Whenever you notice a “what if” thought, eat one of those Tic Tacs. This is how you will count your worries. After a week, you’ll be much better at noticing these thoughts, and start observing them passively. Now, though this technique can help, it isn’t always effective or practical, particularly when the worry is entrenched in your daily life. In the final section, you’ll learn three specific exercises you can do every day to reduce the power that worry has over you. Three simple exercises for developing a resistance to worry

The goal? You’ll no longer be in the bad habit of automatically ignoring or distracting yourself from your worries. When you’re not distracted, you can catch the “what if’s” and start seeing them for the game of “let’s pretend” that they really are. Take the time to humor your worries How about you’re driving along and you realize you accidentally ran a red light? A car accident definitely could happen at this stage, but you’re still not thinking “What if I have a car accident?” Your instincts are taking over, and you’re trying to stop that accident happening. The chain reaction continues. What if I lose my job? I’ve got that dentist appointment coming up, I can’t afford to lose my job now.This book started out slow. I saw myself in many of the examples the author gave of his past clients and their worries. The first half just didn't do it for me. While some of the strategies he listed may help others, I found most of what he was suggesting quite boring, having almost DNF'ed the book. But I pushed through and I was glad I did. By the time I read through the second half I had highlighted and noted so many passages I might as well have just made a huge note of the whole book. I couldn't put it down because everything he said described me so well and all of the suggestions he gave to counter the anxious thoughts and chronic worries I could see myself doing. Once I had finished I felt relieved that someone finally understood some of the toxic thought processes I was trapped in. The book is well-researched and provides numerous examples and case studies to illustrate the concepts discussed. Anxiety is a powerful force. It makes us question ourselves and our decisions, causes us to worry about the future, and fills our days with dread and emotional turbulence. Based in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), this audiobook is designed to help you break the cycle of worry.

Types of Worry: Carbonell identifies two types of worry: “prophesying” and “torturing.” Prophesying worry involves predicting negative outcomes, while torturing worry involves dwelling on the potential negative outcomes. The book provides practical strategies for dealing with both types of worry. Now, as a woman in my early 30's, I still find I worry about insignificant things. But I also have a lot of fear and anxiety about things that likely will never actually happen. Stand in front of a mirror, and read the worry out loud, 25 times. Eat one of the Tic Tacs each time, to make your counting conscious and deliberate.What does the “what if” clause actually tell you? Say you’re thinking: “What if I’m in a car accident?” That’s not something you think at the moment that an accident happens. There’s no “what if” about it – it’s happening. Try this experiment. Write out one of your worries, in its most detailed, terrifying form. Keep it at around 25 words. Set aside 25 of those Tic Tacs that you bought to count your worries.

problem, and failing, your natural instinct to “try harder” will make things worse. This can frustrate If the thought of calling out your worries fills you with, well… worry, keep in mind that we’ve already established that ignoring them doesn’t work. Judy Lake Chessa, LMSW, coordinator at the Anxiety and Phobia Treatment Center at White Plains Hospital in White Plains, NY The examples were short but on point and they served the purpose of each chapter, and I really like that because I don't see the point of a book (like self help books) which mostly contains stories and experiences of other persons. It made me understand why CBT hasn’t worked for me, and it gave me ideas for other schools of therapy that could work better for my kind of thoughts and anxious mind.

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Some readers may find the book’s focus on cognitive-behavioral therapy to be too narrow, as other therapeutic approaches may also be effective in managing worry and anxiety. I can say that after reading this book, I have taken away a more insightful approach to my worry and why it happens, and I have started to use techniques that are helping me handle it so that it doesn't consume me. And also that I am having less of the same worrisome thoughts over and over. The Fear of Failure: The book explores how the fear of failure can triggers our brain’s worry center, leading to increased anxiety and stress. Carbonell offers strategies for reframing our thinking about failure and developing a growth mindset. Chronic worry redirects much of your time, attention, and energy to worry rather than life. It leads you to spend more and more time “in your head,” in your internal world, trying to get your thoughts arranged the way you think they should be, always struggling and fussing with worry rather than getting out into your external world and living, doing whatever it takes to be the good parent, good friend, good employee, good neighbor, or good whoever you always wanted to be. It leads you to invest your time and energy in worry, and struggles with worry, rather than in being the person you wanted to be and living the life you hoped for.

The Benefits of Seeking Support: The book highlights the benefits of seeking support from friends, family, and mental health professionals in managing worry and anxiety. Carbonell provides practical tips for finding and utilizing support systems. If you find yourself forgetting to breathe properly, use common signals from the world around you as reminders – a car horn or a phone notification, for example.If you’re like a large proportion of people, worry is a problem. You can’t stop it, you can’t control it, and no matter how many times you’re told to “just stop worrying,” it won’t go away. It’s a losing battle. What are your options here? You could try arguing, but that’s just giving him what he wants – and what you don’t want. Ignoring him just makes him try harder. Hitting him is tempting, but probably not the best idea. As you may guess, none of this works to improve your relationship with worry. You’re using gasoline to try to put out a fire – just like worry wants you to. It’s chronic worry that’s the problem. This is where the worry is constant, unavoidable and crippling. This is what you need to examine, and ultimately change. If this sounds like you, there are likely two possible relationships you have with your worry.