This journal will help you envision your ideal life and then identify the unconscious attachments that are preventing you from living it. Some mornings you will wake up and your scars will ache, and some mornings you will wake up and you will fumble with all of the hope dripping from your fingertips. This is your growing, your healing, the balancing of the scales within your bones. You will be high and you will be low, but you will never be empty. You will never be empty.” Embrace vulnerability: Vulnerability may feel uncomfortable, but it is an essential part of the healing process. Allow yourself to open up about your experiences, whether through journaling, talking with others, or seeking out support groups where you can connect with individuals who have similar stories. Through poetry, prose, and compassionate encouragement you would expect from someone who knows exactly what you’re working through, Sparacino is here with the words you need.

Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.” Human never escape from the wound, also wound can be scars. Usually, if we see the scars we also can see the way we can get the scars, sometimes we can laugh or maybe trauma? In that time the brain and heart working together. But stop think about past, because the scars can make us stronger than ever. The world is going to give you beauty, but it will also give you pain. The greatest lesson you will ever learn is that this, too, is a gift.

Lose yourself in books, in art, in the haze of new horizons. Lose yourself in curiosity, in knowledge, in passion. Lose yourself in feeling it all; lose yourself in the world, in the stories and the lessons it has to teach you, but never lose yourself in love; never lose yourself in another person. You are your own home—please don’t ever forget that.” No one will ever fully be able to understand the internal battles you had to endure just to heal, just to grow, just to make it here today. Be proud of the way you fought to save yourself. Be proud of the way you survived.” But it doesn’t stop there. We can use our scars as catalysts for change by advocating for causes close to our hearts. Whether it’s speaking out against injustice or raising awareness about mental health issues, our experiences make us uniquely equipped to make a difference. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation.” Here’s what they don’t tell you—you’re never really going to figure it out. You’re never going to figure out the world, or why the things that happened to you happened, or how to ensure that your future is faultless. You’re never going to figure out how to perfect your existence, because it was never meant to be perfected. Instead, you will figure out how to move forward, day by day. You will figure out what kind of breakfast you like in the morning and what kind of people you want by your side. You will figure out the places that make your soul feel at home, and sometimes those places will be human beings. You will figure out what ignites your passion, the things that you could see yourself doing every single day for ten, or twenty, or thirty years. You’ll figure out how to say no and how to stand up for yourself. You’ll figure out how to forgive and let go. You’ll figure out exactly how you like to take your coffee. You’ll figure out how to walk away, how to heal. You’ll figure out how to live with yourself, how to be your own companion. You’ll figure out how to be kind to even the most broken parts of yourself. See, you’ll figure out how to embrace life. How to truly accept it as it comes.”

The Strength In Our Scars is a great read for anyone who has gone through a difficult time in their lives. It talks about how to deal with it and how to see the brighter side of life. Listen—I know what it is like to have a heart that does not know how to stop burning, to have hands that want to give until they have nothing left. I know what it feels like to have firewood for fingers, what it feels like to want to touch every cold soul you see, what it feels like to want to reignite every bone in a body. I know what it feels like to be misunderstood within this—to be loved and unloved because of your heat; but you cannot give up on yourself, you cannot ignore all that surges within you. If the world does not understand the way you burn, do not hide yourself away. Instead, set it on fire. Show them what you can do with all of that hope inside of you.” Furthermore, our scars carry with them a sense of uniqueness and individuality. No two scars are exactly alike because no two journeys through life are identical. Our scars make us who we are; they distinguish us from others and highlight our personal experiences. Everyday people also share profound insights about their scars. One person stated, “My scar reminds me daily that I am stronger than whatever tried to break me.” This simple yet empowering quote resonates with many individuals who have faced adversity but refuse to let it define them. Trust me when I say that one day it’s going to hit you — that you woke up happy, that you’re smiling for no reason, that your hands aren’t shaking anymore. One day, you’re going to remember what it was like to be you a year ago, or three years ago, or even a week ago, and you’re going to be so glad that you fought. You’re going to be so glad that you kept going.”One day you will meet someone who will break down your walls and stare into the depths of you. One day they will see the bruises on your soul, will hear about all of the terrible things you have done, and you will expect them to leave, but they won’t. They won’t. One day, you will meet someone who looks into the damage, who sees the wounds, the dark, and they will love you anyways. They will love you.” Scars tell stories. They are physical reminders of the trials and tribulations we have endured, both physically and emotionally. Each scar carries a significance that is unique to the individual who bears it.