There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc. It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues.

There was also a lot missing in regards to navigating ethics, trauma, and joy for/with fat folks and disabled folks — for example, how might a person’s ability to engage in normative D/S actions like kneeling and spanking be different based on size or ability?, or how might the impact of shame and punishment around movement differently affect fat and/or disabled folks? I would have liked to see Janet and Dossie offer play alternatives for folks navigating these intersections, and provide a more sophisticated analysis of cultural and bodily barriers to BDSM. The New Topping Book still is worth reading. I'm new enough to have found it enlightening, even after parsing Easton and Hardy through the perspective of a rural, monogamous, heterosexual reader. Yes, to me such behaviour is pathological, stemming from either childhood traumata or low self-esteem. If I was, I still am, because the concept of such practices and relationships eludes me. I cannot fathom how such an unequal shift of power can be enjoyable.

The New Bottoming Book

So if this book was completely not for me, then why two stars? I think it has value for people who are actually into this stuff. Forbidden emotions sent to the deep freeze commonly include pathos, anger, shame, terror, villainy and victimhood. Starting to sound familiar? So our thesis is that it just might be that our kinky desires, the drives that lead us to enact our dark and dangerous fairy tales, may very well be the longing to reunite with a part of ourselves that we have lost in the Shadow." D/s relationship. It was crystal clear that the authors our experts or at the very least possess a vast amount of knowledge on this subject. Unfortunately, I found the first half of this book to be extremely dull, at one point thinking about messaging the couple who recommended it to make sure they hadn't made a mistake! The initial parts of this book discuss basic, general aspects of BDSM. About 50% in, the book becomes much more interesting. The latter portions delves into some very deep issues, focused on information best suited for those who have been involved in BDSM for quite some time.

Ocr tesseract 5.0.0-beta-20210815 Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9781 Ocr_module_version 0.0.13 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-WL-1200066 Openlibrary_edition When Someone You Love Is Kinky written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Psychology categories. I thought Part 2 whilst extensive in the types of play ,I felt that the authors reminiscing of their conquests detracted from the actual "playing". The mention of "waxplay" had me sit up but then there was nothing about it(I will have to find a specialist book in this)and yet they did discuss the real "edgeplay" stuff in length. The section on Spiritualism in BDSM was quite interesting. Three decades ago, this book and its companion volume "The New Topping Book" began teaching tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming - not just "how-to," but "why-to"... the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book and New Topping Book give even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular player! What the experts are saying "The only way I can think of to learn more about bottming than Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy teach you in [The New Bottoming Book] is to go out and bottom for yourself." - William A. Henkin, Ph.D., co-author, Consensual Sadomasochism

Bdsm 101 written by Rev. Jen and has been published by Skyhorse this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2013-07-01 with Health & Fitness categories. So the idea of submissive people, who actually enjoy to be controlled, hurt and humiliated, and the concept of dominant people who enjoy controlling, hurting and humiliating others, for sexual pleasure on top of that, is downright harmful.