Absolutely ask questions, just do it in a respectful manner, and think before you speak,” Tenebrarum advises. “Talk to us about what we like, don't apply assumptions you apply to cis men to us, our body works in different ways, and [understand that] dysphoria also affects us all in different ways.”

Of course, sapphic dating is easier said than done, and not just because a gentle brush against the leg can mean 20 different things. Queer trans girls are out there dating, too, and chances are if you’re reading this article, you’re at least entertaining the idea of hanging out with one of us (if you haven’t already!). But because trans bodies are ridiculously stigmatized, there aren’t that many sex ed resources out there about us. Hell, most trans women don’t even know how to pleasure themselves. Now I’m not going to get into all the scientific mumbo-jumbo about all of this – you can see that in other places on the Internet, including tgguide.com. I’m just giving you a different perspective from someone other than a male dating a female.

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The second MtF transgender I dated was pre-op ( meaning she still had some man parts) – but still, I didn’t see her as anything but a female ( with an extra appendage), and we got along fine. I saw her for a few months before I moved out of state. Then saw her a couple of times after that, before I lost touch with her. I still think about her every now and then, and probably will for a long time. I was up all night taking videos and when I looked at the time, it was almost 3 am in the morning. I couldn’t believe how fast time had passed. I started feeling sleepy so decided to get some sleep. I was too tired to take of my makeup and everything so thought to take them off in the morning.

Transgender stories have not always been welcome in the mainstream; indeed, after decades of horrific discrimination, trans authors have shown remarkable resolve, continuing to fight ardently for their voices to be heard. Today, the tides are finally turning in a manner that’s long overdue, with authors like Imogen Binnie and Meredith Russo forging a more hopeful path for trans and cis writers and readers around the world.This particular person ( the one from the online ad), and I, didn’t make a “love match”, however we were still compatible in friendship, and we’re still very close to this day. She’s one of my dearest friends.

After severely punishing my husband yesterday, I thought I would tease him a little at our dinner party - by wearing this see-through blouse and mini-skirt! My hubby knows that he is only allowed to look, not touch - except with my express permission, which is not easily won! After dinner, I spent a very enjoyable hour or so with Shirley, our plump Lady Mayoress, in Lyndon Towers' well-equipped dungeon. I am now contemplating turning Shirley over to my housekeeper, Mrs Danvers, to use for her pleasure. I think they were made for each other!!!! I know if I had been born in a male body – with my obvious female self inside – I would want to set her free. While I can’t speak for all of us, queer trans women generally don’t expect cis women to be professionals with our bodies during their first few times. Once sex is on the table, we’re open to answering questions about how our bits work, what we need to enjoy ourselves, how we like to be played with, and what crosses a line. For instance, if you don’t know whether we want our genitals to be touched or played with, go ahead and ask. If you don’t know what words we prefer for our penises, talk to us. And if you don’t know how to go down on a trans girl, be honest. We’ll sit down with you and work things out. After college I moved out and got my own apartment. I was so happy that I could finally dress up as much as I wanted to. I brought so many dresses, wigs, lingerie, shoes and lots of makeup too. I would spend most of my time as a young woman inside the apartment. I kept my crossdressing a complete secret because I was afraid my family and friends won’t accept me or judge me because of me being a crossdresser.

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Users that get verified will receive a "Verified" user flair. For all OC creators, please follow the below verification methods to get verified. I am an early 30s, genetically born female that identifies myself as a lesbian. This means I am not sexually attracted to men. I may find men attractive in some situations, but that doesn’t mean I want to be with them physically. I am only sexually attracted to women. Of course, in my younger years I did experiment with a couple of guys – but that’s all that it was, experimentation, and I can tell you honestly that I am 100% lesbian. After returning from work everyday, I would change into my female clothes rather than male clothes, put on a hair wig and light makeup and spend my time as a woman. I would even go to bed wearing lingerie and silky night gowns most of the times. When I was not working, I would spend most of my time inside the apartment dressing up and having girly time with myself. I got really good at makeup, walking in heels and other girly stuffs. The only thing that was left for me to do was to go out in public. But it was just too scary for me and also because my apartment was on the 4th floor of the building where there were other families living in the building too. I would surely get caught if I tried so I didn’t really attempt to go outside but I really fantasized about people seeing me as a woman.

But it’s not just about touch, it’s also how you talk about our penises. Blanchard warns that because cis women are “upheld as the pillars of femininity,” trans women may be more self-conscious during sex. That means talking to your trans partner about their genitalia — from how they want to be touched to what words to call it — is extremely important.

Write your username, a reference to /r/TGIFS, and the date (must be same as the day to send us the mod mail). But there’s still a long way to go, which is why we’re grateful for each new trans narrative that enters the canon — particularly in the form of fiction, an obviously massive category in which trans authors have long been excluded from the mainstream. Charming yet incisive YA like Kacen Callender’s Felix Ever After and Aiden Thomas’s Cemetery Boys are setting trends and redefining expectations for YA readers and writers everywhere. Meanwhile literary novels like Binnie’s Nevada are a breath of fresh air in a convention-bound genre, shedding light on the trans experience while remaining accessible and entertaining to cis readers as well. Where can you read more stories by trans authors? My name is Amanda and this is the story of my first encounter as a woman. I have been a secret crossdresser since I was quite young. After I once tried on my sister’s skirt when I was a kid, I just fell in love with feminine clothing and my crossdressing journey began. I would sneak into my sister’s room and try on her lovely outfits when no one was around. When I was dressed like a girl, I felt wonderful.