Each pattern has 3 strengths. It will start on low and can be changed to low/med/high by pressing the +/- buttons . The strongest level is still nicely rumbly and not buzzy. (Well done!) There are lights next to the vibe buttons that light up when the vibe is turned on. The lights reflect not only the power level, getting brighter as the vibe is stronger, but blink to match the pattern chosen, too. That added cool detail is brilliant, I must say! Ashley: "My first pegging experience was actually with one of my sex educator colleagues, which was great because he was very clear in his requests, and offered me tips—including the importance of using lots of lube."

Aja: "I would say start how you would with any kink/fetish or strange bedroom request, and openly communicate your desires to your partner. This can definitely be harder in new relationships, or relationships that don't have a precedent for these kind of discussions, but it becomes normalized when you do it more." This Strap On was designed in a seamless soft-touch silicone. Its softness will make you want to receive caresses. Feel free to move the dildo around your body or, if there are two of you, guide your partner to a sensory exploration. A good tip is to size down, especially if you’re a beginner. “You might be looking at it and think, That’s so small! But if you’ve never tried anal or penetration before, definitely start off smaller than you think,” she says. Basically, don’t go big, go home, and then realize that it’s too big.

On the same vein, the Wet for Her Fusion is a strap-on dildo especially designed for the wearer's pleasure. Instead of being an attachment to add to a dildo like the BumpHer, the Fusion has a clit-focused pleasure base built right in! Daya: "Like all things anal, build your way up! Tell your partner you are interested in exploring prostate play and start off with rimming or a finger. You might be surprised! She may even suggest graduating to pegging." Honestly, the wireless remote for the Strap On Me Vibrating Bendable Strapless Strap-On goes ABOVE AND BEYOND what most wireless remote control sex toy offers. It goes "above and beyond" enough that I'm over here thinking "Why don't most sex toys do this?!" It's so intuitive that and easy to customize that it's freakin' magical. Honestly, magical. Your dildo should align with your needs and desires for harness play. To reiterate, if you have a partner who you’re planning to use the dildo on or with, take them to the store if you.

While there are many different lube options on the market, keep in mind: Silicone-based lubes can’t be used with a silicone-based dildo because the toy will degrade. As Sloane says, “Nothing is sadder than putting a silicone-based lube on your new dildo and then seeing it begin to get a melty look.” Fair point. Note: If the receiver prefers a little less firmness, and the giver does not prefer internal vibrations, Strap On Me makes a non-vibrating model as well!) Harness Compatibility Jess: “A lot of men worry an interest in pegging must mean that they're bi or gay and the fear of asking comes from that place, but try not to get hung up. When I want to try something new with my husband, we both read a lot about it. So it might be an idea to try sharing this article with your female partner and asking if she'd want to give it a whirl."

The Best Small Strap-On Dildo: Tantus Charmer

A USB charging cord is included, with a lovely tag identifying it (this becomes important when you have a lot of toys). Total charging time is 4 hours. Run time 'about 45 minutes' on a full charge. That's a lotta pegging! The strap-on has an auto-off after 10 minutes, which is awesome. Annie: "I'm a naturally dominant person and something about penetrating a guy like that just really turned me on. Also, as a queer woman I love being with men who are comfortable expressing themselves sexually in ways that may go against gender norms." What is it that you like about pegging? Now sure how someone with a penis can enjoy harness play? Here’s a little more detail on how wearing or using a strap-on on during sex can be pleasurable even for folks who already have their own phallus. There is (not so) recent information that rather than there being a 'G- Spot', there is simply this gorgeous, and fairly elaborate, clitoral structure. That would explain a lot. Honestly, the Strap-On-Me Vibrating Bendable Strapless Strap-On dildo is what strapless strap-on dildos should have been when they were released. This is seriously a pegging game-changer.