The New Topping Book is a great answer to the question many new tops have: "How do I actually do it?" This book isn't just a guide to resources and fundamentals of safety and communication, it walks you through creating a viable emotional and conceptual framework for your own domination. The New Topping Book still is worth reading. I'm new enough to have found it enlightening, even after parsing Easton and Hardy through the perspective of a rural, monogamous, heterosexual reader. There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc. It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues. The authors stress the boundary between fantasy and reality, but as soon as you act out the fantasy, it becomes reality.

Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2021-10-09 11:07:03 Associated-names Hardy, Janet W Boxid IA40257202 Camera USB PTP Class Camera Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier So the idea of submissive people, who actually enjoy to be controlled, hurt and humiliated, and the concept of dominant people who enjoy controlling, hurting and humiliating others, for sexual pleasure on top of that, is downright harmful. Playing Well With Others written by Lee Harrington and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2012-02-29 with Self-Help categories. Ocr tesseract 5.0.0-beta-20210815 Ocr_detected_lang en Ocr_detected_lang_conf 1.0000 Ocr_detected_script Latin Ocr_detected_script_conf 0.9781 Ocr_module_version 0.0.13 Ocr_parameters -l eng Old_pallet IA-WL-1200066 Openlibrary_editionKinktionary written by Ignixia Roberts and has been published by Independently Published this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2020-11-06 with categories. Infusing BDSM with spiritual weight is totally fine, but I don't think it belongs in a primer for newbies. I made a concerted effort to read this chapter without judgement, but when the authors mentioned a rigger friend of theirs who saw visions of "animal spirits" and received psychic messages while tying people up, my eyes started to roll involuntarily. The conclusion is also a bit up-its-own-ass, talking about Lucifer and illuminating the darkness within and stuff like that, and I mean, come on now. We're not monks, we're people who like to flog others for fun. But I suppose it's better to treat BDSM with too much reverence than not enough. urn:lcp:newbottomingbook0000east:epub:c214cea6-9d1a-4fec-b6be-34e02ed1610e Foldoutcount 0 Identifier newbottomingbook0000east Identifier-ark ark:/13960/t9q36gk8c Invoice 1652 Isbn 1890159352 When Someone You Love Is Kinky written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Psychology categories. And there were some passages in the book that did exactly that. There's a list in Chapter 2 of emotions that a person might wish to experience in-scene, and along with such expected items as "helplessness," "lust," "humiliation," and "being nurtured," I was pleasantly astonished to discover "martyrdom," "pathos," "resentment," "sadness." Rarely, if ever, had I seen such emotions treated as potentially normal and desirable parts of the BDSM experience, and yet they figured often in my fantasies as part of an essentially cathartic psychodrama. Obviously, seeing as how Easton and Hardy saw fit to include them in the list, there are other people who have the same needs I do to venture into the realm of quiet, dark emotions.

That issue is reinforced by constant recaps of writer's personal accounts of public play sessions, which are, frankly, of very little interest and importance and are brought up too often. The fact is, you get sexual pleasure out of humiliating someone, by treating them badly. Just because they like that doesn't make your perversion better. It just shows there are equally misguided people that fit your needs. The second section starts describing different "scenes", their 'rewards' and also tips on beginning and ending them Also included are sections on role play, with short subsections about bondage and submission. It has small sections on dressing, public play, sensation play and other thoughts when it comes to actual scenes. I feel these chapters are nice for a very fresh novice, but not necessary when someone has already been exploring somewhat.preconceptions you may have about "submissives" and the BDSM Scene. So by all means its a good starting point. The New Bottoming Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-06-09 with Self-Help categories. If you want technique, there are dozens of excellent guides to knots, whips, ropes, sex toys, and everything else you can think of. Plus videos all over the Internet.

The book was inclusive and had some interesting views regarding spirituality and BDSM that I haven't seen in my other research. These Easton books taught me absolutely nothing about how to approach topping, bottoming, or a poly lifestyle. All they say is to communicate and sit patiently with whatever your partner has to say unless it cramps your poly style -- hey what a great idea! to talk to your partner! & your "wrong"-headed feelings of jealousy will magically go away if you just talk yourself out of them. Bdsm 101 written by Rev. Jen and has been published by Skyhorse this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2013-07-01 with Health & Fitness categories.The authors don't try to railroad the reader down one particular road; rather, they give you the tools to empower yourself and become confident enough to actually dive into play without excess worries or insecurities. This sort of comforting, non-judgemental attitude can be surprisingly rare in the BDSM community. It's super readable, very inclusive of different styles and intensities of play, and I think it's not only a good primer but a good refresher for more experienced players. The cosmic river flows through each of us, bearing nourishment, washing away what we no longer need, making us wet. A few principles seem to have guided Easton and Hardy in the penning of this volume. First, they're very much in favor of involving oneself in a local BDSM community, attending "munches" (jargon for informal, fully-clothed meet-and-greet sessions open to anyone who wants to attend), taking classes and attending demos. All great advice if you are in a place that has a community to join. Second, they assume pretty firmly that theirs readers are single or non-monogamous. If you're in a committed, monogamous relationship, a lot of their advice is going to have to be adapted heavily to your situation. They don't talk about technique because they are focused on motivation.