffs attach to the bar using a seatbelt-style connection which is nice and convenient but gets in the way if you want to substitute your own, higher quality cuffs. There is a D-ring there to attach your own cuffs but that chunky plastic connection remains in place. This set also appears to come with an under-mattress bondage system, the type that hides underneath your mattress when not in use and then you can pull out the four cuffs from the four corners for some fast, low-effort bondage. That’s a great deal for the price as you can pay this much for that piece alone. An article in Smithsonian Magazine cited numbers that 36 percent of American adults engage in bondage or kinky activities. That's 16 percent higher than the global average of 20 percent. America coming out on top. Are Leg Spreader Bars Only for Women? While plenty of the kink community is grateful to books and movies for the 50 Shades Effect of bringing bondage and power play into the public arena, there's a lot about the books and movies that should never be recreated or believed. (Like the idea that Christian is kinky because he was abused--something that even Psychology Today waded into to point out that people who are into BDSM are no more likely to have a history of abuse than anyone else.)

Breaking down for storage. Some designs pull apart into three smaller pieces making them easier to store and less likely to be identified by prying eyes if someone were to come across a set of thin metal rods under your bed. Why do you have those? No reason. You could even pass it off as personal protection.

What Are BDSM Leg Spreaders?

This Sovyime Expandable Spreading Bar is simple and straightforward while still looking attractive.

Keep in mind that these cuffs are attached to the bar and can’t be substituted. If you want a two-bar set with removable cuffs, go with Exreist’s set.One last thing: it's metal. If someone is throwing their legs around in the throes of passion, these bars could deliver a decent bonk on the head to their partner. As much as pain can be fun, ending the night with a broken nose isn't on everyone's wishlist. Fun (Untrue) Fact: In an interview with People Magazine, Jamie Dornan states that the spreader bar was invented by the 50 Shades books and so the only way it could be used in the movie was for the prop folks to build it from scratch. That is false. You're likely to injury your partner's ankles, knees, or hips and then playtime is over. Use the bar to restrain, manipulate and position your sub, but not to fling them around.

It comes as part of a bondage beginner set that also includes a blindfold, two wide strips for tying, a breathable ballgag, and two additional pairs of velcro cuffs.

First things first: communication, communication, communication. Discuss what you both want so you can come up with a list of things you both agree to. Alright, this Beginner Restraint Set isn’t a true spreader rod but if you’re equal parts nervous and curious–this is for you. Adding to the bars, the kit includes a host of matching tools like a breathable ball gag (the ball had holes for comfort), a studded soft flogger, a blindfold, and a collar with a leash. Funny story, the same term used for this adult toy is also used for a certain type of rigging used in overhead lifting. They're not the same at all, but share the name.