But of course, not every dildo can be held in place by an O-ring. Most sex toy stores have specific sections dedicated to strap-on dildos, making it easy to find harness-compatible options. But if you can’t find that section, a good rule of thumb is to shop dildos with flared bases or balls, Cole says; the wide base will make the toy more likely to stay in place during wearable use. Other than making sure all partners are aware of how to physically prepare, remember that there is a major emotional component to the sex act, especially if it's someone's first time. Make sure to communicate beforehand about both of your desires, expectations, and fears. "When it comes to pegging, even though that dildo is not part of your anatomy, you are still inserting a part of yourself in someone else, and that’s extremely intimate. There’s a great responsibility, because you are entering them," Domina Katarina says.

Proper strap-on application will depend on what type of strap-on dildo and harness (if any) you use, as well as your anatomy. For harnesses and other types of strap-on holders, you should first attach and secure your dildo to the garment before putting it on.

Beginner strap-on sets 

Material and style are subjective elements that should be determined based on individual preferences.

Strap-on play is more common in the LGBTQ+ community (with an emphasis on the L, B, and T), for instance. The BDSM scene, too, sees a lot of strap-on usage. There are even strap-on dildos designed with kink in mind, like ball gag/strap-on combos. Once upon a time, strap-on sex was perceived as being of interest to a limited group of sexually active adults, namely lesbians and the kink-inclined. It wasn’t that strap-ons could only satisfy these particular individuals, but that society at large was in the dark about strap-on dildos, let alone why or how to use them.If you’re using your new strap on for pegging, know that when performed correctly, pegging can be an exhilarating experience: many women love the intense role reversal, while those with a prostate love the physical sensation of all that P-spot stimulation! However, it’s not as simple as PIV sex: there are some steps you want to take to make sure that the experience goes as smoothly as possible when trying out pegging for the first time: The harness itself was very easy to use and adjust the size to fit you snugly, and having a removable O-ring allows you to use this with a large range of toys - a very big bonus.” - Matt! But pegging is not just for straight couples keen to experiment with their kinky side. Anyone can join in the pegging party. 'Many think that pegging is only for people with a vagina, but really it can be for anyone regardless of their sexual orientation and genitals,' says Dr Mafe Peraza Godoy, a urologist, sexual medicine expert and Co-Founder of the Healthy Pleasure Group.