book because it has changed many things in me and I hope that this book and the author’s teachings will definitely bring great changes in your life too. I kept on telling myself that it was good to do good, but as time went by it started causing me quite a bit of stress. When i opened my heart and spoke honestly to an older friend who was in the same program, he gave me the following advice:

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Format penulisan buku kedua hasil tulisan Haemin Sunim ini nampak sama dengan buku pertamanya, yakni terbagi menjadi delapan sub-bab yang membahas kategori topik berbeda. Perbuatan yang akan kita lakukan pada orang lain, berawal dari perlakuan kita kepada diri sendiri. Jika kita memperlakukan diri kita dengan penuh belas kasih, empati, dan pengampunan, maka kita akan memperlakukan orang lain sedemikian rupa kita lakukan pada diri kita sendiri. If you want to excel in a relationship, the way to do so is very simple: Give more than you receive. The more we receive, we can’t help but feel grateful and like the person.Because I have experienced pain, I am able to embrace the pain of others. Because I have made mistakes, I am able to forgive others their mistakes. May my suffering become the seed of compassion” Memulihkan luka akibat cinta atau trauma dari pengalaman masa lalu akan sulit dilakukan jika melalui praktik spiritual saja. Melakukan aktivitas fisik seperti berenang, memanjat gunung, dan yoga yang diiringi dengan konseling psikologis dapat mendorong pemulihan menjadi lebih efektif dibandingkan hanya melakukan praktik spiritual saja. Jika kita melakukan meditasi langsung ketika luka psikologis belum sembuh, memori atas rasa sakit yang kita alami akan menjadi penghalang bagi kita untuk melangkah maju.” Even products labeled “limited edition” are made on a production line with hundreds that are exactly the same. But there is only one you in the world. Please cherish the unique individual that is you. A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Haemin Sunim writes beautifully and simply so these vital life lessons resonate easily and deeply.”— Miranda Hart, author of Is It Just Me?

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Kalau diingat-ingat warna covernya mirip ya dengan buku pertamanya, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down. Dominan warna biru yang sejuk mungkin memang jadi warnanya buku-buku bijak Haemin Sunim yang selalu membawa serta rasa damai saat membacanya. When you feel disappointed, and you see it’s because you expected something from someone else, consider why it is that you often rely on others to make you happy. Why is your self-reliance so low? Does it maybe relate to how you were brought up, or to a past trauma? Do you have a strong need for approval or attention from others? If you often feel disappointed in yourself, ask why you hold yourself to such a high standard. Are your expectations reasonable? When you understand yourself better, you might find it easier to deal with disappointment, and to accept and love yourself.” Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us. It’s okay that you have flaws. How could our lives be as clean and white as a blank sheet of paper? Life naturally takes its toll on our bodies, our minds, and our relationships. rather than choosing a life in which you do nothing for fear of making a mistake, choose a life that improves through failure and pain. And shout out loud to your struggling self, I love you so much” Upaya ini nyatanya tidak mudah. Banyak di antara kita masih belum benar-benar bisa menerima dan berharap, dunia yang indah sebelum korona ini segera kembali. Nyatanya, harapan indah itu tidak kunjung tiba, dan karena itu untuk sebagian dari kita, kebahagiaan itu terasa semakin menjauh.That is not to say that the human experience, life, isn’t hard. To experience life is also to experience suffering. The world we live in is rife with inequality and injustice. It is filled with greed and envy and unfairness. We study hard, and still don’t make the grade. We work hard and still don’t get ahead, or even come out even. Relationships get strained. Business doesn’t go as planned. Meskipun kita menemukan banyak hal yang tidak sempurna dalam dunia sekitar kita, kita tidak bisa untuk tidak mencintai. Oleh karena kita hidup. Hidup terlalu berharga untuk dihabiskan dengan penuh ejekan dan kebencian kepada apa yang tidak sempurna di mata kita, hal-hal yang tidak dapat kita pahami. Saya menyukai artwork-nya, meski beberapa gambar yang menampilkan sosok perempuan berbaju minim kurang begitu berkenan di hati saya, personally. Lisk Feng adalah seniman hebat yang karyanya sudah dikenal banyak orang sehingga gambar-gambar ilustrasinya tak heran sangat bagus dan punya makna. Second, if your depression is triggered by negative comments about you by people who dont know you very well, you should understand that thought it sounds like they’re talking about you, their words say more about their own negative psychological state than they do about you. Jika Anda suka dan merasa mendapatkan manfaat dari konten di blog Dipidiff.com, sekarang Anda bisa mendukung pengembangan blog ini dengan mendonasikan uang mulai dari seribu rupiah atau mempertimbangkan untuk mendukung rutin per bulannya. Terimakasih.

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Ada juga tulisan yang menempatkan kita sebagai pihak yang bersalah dan bukan selalu sebagai korban, misalnya, We want life to be as dazzling and painless as possible. Life, on the other hand, has a way of humbling us, and heartbreak is built into its agreement with the world. We’re young, until we’re not. We’re healthy, until we’re not. We’re with those we love, until we’re not. Life’s beauty is inseparable from its fragility.Seperti hukum yang berlaku dalam kehidupan, yakni perbuatan yang kita lakukan kepada orang lain dan dunia merupakan refleksi atau cerminan atas perbuatan yang kita lakukan kepada diri kita sendiri. What distresses us is less the circumstances we find ourselves in and more the energy we expend in resisting them. Once we actually do the work, we are often surprised that it was not as hard as we imagined it to be. But when we resist, we become preoccupied by an endless cycle of negative thoughts, and in turn feel harried and stressed. Haemin Sunim lahir di Korea Selatan pada tanggal 12 Desember 1973. Selain sebagai seorang penulis, Haemin Sunim merupakan seorang biksu Buddha yang mengajar meditasi Zen. If you hear a voice within you say ‘You cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”—VINCENT VAN GOGH