The only way tomake sure was to get a woman to stay with him, which ended up in public scrutiny of women who had sex with different partners, violence against women and, of course, marriage. Lesson 2: Women want sex just as much as men, but they are conditioned to play it down.

Interesting? Yes. Weird? Hell yeah. But interesting nonetheless. Especially because there’s also scientific research to show our bodies have evolved for monogamy. I was fascinated by thefindings about the evolution of our bodies to have sex a lot and with different partners, as it completely contradicts the evidence found in Why Is Sex Fun, which point to our bodies evolving for monogamy, not against it. My wife and I have been married for more than 10 years, but recently our sex drives have gone in different directions. My desire to have sex with her is increasing, but this is not reciprocated. She has said we can have sex only at the weekend, but that it should not be planned as she prefers spontaneity. Given that we have two children with lots of hobbies and activities, as well as our own interests, the opportunities for even planned sex are limited . I find myself getting tense at the thought of no intimacy and it can feel quite stressful as the weekend progresses. Any suggestion that we could do it on a weekday is immediately rejected. I love my wife deeply and find her even more attractive than when we met. But this situation is very difficult and I am not prepared to have an unsatisfying sex life for ever . Sadly, we’ve gotten to a point where a lot of women comply. Lesson 3: Our bodies are made forsexual competition. Simultaneously to the creation of marriage and the family,the notion arose that women’s libido is lower than men’s.Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2022-04-30 06:07:39 Associated-names Jethá, Cacilda Autocrop_version 0.0.12_books-20220331-0.2 Bookplateleaf 0002 Boxid IA40455124 Camera Sony Alpha-A6300 (Control) Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier Since Darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. But this narrative is collapsing. Here, renegade thinkers Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, while debunking almost everything we "know" about sex, offer a bold alternative explanation. Ryan and Jethá's central contention is that human beings evolved in egalitarian groups that shared food, child care, and, often, sexual partners. Weaving together convergent, frequently overlooked evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality, the authors show how far from human nature monogamy really is. With intelligence, humor, and wonder, Ryan and Jethá show how our promiscuous past haunts our struggles over monogamy, sexual orientation, and family dynamics. Human beings everywhere and in every era have confronted the same familiar, intimate situations in surprisingly different ways. The authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing toward a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.--From publisher description

Interestingly, when asked to describe their arousal, the majority of the women in the study played it down. Further proof that our society encourages women to be less sexual and that the expectationis for them to be prudish. The switch from our ancestors’ sexual “sharing is caring” mentality in their hunter-gatherer-tribes occurred once we started to settle down and farm our own food. Women’s sexuality seems to be more fluid, however, as they were aroused by a much bigger variety of images, for example even monkeys having sex.

Because of men’s high testosterone levels and their (especially today) often competitive behavior around women, the message we receive in public and the media is that women are prudes and less hungry for sex.

Similarly, since hunter-gatherers didn’t settle, they didn’t own much, neither possessions, nor “people” in the form oflong-term partners.Women take longer to orgasm and can have sex longer to maximize potential partners for a successful impregnation. Maybe the most important point of the book is this: Don’t take sex so seriously, see it as the biological impulse it is and respect that your sometimes odd sexual behavior is a remnant of the past. Loving a single person more than anyone else is possible, but that doesn’t align your sex drive to only be aroused by that person. Similarly, just because an affair is exciting, that doesn’t make it true love. Lccn 2009045457 Ocr tesseract 5.0.0-1-g862e Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9686 Ocr_module_version 0.0.15 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-NS-1200397 Openlibrary_edition I also suggest you read the summary of this book first, because the topic is very controversial. It’s worth investigating a bit, before taking the plunge. Who would I recommend the Sex At Dawn summary to?